Listening to a podcast and when people were shown incontrovertible facts, they respond with “I’m sharing MY truth”. You don’t get to have your own truth. The truth is the truth.
Listening to a podcast and when people were shown incontrovertible facts, they respond with “I’m sharing MY truth”. You don’t get to have your own truth. The truth is the truth.
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I agree here. You see this used as a deflection tactic, like how when someone is confronted for harm they did to someone else, they need to interject that they’ve been harmed from the conflict too.
Is this… unpopular?
Aka Narcissism
My lived experience tells me otherwise.
There are facts and then there are alternate facts.
This unproven or literal false thing is my truth.
i’d say they’re more like “a complete idiot” and not to be taken seriously at all.
This is not an unpopular opinion and people that are fans of online weirdos only accept that because they want to be entertained and don’t care about what is actually going on.
I always thought “my truth” just meant sharing your perspective, no?
Whether or not there is objective truth is an interesting debate.
That’s like your truth man.
Yes. It’s really just their perception of the truth
Sorry but I had to downvote because this is fortunately a popular opinion.
Not unpopular.
Those doofuses who say that should be firmly responded to with a “that is your subjective opinion, not a truth.”
I’ve only ever heard people use this phrase when relaying their own life experience. Not usually in a way where they are trying to assert something as an absolute truth.
I mean, depends on what it is. Like two people get into an argument, they’re going to have different viewpoints on what happened. Theres going to be different interpretations of tone, if something was implied, etc.
Sighs in defeat
“Yes, Uncle Mulligan. The Reptiloids from Alpha Centauri are coming to Earth, after travelling several light years through interstellar space, specifically to fuck with you and fly their wobbly-ass UFO around your farmhouse like a giant space pancake. Yes Uncle Mulligan, you know the truth and everyone else needs to wake up and smell the bacon.”
My Ex was a total abusive bitch, when I ultimately dumped her ass and treated her the same she played the victim card.
That’s my truth. Which means to say there’s more then one way to look at something, or a side not seen or heard.
Then again unpopular opinion so eh.
The truth is a very shaky thing. What is true today will not necessarily be true tomorrow. Most Truth is just another word for strongly held belief, and things that are provably true are not the things most people think of
I agree and I think that line of thinking can be a very slippery slope into believing some very ridiculous, untrue, things.
It can also be very dangerous, can lead to political extremism when people say that “their truth” is that insert violent and extreme political ideology here is the real true best way forward.
People delude themselves.
They should say “my view” instead of “my truth”. My truth makes the person sound like a douche
I agree. It’s way overused and should really be only narrowly applied to something witnessed/experienced.
For example: Two people can watch an event (or crime, car accident, etc.) and describe the events differently. But both being eyewitnesses, their accounts are technically true to those 2 individuals. Someone with better/worse hearing or visual acuity may witness something different as well. Same with foods — someone can taste something that someone doesn’t.
But that those are the only types of situation where the “my truth” should apply.
I think it stems from having their own reality or side of something dismissed or alleged to be false.. therefore, “their truth” is their side of things, y’know?
If you hear someone use this phrase, ask them to describe the difference between “your truth” and the other related concepts such as opinion or perspective.
In other words: why are you saying “my truth” when you could say “my opinion” or “my perspective”? These kinds of people will rarely talk about their opinion on a matter, or their perspective on an issue, they will instead talk about “my truth”.
Do we each have individual ‘truths’, or do we have unique opinions and perspectives? It’s a trick of language that should more often be called out.
Based on the limited information you’ve given: true.
When it comes to memories, emotions, arguments, or pretty much anything to do with family, I’d have to disagree.
It really depends on what truth you’re calling “incontrovertible”.
r/unpopularmytruth
“My truth” is someone’s way of saying that what they want to believe is more important than the truth.
I really hate to admit this but I have watched quite a few reality dating shows and this phrase seems to be extremely popular. Whenever I hear: “Im just speaking my truth…” its like oh boy here we go lol
“My truth” is a red flag. It usually signals that the person is no longer engaging with logic or evidence. Instead, they’re reframing truth as something subjective, which allows them to deflect any counterargument as “invalidating,” or offensive. This turns the discussion from a rational exchange into a personal narrative, where disagreement becomes an attack. It’s a tactic (conscious or not) that shifts the focus from truth seeking to emotional shielding. At that point, debate becomes nearly impossible, because you’re no longer arguing about what’s true, but how someone feels.
It’s gross, and needs to be called out when it happens.
I always interpreted it as someone being honest. The context I’ve always heard it in is like when someone tells you something deep about their past and ends the story with “…and that’s my truth.”
But maybe others are using it to talk about those incontrovertible facts, and yeah, that’s disingenuous.
I’m actually looking to share my falsity
I’ll disagree with this because it depends on what people are describing as the truth.
Let’s say a guy comes home from work and, for the third night in a row, his wife reminds him that he said he would carry the 10 mulch bags in front of the house around to the back.
Her truth is she is holding him accountable for his promises.
