I see all the time people talking about how avoidants are such evil people and don’t deserve to be in relationships. Reality is both attachment styles are bad and both can harm their partner. I’m honestly tired of people acting like avoidant is bad but anxious is perfectly fine.
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If one is called “secure” it’s safe to assume the others aren’t
At least I genuinely care about the people I love and I don’t use them to feed my ego until there’s a problem and I suddenly decide to disappear
well, anyone calling avoidant people “evil” doesn’t really understand how attachment styles form and function.
Neither is healthy. I think people have an easier time building relationships with anxious attachment styles because there’s usually more communication, but you’re right when you say both can harm a partner
Thanks for reminding us. I guess I’m never asking out Megan from accounts receivable.
I was Anxious attachment, got therapy and have been in it since 2019 and I’m doing a lot better. My ex though, who is Avoidant and a Narcissist is an evil person. Man tried to take my life. He’s the only avoidant I’ve met in my life. That boy is evil. And acts like he’s a saint and a doll. So I do agree both are bad, but I have trauma and horrible PTSD bc of that man. And yes I am still in therapy and I will till I die. Its helped me a lot.