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Mil keeps calling herself mama to my 1.5 yr old. Today she addressed herself as “mama nana”

Partner nipped it in the bud and she said “that’s what she calls me, and she calls grandpa dada”

She lies and it drives me crazy! It’s very triggering because she keeps doing it. I just need to vent, thanks

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  1. botinlaw Avatar

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  2. Illustrious-Mix-4491 Avatar

    Next time she does it say she will be called “nana they never see”. If it continues, follow through with a time out.

  3. Ok_Mix6856 Avatar

    Omg what gives these women the audacity!?! My MIL calls herself gram gram and it drives me insane. I hate all the dumb grandma nicknames tho and idk why. Just something that makes me cringe for no real reason haha. Nana or grandma is just fine. Don’t need to bedazzle it lol

  4. mama2babas Avatar

    See her less. 

    I’m a petty Betty and though we’re NC with MIL, I’ve gone vlc with SIL and am teaching my LO to call her aunt “real name” instead of the atrocious name she wants to be referred to as. 

  5. Original_Rent7677 Avatar

    Teach your child to call her by her first name. 

  6. unchillpali Avatar

    My mil gave herself the name “Meema” for my baby to call her when he starts talking- which will probably never happen bc we are NC now. 🤣

  7. Strict_Bar_4915 Avatar

    MAMA NANA?!

    I fucking cannot.

  8. Foreign-Fact-1262 Avatar

    Absolutely not!!! Choose a grandma name she won’t like and make sure your child calls her that forever!!! lol. When my oldest was a toddler he started calling my grandma mommy also. She was my only babysitter ever and we spent a lot of time with her. She immediately corrected him each and every time and told him “I’m not mommy, I’m grandma” he was little and just learning to talk and hearing “not mommy” he started calling her “Nonie”. She is now Nonie to all of her many great grandchildren and I love that her and my son created it together but it was only because she respected me enough as a mom to stop him when he did start to call her mommy. Even if your child was really saying that it’s just because he is used to calling you and his daddy those names on the daily. They should be helping teach your child the grandparent names that have been chosen, but absolutely not encouraging small children to call anyone mama or dada if they aren’t the mom and dad of the child.

  9. Fuzzy-Mushroom-1933 Avatar

    “No she doesn’t call you that but if you continue to call yourself that we will have to limit visits to avoid confusion”

    Refer to her as “grandma last name” every time in front of your child.

  10. CattyPantsDelia Avatar

    Next time she does it end the visit immediately and say you’re in a time out until you learn your place is grandma and not mama. 

  11. boundaries4546 Avatar

    Next time she does it pack up and leave or kick them out. She will keep doing it unless there’s consequences.

  12. TwinzNDogs Avatar

    She must be related to mine. She wanted Mommom. I’m like no that’s me. She’s Nana and she hates it.

  13. Virtual-Exam-1365 Avatar

    She probably reads/watches Alex Cross. His Mom lives with him & his children after their mother dies. They call her Nanamama.

    My dil died when my granddaughters were 7mnths & 2. They & my son moved in with us. They call me Nana, but, occasionally, the baby now 4 yr old calls me mama. I am her mother figure. But, she is corrected & we talk about her mama all the time.

    Your mil needs to stay in her lane. She is not her mama & it is a slap in your face to even remotely think she deserves that title.

  14. Spirited_Heron_9049 Avatar

    My niece’s step-monster tried to force them to call her “super step-mom”. I suggested them giving everyone a fun name (I because Fabulous Auntie Spirited Heron). The step mother because “Super Step Monster”. All of their friends call the “adults” by whatever name nieces use, sooooooo…… the step mother always hated when their friends were over to visit.

  15. Karrie118 Avatar

    Soon you can call her “Grandmother-we-never-see”

  16. chesterworks Avatar

    My MIL constantly slips when talking to/about my daughter, calling herself “Mom” and my SFIL “Dad.”

    I don’t get mad really because it’s not malicious — it just reveals how she still sees herself as the center of the world and in “control” of a family unit that has long moved passed her.

    Ironically, she cannot for the life of her settle on nicknames for herself or her husband — they kind of switching between two when they’re not having their brain farts — and consequently they don’t have strong grandparent “brands” and my kid doesn’t always know how to refer to her. Just dumb stuff.

  17. Rain12Bow Avatar

    Great work by your partner!

    Sounds like she’s earned herself the moniker “Old Nana Firstname”