His truth is that she is nagging him and he’ll do it this weekend.
Two very different truths, both accurate depending on the perspective.
Also when I hear “lived experience” used as a truth.
I would say there are different truths available and a load of personal experience. Would you really say that the Christian God is the only truth and all other peoples are wrong?
I hate sayings like this! This and other similar totally over/misused sayings are very unpopular so you missed the category.
The problem is that a lot of “truths” are not actually so. Unless we’re talking about the laws of physics or something, there is very little that is objectively true. For example, one person can be harmed by something that another is helped by. It doesn’t invalidate either’s experience, but people often claim that their experience is the truth for everyone.
I don’t think “my truth” means what you think it means.
Yeah, sometimes it does mean a person has a daily experience (an anecdote) that they feel, that others around them may notice or disagree with.
“My truth” in my opinion means “this is a deeply held and personal opinion of mine” and of course people may disagree about opinion.
If I am fighting with my wife, I won’t say “you are wrong”. It turns out both people have honest, largely truthful, but also divergine thoughts, feelings and memories about…. Everything.
It isn’t supposed to mean that there is no factual truth. It means “I have something important to say”.
There was a book called “the things we carried” about the Vietnam war. Very interesting read and talks on this subject a little bit.
Deflection tactics used when confronted with facts. It never applies to them, because ” I’m special” 🙄😮💨
speak your truth
So I agree with you but you’re misunderstanding the statement.
The way a person loves their life or how they think or what they believe changes upon their experiences. So when someone says my truth it’s a statement about their beliefs and their lived experience. Not necessarily about facts.
That being said people ignore factual data way too much and say stupid stuff.
As with many things people say online, the phrase “my truth” used to mean something real and legit, and it has been co-opted by people, basically “since this is a legitimate phrase I can use it to mean whatever I want and you can’t disagree with me.” Just like things like “agree to disagree” or “everyone is entitled to their own opinion,” all that matters is whether someone is talking about subjective or objective.
I think when people say “MY truth” they are saying a fact specific to them. E.g. “I lost my virginity at age 18”. or “I have a foot fetish.”
It’s a truth — but it’s knowledge that belongs to them and if they didn’t share it no one would know.
I mean… Isn’t this just modern vs post modern thinking? (Or maybe post-post modern, I get them mixed up)
The “modern” view is that there is absolute truth and we should aim to acquire it. The post(post?) modern thought is: there either is no truth, or that if truth exists, humans are incapable of objectivity and would necessarily have a subjective view of the truth which would contain falsehoods, and that we should instead be focusing on what works, what is our subjective understanding of truth, and what our community co-subjectively believes to be true.
While some people use “my truth” to wall themselves off, it also recognizes that our lives are different, and the experiences we have are multifaceted and interconnected. A person with deadly allergies or who is neurodivergent, for example, will have different experiences of the world, and problems for them may need wildly different solutions than the same problem from someone else.
There is a objective truth and there is personal truth. Personal truth being something the individual considers true. Knowing the objective truth equals to knowing and understanding all possible sides.
For example, IRA. The average Irish says they are freedom fighters. The average British says they are separatist terrorists. Both is their own truth based on how they experienced the fact that the IRA blew up buildings and fought with illegal and anti-government means for Northen-Ireland’s sovereignity.
Saying “my truth” to me is the most logical a person can think because they’re able to understand that different viewpoints are a matter of background and one’s own personage.
Upvote because I don’t agree.
Me and my little brother have a… contentious relationship. My mom once was trying to be a mediator. I have no problem speaking to him, but he wouldn’t speak to me, so she was being the go between.
At one point she said something like “well, HIS truth is that you X, Y, and Z”, and I was done speaking at that point. Like, on one hand, I get that he and I can have very different memories of the same situation. But calling it his truth, kind of implies that it doesn’t matter what the objective truth is, what he “feels” matters.
And that is bullshit
Yeah but outside of mathematics and objectively measurable stuff, it’s pretty much all opinion.
It’s certainly weird. Some people have so much good will to offer that it entirely overwhelms their common sense.
The truth is antiseptic.
Have to downvote you for having such a popular opinion.
If I’m colorblind my truth is that the apple is grey.
This is almost as bad as “my lived experience.” Disgusting, self-righteous, pretentious phrases that I wish would disappear
This hasn’t been used in about 7 years, I never hear anyone say it anymore.
And its for a good reason, it was over taken by narcissists like Belle Gibson in her 60 Minutes Australia interview in 2016.
I say this when I share my side of the story with the other. Some people just tend to think in a more poetic or philosophical way, which can in turn be expressed through phrases like this. That’s why it is being said that “the truth is always found in the middle.”
Those people are still allowed to have their own truth. If you don’t understand now that people have different experiences, do/ don’t learn specific things that others do/ don’t and that those will dictate how people understand and judge, then you will stay stuck.
Despite that: Everyone lies and can think logically to a certain amount. Ain’t no-one better than the other.
I’d advise you to practice less black-and-white-thinking and consider other perspectives too.
