Things didn’t work out between my wife and me. Happens. This is also due in part to my MIL and her highly toxic behavior – no small part in fact – but at the same time it wasn’t 100% the issue and that’s another story for another time anyway.
So my soon-to-be-ex decided to full-on keep my kid away from me in February, terminating an informal temporary agreement we had. I was almost completely unable to see her over that time, resorting to having lunch with her at school a few times just to see her.
Eventually we had a custody hearing, where I asked for 50-50 and she argued for full custody. A week and a half later the judge ruled in my favor (noting that, “this does not appear to be a close case”). Neither my soon-to-be-ex nor her mother took it well.
So my soon-to-be-ex-mother-in-law (STBXMIL?) decided to text me, which surprised me because I thought I had her blocked. She wrote,
“If you yell at her or make her feel bad I am watching.
“You think you’re capable of caring for (my kid)? After all the abuse and making her cry that you’ve dished out?”
Keep in mind that I’m not abusive in any way, shape, or form.
Already being sick of her, I responded with, “Fuck you and fuck you forever, you evil fucking cunt.”
It may have been the single most cathartic thing I have ever said.
I don’t use the C-word lightly and had held myself back from saying it to her before, but given the situation, I no longer felt the need to hold back.
She didn’t like it, noting that if I harm my kid she’ll have the police come after me, adding, “You know what you are.”
Indeed I do, and I let her know:
“I do know what I am: a good person who just wants to be a daddy to his little girl.
“Also, I hope that the next time I see you is at your funeral (and I pray that’s soon) so I can spit on your corpse and laugh.
“And with that I’m blocking you.”
Which I did.
She then emailed me a few times because she can’t leave well enough alone. At one point she told me that if I called her a cunt again she’d tell her lawyer (to which I replied, “Cunt”).
And then I blocked her on there as well. The return to radio silence from her is glorious. She’s mentally ill, which my then-wife always excused due to their sick codependent relationship. That said, mental illness in this case isn’t an excuse. She’s just a terrible person.
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