Are most of us just living lives of quiet desperation like Thoreau said?

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Thoreau said, “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.” And honestly, it’s starting to feel painfully accurate. Is this just how adulthood works? Or are we missing something?

Would love to hear how others deal with this feeling. Do you just accept it, find meaning in the small things, or have you found a way out?

Comments

  1. Agile-Arugula-6545 Avatar

    Some of us do. Not me tho

  2. iSeaStars7 Avatar

    I’d say 80% of life, and the other 20% is pure joy found by embracing myself. I have massive mood swings between incredibly joyful and sinking into a deep pit of despair

  3. WhimsicalSadist Avatar

    It’s trite, but life is nothing more than what you make of it. I had that realization in my 20s, and leaned into living my life according to another of Thoreau’s quotes: “…suck out all the marrow of life.”

    It hasn’t been perfect, but I have almost no regrets, because I haven’t played it safe very often.

  4. Plumber_In_A_Kilt Avatar

    I think everyone goes through something like that but you can make it out. I went through that phase last year

  5. Affectionate-Cap-568 Avatar

    As a guy who is incel I try to find happiness in the little things, no war in my part of the world (Iceland), clean water from the faucet, fresh Arctic air outside, safe streets, top in my life is washing and waxing my car.

  6. Maleficent-Rough-983 Avatar

    currently reading Walden for the first time now. has a lot of relevant gems. but man does this dude love run-on sentences

  7. EvaSirkowski Avatar

    He was projecting.

  8. Money_Music2897 Avatar

    Not me. I saw a boob today.

  9. Cliffy73 Avatar

    Depends on the day.

  10. AgsAreUs Avatar

    Dumb. At least in the US, one can go out in public anywhere, find someone way worse off, yet smiling and trying to enjoy life.

  11. Spiritual-Hour7271 Avatar

    I’m actually enjoying things. But when I’m desperate, I’m definitely not quiet about it. It’s everyone’s problem!