With this you did nothing other than to state your own “truth”. Way to contradict yourself.
Very unpopular, have my upvote
Why people can’t understand that eventueel are subjective and in the eye of the beholder is beyond me. Like half of your description is gonna be based on how you experienced it instead of what factually happened. That’s human nature.
Calling everybody who accounts for that a liar is wild
I think the idea of “My truth” has been horribly abused, I think it still has a place in reasonable conversation. Yes, objective truth does exist, and it is knowable. However, perception colors how we interpret this truth. What “My truth” really means is “my honest perspective.” This matters because the way we can know objective truth is by sharing and comparing perceptions.
Correct. This should be a far more popular sentiment.
This post presupposes the existence of an objective, universal truth for all possible questions
“Truth” is always more subjective than people want to believe. Not in terms of dates or numbers, but the interpretation of it.
There’s the truth… 🙁
Than there’s the truth… 🙂
Which one do you believe?
My truth is like Epstine sex island before someone believes it is newsworthy.
I had a friend that said “he’s my truth” in reference to yet another POS of a man she thought she fancied. I never cringed so hard.
I agree if we’re talking about measurable things, but my truth can be used fo subjective things, when emwe talk about how we experience something. Simple example: “i went outside for a walk today and it was pretty warm.” This comment proposed two truths, first “i went outside” measurable and objective, “it was pretty warm” subjective but still a truth, even if for someone else today could have been cold or something else
Jo yeah as long as we’re not talking about subjective truths
That’s an opinion sir…saying my truth is like trying to artificially inflate the validity of your opinion to gain more ground in argument.
I’ve always felt if you need to attach “my” to truth, you’re simply stating that you are indeed NOT expressing facts or reality.
I’ve said for a while that there is your truth, my truth, and what actually happened. It’s hard to be 100% objective, so the truth is usually somewhere in between what all parties say.
I had no idea how many people will fight tooth and nail to argue why saying “my truth” is a good thing.
Who was this? Yeah, saying “my truth” is ridiculous.
I think it’s fine whenever it’s used as an expression of one’s authenticity, but it does sometimes go beyond that pale and you’re not wrong about those times
You’ll find that a great many things are true from a certain point of view
To play devil’s advocate, what was truth 50 years ago is not necessarily truth now.
The truth of marginalized people in America is very different from the truth of those in power.
Like people have said here, there is no actual objective “truth”, only perspectives. The reason people say “My Truth” is because they want to preempt you to agree with them. By framing what they are saying as “truth”, they are trying to prevent you from disagreeing with them.
I would like to add that they aint liars nor unable to think logically, they are manipulators. Manipulators who want you to agree with them.
I think they’re usually a bit granola and are maybe still discovering themselves . A lot of people that talk like that have a lot of trauma in their backgrounds so “their truth” while it may not make sense to some people is “real” for “them”. Like people can have a general assumption of what growing up in poverty with a single mom who escaped numerous abusive partners looks like, but they’re not going to know exactly how the person growing up as an 8 year old in that situation experienced it exactly. Based on their gender and resourcefulness and awareness they could’ve had entirely different experiences.
The only time the “my truth” people can sometimes be an issue is if they’re trying to make decisions on behalf of a large group of people that might cause harm to the group. Like their truth is implying a certain establishment should be like set on fire or a certain person should be dead or something…that’s too far.
Perspective is great…anecdotes are helpful to get to know a person’s behavior or thoughts or feelings…but at the end of the day facts are facts, and no amount of ” my truth” can be weaponized to harm someone else. Like you having a crappy childhood doesn’t justify you being mean to people for no reason or ruining their lives. It might be a reason behind why you’re angry at the world but not an excuse to be cruel.
I’m more of a “truth is singular, all other versions are untruths” type of person.
It’s trendy to say to, so some people could be conditioned to say it.
I bet this is what they told Galileo too
Understanding that multiple truths can coexist and disagree with each other is hard for people to get.
There’s objective truth, which is made up of facts. And there’s also subjective reality about very real things that have no actual facts, such as perception and experience. Often people experience events that are real and there are very few facts at hand, such as a crime scene or sports. Lots of opinions, lots of information, very few facts and no “truth”.
We live in a complex world and physicists can’t even agree on what reality is. And then theres the human mind which invented the idea of facts. Compound that on billions of these complex things all perceiving, experiencing, debating, misunderstanding each other. It’s crazy the concept of facts even sticks at all. But they’re necessary and they exist. But so does subjective reality. Both are equally real. I feel like this is evident for empathetic people but hard for other people to understand.
Yeah, I have to agree here. “My truth” is just another way of telling everyone you’re full of shit.
Have you ever sat across from someone at a table and drawn a 6 on it and they swear up and down they see 9???
They ain’t lying, it’s their truth.
I generally hear it said by flakes whose “truth” doesn’t comport with reality
How is this an unpopular opinion? It’s literally just describing how words work. This is hardly even an opinion. it’s mostly just a correct observation.