I was talking to an old buddy of mine who I’ve known since elementary school. Apparently he “ran interference” for me a lot because I was hated by a bunch of jocks and he told them to chill. That honestly really surprises me cause pretty much everyone was always really nice to me from what I recall. It was supposedly because of the girls I had crushes on. I was a “nerd” so to speak and I did like some of the more popular girls at times.
I honestly don’t even care, I’m years removed from highschool at this point. I just am worried about my awareness that I never noticed it. To be fair I was in a bad place with mental health so I didn’t have much capacity for much else.
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Don’t let one persons perspective completely change yours. Your buddy could be greatly exaggerating the role he played. Plus that’s just one person’s perspective out of all the people at the school. He doesn’t know you were “hated by everybody” since he’s not everybody. Also a couple jocks isn’t everybody.
Yeah, I’d take whatever he said to you with a pinch of salt. If you’d heard it from a few unrelated people maybe there may be some truth to it but I’ve learned to never just believe what one person says. They may themselves have their motives!
Adversely, I was liked by more people than I was ever aware but believed I wasn’t so I treated people not exactly phenomenally. I would take it back in a heartbeat. High School was rough for me. Don’t take it personally. Everyone was a raging Ahole back then.
Your nerd buddy thinks he did something. He did not.
Honestly the moral of the story should be what a great friend! Took care of you but didn’t want any credit, just wanted to make your life easier.
Ooh be careful with that buddy. Sometimes your closest friends will be your biggest enemies. I don’t know him at all but there could be a possibility that he probably felt envy or it’s his way of trying to put you down so you can question wether or not people actually like you.
I would be careful with that buddy of yours. I had a “friend” tell me, completely unprompted, about how a common friend of ours told her that my personality was great but “Looks also matter.” I had never expressed an interest in him, nor found him attractive, and was great friends with him.
Meanwhile, she had a raging crush on him 🤷🏾♀️
I’m not saying that it didn’t happen, but if it did, why inform you about it? Why put that doubt in you? You hadn’t noticed it, and your ignorance clearly hadn’t affected your quality of life, so why share a potentially harmful fact?
Not telling you to be drastic and cut him off or anything, just that maybe you should see if he has a pattern here.