Go slow. Be gentle. Lots of kissing, cuddling, face stroking etc Girls need to warm up for a while and feel safe. It’s ok to tell her you’re nervous wtc she might be too. Don’t expect it to be amazing the first time – sex between two people is unique each time, and usually gets better as time goes on. Communicate with her. Ask what she likes. Look
into her eyes. Don’t pull any porn moves you think might look or feel good. Porn isn’t loving sex. You’ll be fine.
Anybody who knows anything will tell you that is a huge aspect to enjoyment. Feeling trust and emotional connections are humongous additions to lovemaking.
If you are looking for a transactional experience, then just have fun.
Don’t research. Don’t ask. Don’t study.
Just be yourself and treat your partner well.
*also….. use a condom! Don’t ruin your life with an unplanned child or a sexually transmitted disease!
Just be clean and respectful about it. It’s easy to get over excited and forget there’s another person involved. Make sure to clean your junk before and after.
Take it slow. It’ll take all the patience in the world for the nerves to pass. Don’t be afraid to pull out and gather yourself. And embrace some long foreplay
Use protection, and don’t worry if it ends quickly. You’re young, and you can do it again in just a couple of minutes. The second time, you’ll do much better.
Ask for consent in person, wear a condom, cum at least once several hours beforehand, give her oral before (and after if necessary) and make sure to walk into the ‘relationship’ with a level head regarding the expectations of the state of the relationship moving forward.
Having lost my virginity, I would have preferred a hooker my first time.
I have had a wife so I can say this for a fact if you suck gently on the clitoris as you lick so would love it and if you don’t really know what your doing tell her so and let her lead it
It’s okay to laugh btw, awkward things happen it’s okay to giggle, don’t get caught up in your head about things but just make sure she doesn’t think you’re laughing at her, like add a little bit of commentary or reassurance if something makes you laugh.
Don’t eat a lot! Being full and having sex is the worst combo ever. Be respectful and honesty once you’re in the moment you’ll know what to do. Congratulations this is something every guy looks forward to lol
Communicate openly, relax, remember nothing is that serious. It will probably be awkward, that’s okay. Having said all of that- have fun together! Don’t put pressure on yourself or your partner and try not to overthink it.
A lot of what others have commented is pretty sound advice.
One thing I would add is it probably isn’t going to go exactly how you imagine it. You are still learning how your body reacts in new situations.
If you are worried about pre-ejc, it’s not a big deal, just wait a bit and try again.
When it comes to communicating, what I did for my first time was to make a want, will, won’t list with the person. This is a list you both make for yourself listing the things you want to do, the things you are willing to do but not super keen, and won’t do for any reason.
When you guys go through that you can compare and quickly get a comprehensive idea of what the other person likes.
Funny personal note: I lost my virginity later then my peers and after about a year into studying relationship therapy and communication. And it turns out I’m asexual. I went through a long and informative process discussing our fantasies and whatever, and all that went out the window because I don’t like the act of sex, but that’s just how it goes sometimes. You don’t know who you are until you push your self into new situations
And yes I have since tried a few more times it’s not something I’m into.
I just wouldn’t overthink it, it’s gonna happen and be over before you know it and you’ll have spent more time thinking about it than actually doing it. Just be open, honest and enjoy each other. That’s really all there is to it
Enjoy, and don’t rush. Take it slow, take your time. Lots of kisses, gentle touches. Make sure to use protection.
Some more explicit advice… make sure you both are showered first. Kiss her, lick her nipples, touch her wetness, suck gently on her nipples, kiss her neck. Go down on her, trail kisses down her chest and navel, with her on her back, and lick the top/front of her opening (watch videos and look at pictures for locating the clitotis). Better get used to multitasking, and use your hands and touch and caress her body while your tongue works. Feel her tummy, breasts, sides. And when she’s getting into it, after a few minutes, then slip one finger (index) into her while still using your tongue. In and out slow, palm up, and a gentle beckoning motion / come hither. If she’s really into it, a second finger (index and middle) can help.
Then, let her go down on you in return. Just a minute or two, to make sure you’re ready and also lubricated.
And then… well, you know. The main event. Go slow. Feel her, her body will tell you what she likes, the noises she makes, how she moves, any little gasp or moan.
Deadass watch YouTube/tiktok tutorials on how to do the basics, where to touch, where to kiss, how to give head, etc, also be gentle especially if the girl is also a virgin.
Think of it as a race to the finish. No don’t think that! And don’t think about cum-ing either. It just causes you to cum quicker. And above all else, lick it before you stick it! 🙏
This only applies if you are pretty young like under 21 but jack off before hand if you can otherwise you’re gonna nut insanely quick in all likelihood
Use lube and your hands touching her until she has an orgasm touching the clittoris and fingering. Trim your fingernails Know how to put the condom on before you want to have sex.
