(19m) unsure if this is gonna sound weird but
The thing about me is im a huge germaphobe,its not a good thing i know,but also not something i can just change overnight
Babies are dirty. I think thats a known fact. They vomit,they poop themselves,they cause messes etc.
For that exact reason (and several others primarily based on my own personality) i dont think i should have kids. I would probably be driven insane and become disoriented whenever the house gets dirty and messy. My personality is one that likes order and cleanliness,and intensely dislikes anything that isnt exactly that. If i had to change a diaper id need gloves,and even then id probably be gagging uncontrollably the whole time
Is this weird or common?
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Reasons why i shouldnt have kids
This – germaphobe
I’m a bit of a cheapskate admittedly,kids are expensive
Introvert – i like having atleast half a second of alone time and free time dedicated solely to myself. When you have kids every waking moment is just obligation after obligation
I hate loud noises and kids make noise
I never wanted kids. When I was 22 I started looking for a doctor to tie my tubes and could find one. Took me 8 years and it was basically my 30th birthday present to myself.
I’m good with kids and babies as long as I can give them back. Otherwise they gross me out, they’re always sick and sticky. I hate sticky.
But if you don’t want them you don’t want them. Don’t let anybody else tell you otherwise [:
It’s okay, it’s easy to not have kids and a choice we actually have these days!
Not having kids and regretting it is a lot easier than having them and regretting it.
That said, you’re not proper grown yet. You’ll probably be a much different person in a few years!
I’d definitely be working on those germaphobe tendencies because if you don’t they can grow teeth and start ruling your life. You obviously won’t be cured overnight as you say but you really should at least start now. Sooner the better!
I didn’t want kids at 19 and didn’t want them now 28 after my hysterectomy. It’s totally okay not to have them and it’s totally okay to change your mind. The thought of germs did bother me to but after caring for my infant sisters it went away though I do admit the noises do still bother me.
You aren’t obligated to have them. Having children isn’t the default option for life
My mother was a huge germaphobe and still is; she didn’t have the disgust reaction to her own kid (me). Genetics is powerful.
Doesn’t mean you should have kids of course but the way you feel about other people’s kids is often not how you feel about your own.