I (f17) have been working part time for about half a year now and I usually just go to work, do my work, and go home.
The thing is almost everyone that works there are very social people and are friends with each other.
I like to keep to myself and mind my own business. Don’t get me wrong I still interact with my coworkers and I talk to them, kind of like coworker-friends, just not outside-of-work-friends.
Some of my coworkers have my contact, but we rarely talk.
My problem is that recently a coworker (M23) and I got a shift at the same time and I was talking to him like normal.
A couple days ago one of the older ladies joked around him “liking me” and I just went like “whaaat?” And idk what he said. Then later that day when I was about to clock out he asked for my number.
I said sure because we’re coworkers why not.
He texted me an hour later but I didn’t reply bc it was late. We talked a bit the next day and played some games.
This is whatever because that same day I also played with another coworker.
He asked if I wanted to play the next day (today) and I didn’t want to because I was gonna play with my brother (but just didn’t want to in general sorry) so I said I got stuff to do, he said ok and I left it at that.
But now he’s texted me again, idk what he wants,I’m guessing he wants to become better friends . Now I’m not saying he’s a creepy guy or anything. But I just don’t really want to be actual friend with my coworkers. Or talk to them much outside of work. Idk how to get out of it tho without being mean
Am I wrong to think like vthis?
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Unfortunately it’s pretty likely this guy wants to be more than friends. Just keep shutting him down.
Pretty creepy for a 23m to even be seeking friendship with a 17f, and it’s def more than that.
I swear I read the exact story a few days ago…
You need to shut him down. "Hey, mate, I’m happy to chat every now and then, for work, but I’m not really interested in a relationship outside of work."
Girl. Keep this creepy dude far away from you.
As awesome as you are – I can promise that 23 year old dudes trying to get at 17 year olds are losers.
He IS a creep.
Guys like this will often keep bothering you, victimize themself, say they’re “just being friendly”, try to manipulate you, etc.
Be strong. Trust your gut. Just keep being “busy” and if he keeps bothering you say “I’m not interested in being friends.”
Trust me – the sooner you learn to be candid and direct and not feel bad about hurting the feelings of predatory dudes, the better.
He’s 23, he’s too old to be asking a 17 year old out and that’s what he’s warming up to, so be prepared
He is creeping on a teenage. Ick. Major ick. You don’t have to do anything but be unavailable. He texts you. You don’t reply for 8-12 hours if at all. If he asks why tell him busy w my high school classes, don’t have much time for coworkers. Sorry not sorry.
Just do what I used to do. Say your parents are really strict and you’re not allowed to date.
You’re 17 and likely not used to saying No. Now is the time to start practicing saying No.
Tell the guy you aren’t interested. You don’t have to explain why. He may get upset and people at work will gossip because it’s already gone further than it should have.
Practice saying No Thank You! With no need to explain. It works for any situation.
Lie and say you have a boyfriend. Lie and say it’s someone online. Then refuse to elaborate if/when anyone tries to bring it up again.
People are naturally nosey. Some people are nosey and pushy. You have to be willing to push back.
In the future, don’t give out your number. Tell people “I don’t give out my number”.
If you ever need to be able to get in contact with coworkers, for work reasons, make a generic Facebook and use the messenger. Don’t have any friends or family linked to that generic facebook page. Have a scenic picture that doesn’t identify you. Don’t link it to your personal page.
When I get a new job, I block coworkers on social media. 😂 especially supervisors and managers. I also have all my social media’s set to private.
Give yourself permission to say no. Get comfortable with saying no thanks. Nah, I’m busy. Thanks anyway. Etc….
The next part will be not caring what people think about you enforcing your boundaries.