Listen to your partner, be patient, ask what feels good. Start gentle and ask if she wants faster/harder. Do NOT rub the clit like you’re working a turntable, be gentle and build intensity as you go on. Use protection.
Use protection. I always went with Trojan. They are really durable and I went with ultra thins. Did that for years. Don’t be shy to lube it up. It’s not needed sometimes but you’ll be happy to have it just incase. She will be happy too.
Boundaries. Don’t over think things. Make sure you respect their Boundaries and same goes for yours.
It’s not porn. So expectations are different. Just let things evolve as it happens.
Don’t forget about her. Just because you get it off in .25 seconds doesn’t mean she’s done. But one again, Boundaries. Communication. Keep it simple.
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jerk off before
lmao congrats man
i guess succumb to the fact you are going to suck and it’s also going to feel really good
after, watch informative videos on youtube so next time will be better 😊
Good luck. It’s a journey. You only can learn through trial and error. Be gentle. Be clean. Don’t rush. Breath. All I can say.
Don’t get your hopes up it’ll probably suck
Communication is key. Ask her before hand if there’s anything she doesn’t want you to try, and you give her your do’s/don’ts, too.
Pick up some tips from this thread.
Go slow. Be gentle. Lots of kissing, cuddling, face stroking etc Girls need to warm up for a while and feel safe. It’s ok to tell her you’re nervous wtc she might be too. Don’t expect it to be amazing the first time – sex between two people is unique each time, and usually gets better as time goes on. Communicate with her. Ask what she likes. Look
into her eyes. Don’t pull any porn moves you think might look or feel good. Porn isn’t loving sex. You’ll be fine.
Do you have a romantic connection?
Anybody who knows anything will tell you that is a huge aspect to enjoyment. Feeling trust and emotional connections are humongous additions to lovemaking.
If you are looking for a transactional experience, then just have fun.
Don’t research. Don’t ask. Don’t study.
Just be yourself and treat your partner well.
*also….. use a condom! Don’t ruin your life with an unplanned child or a sexually transmitted disease!
it’s gonna be awkward and weird and you’re probably gonna strain something.
put a towel down.
Use protection!
Just be clean and respectful about it. It’s easy to get over excited and forget there’s another person involved. Make sure to clean your junk before and after.
you’ll realize the whole thing ain’t a big deal
Ask her what she likes/wants.
Biggest thing guys get wrong is assume they know from porn or from some other woman they were with. Nerve endings & preferences vary.
Focus on your hygiene, be respectful, listen, don’t have high expectations, and have fun!
https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/teens
Good source of info on contraception (birth control)
https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/
Good source on how to enjoy sex
Use protection or be prepared to raise a child
Relax and enjoy out. Stay in the moment and realize it just gets better over time.
Make sure you focus on the girls pleasure too
Take it slow. It’ll take all the patience in the world for the nerves to pass. Don’t be afraid to pull out and gather yourself. And embrace some long foreplay
Don’t overthink anything. Go with the flow.
it’s okay to giggle, matter of fact ur makes it more intimate if anything
Use protection, and don’t worry if it ends quickly. You’re young, and you can do it again in just a couple of minutes. The second time, you’ll do much better.
It’s gonna be quick. Don’t worry about it
Ask for consent in person, wear a condom, cum at least once several hours beforehand, give her oral before (and after if necessary) and make sure to walk into the ‘relationship’ with a level head regarding the expectations of the state of the relationship moving forward.
Having lost my virginity, I would have preferred a hooker my first time.
Chew the clit
Don’t think about it too much just enjoy the moment, focus on pleasing her.
If you wanna be a stud out of the gate, get the girl off first.
I have had a wife so I can say this for a fact if you suck gently on the clitoris as you lick so would love it and if you don’t really know what your doing tell her so and let her lead it
Be gentle, respect boundaries and remember about protection
Have fun
Don’t get in your own head. My first time I couldn’t get it up because my heart was racing so fast.
Losing your virginity is not as big a deal as people make you believe
It’s lower than you think
It’s okay to laugh btw, awkward things happen it’s okay to giggle, don’t get caught up in your head about things but just make sure she doesn’t think you’re laughing at her, like add a little bit of commentary or reassurance if something makes you laugh.
Don’t eat a lot! Being full and having sex is the worst combo ever. Be respectful and honesty once you’re in the moment you’ll know what to do. Congratulations this is something every guy looks forward to lol
Ram it in her ass first thing.
