My MIL is a huge gossip its pretty widely known among all of my husbands family. She has a tendency to say things that will get her exactly what she wants. Well I am fortunate enough that I was able to move out of her and my FIL’s house before my baby is due. From everything I have been told by everyone she seems to not like me. Its been multiple of my in-laws who have directly told me this. In addition to a bunch of very snide comments she has directly made to me. Especially about things I am very passionate about. I loathe the drama I don’t even have contact with my own mother because of her own issues with emotional immaturity and a huge tendency to cross my boundaries.
Well I think MIL got upset that I made it more obvious I was not going to be interested in carrying out a relationship with her after I moved out. As I haven’t spoken to any of my in-laws and I don’t intend to. I had made it clear to my husband that after I moved out I wasn’t interested in participating in family events except for maybe once every 3 or so years (we will be living several states away) and that I would no longer be communicating with them. As he can handle his parents and I will handle mine. Well my husband had to call his mom today because she holds all of his high school documents hostage. While forcing him into a long 2.5 hour conversation on how I misunderstood everything and that she didnt mean to offend me. Honestly it feels more like a last ditch effort for her to try to guilt me into having a relationship with her because she wont get full control unless I let her in. And she is desperate about having access to her son and future grandchild.
My husband is now trying to get me to rethink unfollowing all of his family members…. because all of them participated in the gossip parade. And to rethink me going no contact with them as per our agreement to take care of our own parents. Am I wrong to still want them out? She never apologized to me directly. And I am just tired of the he said she said game and its easier to get rid of drama if you get rid of the source and cut off the information they have. I have no issues with my husband having a relationship with his family if he wants or even our daughter having a relationship with them as long as they can follow the rules we have set for our daughter.
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