Been feeling lonely as hell. I’m seeing all my friends partnered, having kids, planning for their future, enjoying life. I’ve been single for over 6 years and I’m tired of being alone. I don’t mean for this to be another “I’m in my 30s and desperately single post”. I also lost my dad last year. He was the most important person to me and my absolute rock in life. I feel like any sense of stability just got ripped away from me.
I’ve spent the last year desperately gripping onto anything that feels like earth beneath my feet. And dealing with a lot of rejection. Also feeling lost in my career and like I’ll be replaced by AI in the next couple years. I’m a software developer and work remote which has its perks but is also so isolating.
I have friends but they’re also busy with their lives. I have a therapist. I just feel so disconnected with everything, I don’t even know what I enjoy anymore.
Sorry for the sad post. Just looking for advice and for anyone that can relate.
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Girl, yes. Constant disappointment will wear you out (flaky friends, relationships, trying to make new ones and it not working out, jobs and even hobby group disappointment). I feel like I’ve aged so much and am just tired. I recently had a really great vacation and realized it was the first time I felt happy in years bc I had quality time with friends. The older I get I realize how important having joy and close connections is but it’s always been hard for me to find. The thing I want most at the end of each day is real connection—a feeling of belonging or feeling wanted, having people who want to see you often, people who care about how your day was and the little details of your life, people who actually like you and your personality and aren’t secretly jealous or giving weird hater energy. It’s like the warm fire that gives life meaning. I care so much about other people but it’s hard not feeling that reciprocated back…everyone just tells me I need to find a partner but idk, I’m starting to tire of the idea of finding community and “my people.” I’m happy for the people that have this though. It feels like one of the most important things to have in this life next to basic needs, of course.