If your partner doesn’t dislike pets, but isn’t passionate about them either, how would/do you handle that? What are some ways you can see that being a good thing, or a problem? Is that part about them a deal breaker for you?
Animal lovers, how would you handle your partner being just *neutral* about pets?
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I wouldn’t give a shit to be honest.
My wife loves cats and I could take them or leave them. We agreed to get a cat if she took care of it. It’s never caused us any problems.
I’d be neutral about it.
For real.
Do you want the person or the pet, brother?
My pet, my problem. As long as they don’t mistreat my pet, we’re good.
Not everyone has to share the same passions. I don’t want pets because I don’t want to clean up after them, but I am willing to have them in my house as long as I don’t have to clean shit up.
It’s worse when they’re really into a kind of pet I’m not. “No we can’t have a cat because I want 20 snakes.”
I’d always take a great relationship over pets. However, neutral means she’s not averse as well, so helloooo cat.
I’d only care that they’re willing to discuss reasonable expectations of how my pet factors into my life/our lives, if they’re going to treat the pet humanely and respectfully, and that they need to be willing to do whatever care I would normally do if for some reason I really can’t (due to being out of town, working late, etc).
There’s a big difference between an animal lover and someone that uses animals as a coping mechanism due to past trauma. Not in a misogynistic way, I’ve never met one woman that just loved animals because she loves them for being cute. It’s always been because it helps her cope with other things and they can’t understand why others don’t “love” them like they do. So, to the question, i wouldn’t care if my partner was neutral about animals.
Kindness is a deal breaker for me, and you can’t be kind if you aren’t passionate about animals