We’ve never been intimate. We don’t even kiss. We basically are just friends and she calls me her boyfriend. I don’t care because I don’t have any friends and want someone to hang out with. But I would like a real emotional and romantic relationship. I work with women who flirt very obviously with me. One even (jokingly) said she’d come home with me the other day. And she’s hot af. it makes me feel good and makes me think that maybe I could have something real. But I hate conflict and just want to chill. So I continue with this fake weird relationship with this woman who i don’t even like like that. Very weird. Anyone got advice?
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If it’s not a real relationship, then you don’t need to end it.
You’re not even dating. You don’t need to break up with someone you’re not dating. Start dating anyone you want. You’re letting this “friend” keep you from being happy.
Honestly just tell her what you wrote here: “We’ve never been intimate. We don’t even kiss. We basically are just friends. But I would like a real emotional and romantic relationship. I hate conflict and I want to have you in my life so it’s been hard to bring up, but I don’t want to be your boyfriend.”
Tell her you’re not comfortable with calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend anymore and prefer to just call each friends because that describes the relationship better. And let her know that you’re going to date others and hope she’ll be ok with continuing the friendship, but if not, you’ll understand.
How have you been in a relationship for 5 years and not kissed or slept together?
You’re in your thirties, never had sex with her, don’t kiss, I mean she’s not really your girlfriend.
How is she different from a close friend?
Just tell her what you’ve put here, maybe leave out the bit about hotties at work.
So just be aware, these are 2 separate things. Sure you should probably end the relationship. Just don’t think you’re going to be stepping into a garden of roses. I honestly hope you do. However, you’ve been warned.
Its not me, it’s you. You suck. Not literally, of course. Never literally.
I mean has it been established you are in a relationship at any point in time? Or did she just calling you boyfriend at one point in your friendship? Do you live together? 5 years is a long time and if you respect this person you gotta open up to them about it. Get straight answers and go from there I guess
https://www.reddit.com/r/findapath/s/Kq95wf1Bq5
You were single last year? So how much of this is BS?
Stop playing these games and tell her you don’t see her like that! The fact that you’ve been dragging her along for 5 years is crazy to me. Ask yourself, how would you feel if the tables were turned. You’re in this relationship and you love a girl a whole lot however, you have no idea that she doesn’t even like you like that at all but yet keeps you around because she wants someone that she can hang out with…while smiling in your face everyday like everything is ok 🤔. Stuff like this is when sh** happens to people and then they be like “why me”. KARMA comes in many forms and how you treat others comes back. Grow up, be a whole man, and set her free. Stop leading her on like this because I’m sure you wouldn’t want anyone doing you like that.
If you can’t have difficult conversations, you shouldn’t be in a real relationship.
Man up…
Sounds like just a friendship to me