I paid my friend $250 to stay with my cat for 7 nights while I went away on vacation (also offered any food etc in the house) but asked that she not bring anyone over because 1. My cat is elderly and gets stressed when I’m gone/with strangers and 2. I live alone and am very particular about who I have in my house. I just looked at my camera to see if I could see my cat and I see a guy that I have met briefly only once that my friend is seeing in my house at 11pm meaning he is sleeping over…in my bed. I feel so gross and violated that this stranger is in my house and in my bed not only that but my poor cat must be so upset too. I’m blaming myself…maybe I should have reminded my friend again not to bring anyone but I was trying not to be overbearing (I can be anxious). I sent a text to my friend saying I didn’t want anyone over and please wash my sheets and don’t have any one over again. Am I asking too much? I feel so gross that he’s in my house. I’m so upset. I’m trying to be chill but I am so not okay with this. I can’t imagine my friend forgot I said not to bring anyone over but maybe she did?
Am I valid to be upset with my friend?
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