Americans: Do you have any rules for ‘gray’ vs. ‘grey’?

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I’m an American and I use both spellings, and not exactly interchangeably.

For inanimate objects, I tend to use ‘gray’. For instance, “My house is gray.”

For animate objects, or features belonging to an animate object, I tend to use ‘grey’. For instance, “His brown hair was streaked with grey.”

Anyone else?

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  2. heyuhitsyaboi Avatar

    I use “gray” for the color and “grey” for basically anything else

  3. TeuthidTheSquid Avatar

    Americans generally use “gray” for everything except Earl Grey tea, and even that they get wrong much of the time.

  4. Telrom_1 Avatar

    What ever I’m in the mood for. I tend to use ‘gray’ for mood description, ambiguous social spaces and mud for some reason.

    Grey is almost exclusively used for color descriptions.

    Idk if this is correct or even makes sense?

  5. US_Dept_Of_Snark Avatar

    Grey usually. Based on nothing. 

  6. WjorgonFriskk Avatar

    I only use Grey because it looks nicer than Gray. Dumb reason but true.

  7. Snoo52682 Avatar

    I can’t defend this logically but to me they’re different shades. “Gray” is flat and boring. “Grey” has some nuances. Millennial interiors are gray. Cats are grey.

  8. Skinny-on-the-Inside Avatar

    Interchangeable. So for me it’s a vibe based thing, which cannot and should not be explained.

  9. AGPym Avatar

    American = gray
    English = grey

  10. curadeio Avatar

    In America, “gray” is typically for the color while “grey” refers to the name

  11. PineappleFit317 Avatar

    I spell it “grey”. I only use “Gray” if it’s a name.

  12. SlammingMomma Avatar

    It depends on the mood I’m in. I prefer grey when I’m feeling more poised. Gray is when I’m writing more relaxed.

  13. SymphonicStorm Avatar

    As long as it’s consistent within the exact text that I’m currently writing.

  14. InstructionFinal5190 Avatar

    I’ve always been under the assumption that in (A)merica it’s gr(a)y and in (E)ngland it’s gr(e)y. Not because of that reason, but it’s made it easier for me to remember.

  15. Rough-Instruction-29 Avatar

    I didn’t even know grey was an option

  16. One-Diver-2902 Avatar

    I live in Portland, Oregon and I always write “grey” and always have since I was a kid. It just seems like a more interesting way to spell it for me. Call it stylistic.

  17. Double_Dot_710 Avatar

    i use both. Also spell it theatre. I don’t use theater often

  18. Ahjumawi Avatar

    I use “grey” for everything except people whose last name is Gray.

  19. LadySandry88 Avatar

    I just like the spelling of ‘grey’, so I use it exclusively unless I’m quoting someone else or it’s used as a proper noun, like in a name.

  20. sneerfuldawn Avatar

    I grew up using grey and gray doesn’t look right. My predictive text wants me to use gray, though, so if I’m in my phone that’s what I end up using.

  21. Hollow-Official Avatar

    My spellings are interchangeable, but the actual rule is gray for Americans and grey for Brits.

  22. Gunrock808 Avatar

    It’s a gray area.

  23. bunkumsmorsel Avatar

    I think in the U.S., both spellings are considered acceptable, but gray is definitely the more standard one. That said, I use grey all the time because it just looks better to me. I also fantasize about moving to London on the daily, so your mileage may vary.

  24. Thinkingard Avatar

    Gray for color. Grey for alien.

  25. tom21g Avatar

    Why are there two spellings for this anyway?

  26. Sportslover43 Avatar

    Jesus I never know. I just alternate so I’m right at least sometimes.

  27. HoneyStripes Avatar

    American here, who tf spells grey like gray?????

    Edit : I just mean I’ve never seen it spelled that way here in america so I didn’t know that americans were known for spelling it that way

  28. Big-Beat-1443 Avatar

    American here, I spell it “grey” as a subtle shoutout to my roots

  29. Imverystupidgenx Avatar

    Gray for color, I’ve been reading Grey as a name forever so that’s my dividing line.

