Me (28F) and my boyfriend (28M) have been together 6 years, we have lived together 5 of those years, we have a gorgeous home and doggie and are really happy together. I know every couple moves at their own pace and you can’t put timing on these things but I really want to be engaged (and I’ve seen the most beautiful ring). We’ve spoke about marriage previously and how neither of us would want a big wedding as we are very private and low key. I feel that he’s basing his timeline off my cousin who was with her partner 10 years before marriage. It’s hard at our age, 28 as everyone around us is getting engaged, married and having children. He has a very sensible head on him and always says that he wants to be financially stable before children so he can give them the best life possible – which I couldn’t agree with more.
I don’t know if I’m looking for reassurance that it will happen eventually or someone to just tell me to shut up. But I’m getting itchy feet and impatient 🙃😣😂
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TL;DR been together 6 years and not sure if me wanting an engagement is impatient or not
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he shouldnt be basing your relationship off of another one. the two of you are different than his cousin and whomever they married. I dont blame you for feeling impatient, he could at least propose so you know you are going in the right direction.
Is marriage more important than your relationship?
You’re not wrong for getting impatient. You just need to talk to him about this. I know it feels super unromantic to talk about, but it’s always better to get things out in the open. Try to understand better where he’s at, and let him know what you’re thinking.