I am not looking for sympathy. I want genuine questions.
My dad was medical conditions.
My mom suicide.
My youngest brother was cut short by a drunk driver.
My older brother medical conditions.
AMA: My dad passed away when I was 10, my mom when I was 25 and my brothers before I turned 30. I am all that remains of my family.
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I know you’re not after sympathy, but I am sorry for your losses. That’s terrible.
How do you cope? I don’t know if I’d be able to get out of bed each day
what does your support system look like now?
Did you go to therapy because of it? If so, has it helped? If not, why not, and would you ever consider it?
Do you believe in bad luck having so much bad stuff happened to you before the age of 30?
I’m sorry to hear about ur mons, my mom suicide when i was 19 n that messed me up so badly. I was a mommas boy tho and proud of it lol
Wats ur Christmas present haul look like?
Thanks for doing this AMA. Did you get to finish high school? Any post secondary education? What are you up to these days ie working or school? What does it feel like to be the only remaining family member?
usually, they give Age, Sex for these posts, but I’m curious now if I can figure out how you Identify. Which issue that is tied to these past events? Are you the most “Affected” by today?
Do you have any Uncles, Aunts (your Dad and Mom’s sisters/brothers) and how is your relationship with them?
How old are you now? Do you have a family of your own?
Is the medical condition(s) hereditary? If so are you affected?
What, on this day, do you think is the force driving you to accomplish whatever it is you want to do? So many people list “family” as the most important thing in their lives, so this made me wonder what life is like without it. I myself see my family once or twice a year, but it’s comforting to know they’re always there, even if I don’t talk with them much.
P.S. I am genuinely sorry for your loss. Your strength is an inspiration to us all, so thank you for taking the time to do this.
I am really glad you have a family of your own. Do you think you have a different perspective than most because of this? Does it benefit your family?
I’m so sorry. I hope therapy is helping you.
Hi honey, i know you are not looking for sympathy, but I am so sorry. Life wasn’t easy or kind to you.
Do you have your own family now? How are you coping with life in general?
Do you believe in God?
How did you manage the grief? It is absolutely devastating to lose even one close family member, I can’t imagine all of them so close together.
I hope you have a robust support system for when times do get tough though
Same. I lost all my immediate family before 40. I do intense grief therapy and EMDR. You aren’t alone.
How has losing so many people impacted the way you parent?
How has it impacted your feelings on death?
How do you plan on telling your kids about your family? I lost my parents to cancer and degenerative disease. I have pictures of them up and encourage them to ask about their grandparents. They never got to meet my mom and they have fuzzy memories of my dad.
What do you do on holidays?
Glad you have your own family now. You deserve a happy ever after.
Has this experience caused you to fear death?
Just here to say that I am the same way. My Mom passed in 2017, my Dad in spring of 2001. I am their only child. Both my Grandparents, all of my aunts, and the three cousins that remain, two of them hate me and I don’t speak to them, one lives down in Florida and I text with her, but yeah if my immediate family I am the only one. It sucks at times. So… Yeah I know how you feel.
What are some not so obvious trauma and wounds these experiences have left on you?
My Dads died 2 days apart when I was 15. It really changes everything about how you see the world. It made me value experiences over money or things.
I hope you have a supportive friend group or extended family
Do you heir something?
Does your story closely align with your identity, and would you say your hardships have helped you become who you are? You are bulletproof!
How has your perspective on life changed from all that?
I am sorry for your loss. I am the last of my family. Buried them all. All I have ever figured out is life isn’t fair.
Your very kind. I’m 62 now. It’s too late. I have a host of friends . I still work full time. And try and plan something when I’m not working.
How did you meet your partner?