  30. brak-0666 Avatar

    I don’t know if it’s a rule, but for me, gray is a color and Grey is a surname.

  31. tech_b90 Avatar

    I am an American. I use grey because the “e” is right next to the “r” on the keyboard. Less effort and quicker.

  32. lazypsyco Avatar

    I am often confused as to which one to use… So I just pick one.

  33. Peterbiltpiper Avatar

    I’ve used grey for “ grey area “ in writing. I’m so confused 😮gifgifgif

  34. Pittypatkittycat Avatar

    I use both interchangeably. What most likely influences the choice is if I’ve been reading a British or American author.

  35. CheeseSweats Avatar

    I only use Grey.

  36. Frostsorrow Avatar

    GrAy is America

    GrEy is English

  37. TypicalPDXhipster Avatar

    You’d think this would be a pretty black and white situation…

  38. Cultural-Lobster-227 Avatar

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  39. Aware_Eagle6084 Avatar

    I just like the spelling of GRAY. (American)

  40. randousername8675309 Avatar

    Hear me out….

    greigh

    I’m kidding, but I like it so much better than the other two 😅

    I mostly use grey, but I probably use gray too.

  41. Strange-Outcome491 Avatar

    I use grey when I feel fancy. It’s a pretty looking word.

  42. IncubusIncarnat Avatar

    Usually depends on if you’re talking about a Person or the Color. I spell it ‘Grey’ most of the time unless it’s a name though.

    It’s pedantic in most situations and look no further than the replies for why that is the case.

  43. jnthnschrdr11 Avatar

    Whichever one my brain chooses at the time, genuinely I have no clue which one is “correct” and it tends to be 50/50 which one I use.

  44. PlowUnited Avatar

    I just use “grey”

  45. StrengthMedium Avatar

    When describing English food, it’s “grey.”

  46. Regular-Sandwich-550 Avatar

    i use em interchangeably depending on how i feel that day. vibes based.

  47. GulfofMaineLobsters Avatar

    I use both, interchangeably and with little to no rhyme or reason.

  48. hoard_of_frogs Avatar

    Vibes and aesthetics. Sometimes I type it out one way and go “oh yah no that doesn’t look right” and switch it.

  49. love2ring Avatar

    I thought gray is gray & grey is silvery.

  50. MissFabulina Avatar

    I am an American, but grey looks more “right” to me – so unless Gray is someone’s name – I use grey.

  51. VisibleSea4533 Avatar

    Always “grey” for me…

  52. spacefaceclosetomine Avatar

    I just prefer the English spelling, so “grey”. I also prefer “creme” to “cream” and use it instead.

  53. AtheneSchmidt Avatar

    Gray seems friendlier to me, so I use it for happy stuff. Grey seems more more serious.

    For example:

    My dad had started going gray.

    I noticed that they had remodeled the McDonald’s, and it is now that depressing Millennial grey they are painting all the things that were bright, fun colors when I was a kid.

  54. DragonborReborn Avatar

    It looks wrong with an “a”.

    -An American

  55. Rob_LeMatic Avatar

    I use the English spelling because I think grey looks cooler than gray.

  56. Old_gal4444 Avatar

    I always use grey. No idea why.

  57. cussbunny Avatar

    American and I use grey exclusively for no reason other than I like it better.

  58. PuzzleheadedLemon353 Avatar

    I spell it grey…it just looks nicer to me wordwise.

  59. egelantier Avatar

    Interesting distinction.

    I’ve used grey my whole life, just because I prefer how it looks, and my (US) second grade teacher said we could use either. 

    I think it’s the only “British” spelling I use; yall can keep yer uppity -ise and -our!

  60. doodle-noodle_1 Avatar

    for me the distinction is that ‘gray’ is when the color is darker/has more black in it, and ‘grey’ is when the color is lighter/has more white in it 🤷🏽

  61. CloudInevitable293 Avatar

    I pause each time the word comes up choose not to Google it and then pick whichever one I feel like

  62. DTL04 Avatar

    I honestly don’t know. Depends on my mood.

  63. TolkienQueerFriend Avatar

    I use grey because gray just looks and feels wrong.

