I’m not against dating, but lately I’ve noticed something about myself: I feel drained by emotional expectations — even light ones.
People I meet (or already know) seem to want immediate emotional connection, insight into my personal life, plans, goals, etc. And honestly, that’s started to feel overwhelming.
I enjoy conversations about ideas, observations, even philosophy — but when it turns personal, I shut down.
I don’t feel lonely. I just need distance and lighter forms of connection right now.
Has anyone else gone through this? Do you ever avoid dating simply because you don’t want to talk about yourself?
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I recently dated a girl who wanted to see me every day. If i saw her more than 3 times a week i got overwhelmed. Some people easily share their life with others and then some people just like space. I think its a personal thing and nothing wrong with us…i hope lol.
Yep. Sometimes even a “how was your day?” feels like a pop quiz on emotions I didn’t study for
Literally I talk to people on dating apps but when they ask to meet in person I cba yet I complain about being single lol