So, I have been dating some women in the last months but specifically with one girl I’m getting really attracted and attached, I don’t want to look needy or clingy but every day I’m thinking more about her. That’s why, I need to focus myself in other hobbies or activities where I spent my time. I live in Northern Jersey. I’m in my mid 30s and well I finish work around 5pm Mon-Fri. I have been going to the gym 4 times a week and although I like it, I feel drained most of the time.
Any ideas? Or advices? Thanks
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Other people can’t give you things to be interested in, you’ll have to think about what interests you and pursue it. Somebody simply providing a list of hobbies won’t help you.
Join a jujitsu gym or rock climbing gym. Forces you to be present in the moment.
Gardening, wood burning, mountain biking, long boarding dude there’s a ton. Ask chat gpt to give you a list of fun stuff to do in your area and go from there.
Check out meetup.com and look for group gatherings in things local you’re into. Though not sure what horror movie it will be in 4 weeks at a local amc about 16 people are showing up on Saturday at the earliest showing of the film which will be selected a week or so prior. Also going to a mushroom foray in about 2 weeks.
Rock Climbing
Write some songs
There’s a plethora of hobbies you can explore. But know that you shouldn’t be ashamed of thinking of your girl. It might feel embarrassing, but if she’s a person of good character she’ll appreciate it. I know I would.
Have you ever tried playing music? I am a musician and during the pandemic I had to find a way to keep making music on my own so I started getting into electronic music and now I am hooked. There are many options to start. Some can be done with a laptop or even with your phone. But learning how to play guitar or bass can be fun. I love drumming but it’s expensive and you need to have room for that, but maybe hand drumming or percussion could be fun for you. Maybe you can join a drum circle close to you.
Do you like reading? That’s an easy thing to do anywhere you are and if you pick the right books you can learn a lot. It’s not expensive since you can go to the library or ask around if people can lend you a good book. It also helps you become a more interesting person since you’ll have more conversation topics.
What about cooking? That would be a great thing to learn, plus will make you more attractive to women. Learn how to cook healthy delicious food and that would make you a real catch.
Also a community group to help others could be a fun thing to do and you could meet some interesting people.
You need some bro time. Have buds to hang around and engage otherwise you’re alone and thinking. But, where’s the relationship at with this one girl?
Never mind the mind.
Pursue the girl.
Take a solo trip to Japan. Just do it.