  64. Apathetic-Asshole Avatar

    I switch back and forth with 0 rhyme nor reason

  65. yunnybun Avatar

    American here. I was taught grey was the British form of our gray.

  66. MerbleTheGnome Avatar

    Gray for just about everything except when describing the weather as ‘grey and gloomy’.

  67. Ok-Description-4640 Avatar

    I like “grey” because it seems classier somehow.

  68. Xeeven_ Avatar

    In my opinion: Gray is a color. Grey is a name.

  69. wehadthebabyitsaboy Avatar

    I use grey, but I’m told I’m wrong. lol

    Edit: am American

  70. Aggravating_Owl_4812 Avatar

    In my head, I’ve always used the mnemonic “A America E England.” No idea if it’s accurate but no one’s ever gotten upset about my spelling of the word

    What makes things a little trickier is in the US both are common as a last name

  71. Tribblehappy Avatar

    As a Canadian, it amused me that you’d choose when to use the English spelling vs your own. Why wouldn’t you use your spelling?

  72. mikeybones25 Avatar

    Gray squirrel in the US.

  73. Smolshy Avatar

    American (California mostly) and have always spelled it grey. I’ve only ever spelled Gray for someone’s last name. I didn’t realize there was a regional difference (just always heard there were two ways to spell it) until I was an adult and I never got marked down for it in school.

  74. ConsciousVegetable99 Avatar

    Canadian = grey
    = colour.
    Lol

  75. StragglingShadow Avatar

    I prefer gray but will, without pattern or rhyme, change the spelling to grey.

  76. aWeegieUpNorth Avatar

    Usually Gray is a name, grey is the colour. Unless you’re an Earl apparently.

  77. KaralDaskin Avatar

    If I’m being judged on my spelling I use gray. If I’m feeling whimsical I use grey. The rest of the time is up for grabs. I like grey better.

  78. Muffina925 Avatar

    As I understand it, “gray” is the U.S. spelling and “grey” is the U.K. way. Personally, I like the look/spelling of grey over gray, so i typically just use grey.

  79. Mondschatten78 Avatar

    No, I use them interchangeably. If I’m writing something and use either spelling, I do try to stick to that spelling throughout though.

  80. neronga Avatar

    I use grey almost every time but I think both are acceptable. From the west coast usa

  81. Ok_Dog_4059 Avatar

    I pretty much use which ever one depending on the day. I never even realized I was using 2 different spellings until recently. Spelling is a very weak point for me so grey vs gray is completely random for me.

  82. ThelatestRedditAct Avatar

    American, and I’ve only ever used Grey. Gray looks … weird.

  83. Simply_Epic Avatar

    Always “grey” because “e” is a cooler letter than “a” imo.

  84. OutAndDown27 Avatar

    grAy in America, grEy in England

  85. pm_ur_duck_pics Avatar

    A for America – grAy. E for England – grEy.

  86. nuiwek31 Avatar

    I’m american. I also speak for all Americans. I don’t give a shit. Have a nice day

  87. sugarplum98 Avatar

    No rules. Just whatever my stoned self chooses.

  88. CommonAudience2454 Avatar

    I use “grey” because it’s more aesthetically pleasing to me.

  89. BIRD_OF_GLORY Avatar

    I don’t know why but I always think “gray” is a lighter shade than “grey”

  90. Eneicia Avatar

    A is American English.
    E is English
    and Eh is Canadian 😛

  91. TURBOSCUDDY Avatar

    Grey is someone’s last name while the color name is gray. I grew up in Texas and it’s always been this way.

  92. lifes_nether_regions Avatar

    Whatever the Crayola Crayons say is the correct answer.

  93. thekidinthegrey Avatar

    Grey, because it feels more like how implications of the word do

  94. Ellavemia Avatar

    I use grey for everything because gray just seems incorrect.

  95. Gheauxst Avatar

    I always thought “Gray” was a name and “Grey” was a color. Then I became an adult and saw people use them interchangeably.

    Now I am confused.

  96. Western_Mud8694 Avatar

    This is a gray topic

  97. PheonixRising_2071 Avatar

    I use grey for everything. I accept gray as valid when I see it. But I don’t use it.

