My husband and I are taking a trip next month just the two of us. We have 2 under 2 so this will be the first time we’ll get REAL alone time in almost two years.
We’ve already arranged for my parents to watch our two LO’s. I know that I don’t need to explain why I trust my parents over my in-laws, but to list a few reasons… my parents actually listen to our rules/boundaries, they respect and love our ENTIRE family, they’ve baby-proofed their house, and most of all I’ve spent weeks at a time staying at my parents home while DH has been away for training. My toddler is VERY attached to them and my mother/sister are the only other people that my baby will let hold her without screaming bloody murder.
My MIL has never even been alone with either of my kids, but not for lack of trying. She’s actually only visited three times (mainly due to distance and us generally not inviting them) so my kids really have no clue who MIL is.
I know MIL assumes I’m taking the kids along (SIL uploaded an Instagram story and you could hear MIL talking about it on the phone in the background lol). I know my husband isn’t going to go out of his way to tell MIL that my parents are watching the kids. I know WHEN MIL finds out it will cause some kind of disturbance due to previous instances of MIL and FIL showing obvious jealousy over my parents’ closeness with our children.
I’m concerned about a few potential outcomes based on MIL’s previous behavior… 1) she tries to insert herself somehow by either trying to get in contact with my parents or trying to literally visit my parents home 12 hours away.. or 2) she throws a fit because I’ve spent essentially the entire spring season at my parents home with my kids or 3) she assumes this means she is entitled to alone time with my kids going forward- a boundary I have already set with DH because as I told him, I shouldn’t be expected to leave my children with someone who is liable to try to poison them against me.
Not even sure what I’m looking for by posting, I’m just stressed about it and my next therapy appointment isn’t for two weeks lol.
ETA: i don’t anticipate any of the backlash being directed at me. I don’t speak to MIL more than a few times a year, it’s my husband that has to deal with her.
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