Communicate openly, relax, remember nothing is that serious. It will probably be awkward, that’s okay. Having said all of that- have fun together! Don’t put pressure on yourself or your partner and try not to overthink it.
Knock on wood before jinks it
A lot of what others have commented is pretty sound advice.
One thing I would add is it probably isn’t going to go exactly how you imagine it. You are still learning how your body reacts in new situations.
If you are worried about pre-ejc, it’s not a big deal, just wait a bit and try again.
When it comes to communicating, what I did for my first time was to make a want, will, won’t list with the person. This is a list you both make for yourself listing the things you want to do, the things you are willing to do but not super keen, and won’t do for any reason.
When you guys go through that you can compare and quickly get a comprehensive idea of what the other person likes.
Funny personal note: I lost my virginity later then my peers and after about a year into studying relationship therapy and communication. And it turns out I’m asexual. I went through a long and informative process discussing our fantasies and whatever, and all that went out the window because I don’t like the act of sex, but that’s just how it goes sometimes. You don’t know who you are until you push your self into new situations
And yes I have since tried a few more times it’s not something I’m into.
Somebody soon get this guys some tips , soon!
Have sex for 1 the day before. Could help you last longer than 10 seconds.
If you ever feel like you want to stop don’t be ashamed to stop.
Soon
Foreplay is important
Look up Charzarding. Or research all the moves you can on urban dictionary. The Ladies dig it
Wash your ass
Take it slow. Enjoy the moment. Don’t rush anything. Get to know her body before entering.
I just wouldn’t overthink it, it’s gonna happen and be over before you know it and you’ll have spent more time thinking about it than actually doing it. Just be open, honest and enjoy each other. That’s really all there is to it
Wear protection and make sure she’s consenting with the whole situation and all of what you do. If things change, make sure she’s all good yk
Don’t soon cum to soon.
Don’t mistake sex for love
Ram it like a horse!
Enjoy, and don’t rush. Take it slow, take your time. Lots of kisses, gentle touches. Make sure to use protection.
Some more explicit advice… make sure you both are showered first. Kiss her, lick her nipples, touch her wetness, suck gently on her nipples, kiss her neck. Go down on her, trail kisses down her chest and navel, with her on her back, and lick the top/front of her opening (watch videos and look at pictures for locating the clitotis). Better get used to multitasking, and use your hands and touch and caress her body while your tongue works. Feel her tummy, breasts, sides. And when she’s getting into it, after a few minutes, then slip one finger (index) into her while still using your tongue. In and out slow, palm up, and a gentle beckoning motion / come hither. If she’s really into it, a second finger (index and middle) can help.
Then, let her go down on you in return. Just a minute or two, to make sure you’re ready and also lubricated.
And then… well, you know. The main event. Go slow. Feel her, her body will tell you what she likes, the noises she makes, how she moves, any little gasp or moan.
Good luck!
Deadass watch YouTube/tiktok tutorials on how to do the basics, where to touch, where to kiss, how to give head, etc, also be gentle especially if the girl is also a virgin.
Think of it as a race to the finish. No don’t think that! And don’t think about cum-ing either. It just causes you to cum quicker. And above all else, lick it before you stick it! 🙏
This only applies if you are pretty young like under 21 but jack off before hand if you can otherwise you’re gonna nut insanely quick in all likelihood
Jerk off beforehand
Use lube and your hands touching her until she has an orgasm touching the clittoris and fingering. Trim your fingernails Know how to put the condom on before you want to have sex.
Listen to your partner, be patient, ask what feels good. Start gentle and ask if she wants faster/harder. Do NOT rub the clit like you’re working a turntable, be gentle and build intensity as you go on. Use protection.
Don’t go crazy and enjoy, fast or slow whatever you’ll figure it out later
Wash your ass and your dick before, if you’re a lady equal, wash your ass and your vag
Don’t count your eggs before they’re fertilized. There’s still time to fuck this up if you’re not careful
Use a condom
Use protection. I always went with Trojan. They are really durable and I went with ultra thins. Did that for years. Don’t be shy to lube it up. It’s not needed sometimes but you’ll be happy to have it just incase. She will be happy too.
Boundaries. Don’t over think things. Make sure you respect their Boundaries and same goes for yours.
It’s not porn. So expectations are different. Just let things evolve as it happens.
Don’t forget about her. Just because you get it off in .25 seconds doesn’t mean she’s done. But one again, Boundaries. Communication. Keep it simple.
Look as soon as possibly soon , You don’t have to do anything soon , just mind your mouth and body hygiene soon before the date and be yourself, soon
Dont try not to focus on how this is going to be one the biggest moments of your life, and you will blow it if you cant keep it up long enough.