  98. Playful_Fan4035 Avatar

    To me, “grey” is more of a solemn and somber color, while “gray” is more happy like a child’s crayon.

  99. stabbingrabbit Avatar

    It’s all screwed up, we have English, Spanish, French, Native American, Dutch, and German words and they are spelled and pronounced different. Then there is the slang and regional differences. American English is messed up

  100. Wonderful_Bottle_852 Avatar

    Washington State…It’s always grey here…never used the “gray” spelling it looks weird.

  101. ClockWorkWinds Avatar

    I like to use grey because of the aesthetic lol. Also I guess I have some vague mental association of the letter A with the color red, so it feels less at home in the word ‘grey’.

    Half the novels I loved reading as a kid must have been European, because I saw both spellings very frequently. They’re basically interchangeable to me.

  102. Kosmopolite Avatar

    Gray is American English. Grey is British English.

  103. 2percentorless Avatar

    Did anyone else read the comments and say “gray…grey” so many times that the word doesn’t even sound real anymore? lol

  104. Jaymac720 Avatar

    I actually do it pretty similarly. I also use grey for abstract concepts like mood

  105. Pure_Wrongdoer_4714 Avatar

    I usually use grey but I think most Americans use gray. Idk why I use grey mostly.

  106. Effective-Gift6223 Avatar

    I’m in the US, I prefer grey. Gray makes me think of clay, but grey doesn’t.

  107. Diagonaldog Avatar

    It’s a bit of a græy area

  108. Imaginary-Round2422 Avatar

    My rule: I like “grey” better, so that’s all I use unless referring to a proper name, like NFL coach Jerry Gray.

  109. pinata1138 Avatar

    I always spell it gray.

  110. Lady-Kat1969 Avatar

    I use whichever I happen to write in the moment. And then autocorrect changes it to the opposite.

  111. lone_wolf1580 Avatar

    No. I switch between the two.

  112. roirraWedorehT Avatar

    No rules, but I tend to use gray for everything.

  113. Artz-RbB Avatar

    I use “gray” for everything unless it’s someone’s name & it’s specifically spelled “Grey”

  114. Valirys-Reinhald Avatar

    Gray is the americanized spelling, grey is the British spelling. That’s all there is to it.

    Same with the various U’s British insist on putting between every O and R.

  115. zephyr897 Avatar

    A book I reference for color identification in soils uses gray as such I don’t wanna risk it actually having a difference lol.

  116. Rubix_Official63940 Avatar

    Personally, I use gray for a darker shade and grey for a lighter shade

  117. Traditional-Job-411 Avatar

    Gray is grey with a capital

  118. Randinator9 Avatar

    Gray is a name, Grey is the color

  119. BoozeAndTheBlues Avatar

    My hair is grey.

    My mood is gray.

  120. peter303_ Avatar

    Grey is a little redder to me; gray a little more bluer

  121. chunkus_grumpus Avatar

    I mix it up to keep em guessing

  122. Expensive-Song-2895 Avatar

    i use “grey” all the time because i saw it as a kid and thought it was the prettier spelling 🤣

  123. oh___my___ Avatar

    I think grey looks better. I never use that other one.

  124. Pappyjang Avatar

    I always thought of it as gray is the color and grey would be someone’s last name.

  125. RainbowPiggyPop Avatar

    I am an American and I spell it “grey” regardless of what I am describing.

  126. pamcakevictim Avatar

    My solid rule to myself is, American spelling =grAy. European spelling grEy

  127. ChumpChainge Avatar

    I never use gray. Just never felt like the right spelling.

  128. 2FistsInMyBHole Avatar

    I think I use gray for literal uses of the color, and grey for more figurative uses.

  129. MrWindblade Avatar

    Gray is always for US audiences and grey if it’s going out internationally.

  130. RawAsparagus Avatar

    Gray is a color.
    Grey is a colour.

  131. Okatbestmemes Avatar

    I’m in Canada. I always use grey.

  132. DryFoundation2323 Avatar

    I mostly use gray because it’s the more commonly used American spelling. Grey is more common in British English.

  133. shadowmib Avatar

    Despite that the dictionary says, to me the color is “grey”.

  134. cryptidshakes Avatar

    I’ve always liked grey better, so I use it. Probably because of my neopets addiction as a child honestly.

  135. rosshole00 Avatar

    One is a name and one is a color.

  136. BauserDominates Avatar

    I much prefer how “grey” looks, so i use that like 99% of the time.

    The other 1% if for when someone else has already used “gray” and I will just follow suit in that case.

  137. dreadfulbadg50 Avatar

    Always grey never gray

  138. Alarming_Bar7107 Avatar

    I just love it with the A, for no reason

  139. notsurewhereireddit Avatar

    I think the spelling “grey” somehow looks like it sounds more like the color actually appears to me. “Gray” doesn’t have the same…class?

  140. Randygilesforpres2 Avatar

    I always use grey these days. I feel like I’m too old to care lol

  141. Silly-Resist8306 Avatar

    My rule: gray is a color; grey is a colour.

  142. jagger129 Avatar

    I use both interchangeably.

    But I read once that “gray” is American (A) and “grey” is English (E)

  143. axolotl_is_angry Avatar

    As an artist (and non American lmao) I use gray for warm tones and grey for cool, can’t tell you why

  144. Procyon4 Avatar

    I use both and usually don’t realize or think about why I used a particular one.

  145. NickelDicklePickle Avatar

    I do have a personal rule about it, at least when using the word to describe color values. Gray is for values that are lighter, and grey for values that are darker. Grays are closer to white than black, and greys are closer to black than white. For me, it is just a simple mental organizational thing.

    I’ve been a professional digital artist for more than 30 years, working alongside and supervising other artists the whole way, and I don’t think anybody has ever picked up on that particular eccentricity of mine.

  146. 4legsandatail Avatar

    Nephew is Grayling……or Greyling? For the life of.me i will never remember how it is spelled!🤷🏼‍♀️

  147. LiveArrival4974 Avatar

    They both mean the same, just one is American and one is British. It’s not like blond and blonde

  148. h8mayo Avatar

    I pretty much exclusively use grey.

  149. Creepy_Push8629 Avatar

    That’s just you. They are both accepted spellings.

  150. Cebolla Avatar

    It doesn’t look like a word anymore but I just use ‘grey’

  151. QuietDustt Avatar

    I’m American and a full-time editor and I always use “gray” when writing/editing something that will primarily be read by Americans because that’s the traditional American spelling.

    I use “grey” when I’m editing something that will be read by British or European people (my company publishes all over), or if it’s a proper noun.

  152. forogtten_taco Avatar

    I was told. In America it’s spelt grAy in Europe it’s grEy

  153. Purple_Elderberry_20 Avatar

    Nope, interchangeable depending on which spelling my brain comes up with first, no difference in pronunciation.

  154. plainskeptic2023 Avatar

    I was taught:

    • British use grey.

    • Americans use gray.

    Google grey vs gray.

  155. Pure_water_87 Avatar

    I use them interchangeably, but tend to prefer grey. I don’t mind how people use them.

  156. DichotomyJones Avatar

    I use grey when the thing I am describing is beautiful or moving in some emotional way, and gray when it is not. I just realized this. Grey, to me, is mist, kittens, oceans, clouds, pewter and so on — gray is gravel, watertanks, Toyotas and cutlery

  157. zombie-goblin-boy Avatar

    Unless it’s being used as someone’s name, it really doesn’t matter how you spell it.

  158. Neon_Gal Avatar

    I was taught that its grAy in America and grEy in Europe and since I’m American, I pretty much exclusively use gray

  159. hardbittercandy Avatar

    i use “grey” because it looks better to me

  160. Dashie_Loko42069 Avatar

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  161. Loisgrand6 Avatar

    Either/or for me

  162. daisychain0606 Avatar

    I heard “Gray” is A for America and “Grey” is E for England.

  163. KAWAWOOKIE Avatar

    It’s gray unless you’re limey or were invaded by limeys and prefer their grey