I do like to cook, so if he said it after it came up elsewhere in the conversation, I wouldn’t mind so much. If he just said it with absolutely no context, I’d call him mighty presumptuous.
Oh absolutely. Not a good sign. And I do enjoy cooking/cooking for others. But this is so presumptuous and pigeon-holing you as a woman in such a cartoonish 1950s way. I’d probably say back “I can’t wait for you to start paying for all of my bills.”
I can cook, but when they frame it like I’m going to be their regular chef like Donna Reed in the ’60s…hell no. I’m not their Betty Crocker. I’d probably flip it and ask when they’re going to cook for me. I won’t date someone without basic life skills.
Of course. Some of us don’t cook. I bake some things really well, I cook a few things but mainly in a utilitarian way. I don’t like when it’s an expectation.
Def the ick. I find it a turn on when my partner is super tidy, doing the majority of the cooking and cleaning etc. because it’s a rejection of stereotypical attitudes towards women.
Absolute Ick! When I was single and got that comment, I’d cut them off! The nerve of men to expect us women to have zero expectations of them, But they are already expecting me to be their chef!? I encountered one man who was worthy of my cooking and He never mentioned me cooking for him before we became a couple. & For that one, I have definitely upped my cooking skills.
Always depended on the context for me – who brought cooking up first and if we were already flirting when it was said.
If I mentioned I love cooking (I do) and we were having a flirty evening, that line aligns with that vibe so I enjoyed it. It was the kind of response I was very clearly flirt-fishing for.
If he brought it up out of nowhere and we weren’t already having that kind of banter/conversation, major turn off.
These were the only two kinds of scenarios I experienced. Never had anyone say it when I brought cooking up but we weren’t already flirting. I imagine it would’ve just been horribly awkward. And also a turn off.
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I can’t cook so I’d probably just start laughing.
I do like to cook, so if he said it after it came up elsewhere in the conversation, I wouldn’t mind so much. If he just said it with absolutely no context, I’d call him mighty presumptuous.
Oh absolutely. Not a good sign. And I do enjoy cooking/cooking for others. But this is so presumptuous and pigeon-holing you as a woman in such a cartoonish 1950s way. I’d probably say back “I can’t wait for you to start paying for all of my bills.”
That ain’t it.
I didn’t cook for a man until he cooked for me first. Display your hunting, gathering and providing skills, sir.
Agreed, definite ick. My contributions to a relationship should not be relegated to cooking, cleaning, sex etc.
Yep. There wouldn’t be another date.
I can cook, but when they frame it like I’m going to be their regular chef like Donna Reed in the ’60s…hell no. I’m not their Betty Crocker. I’d probably flip it and ask when they’re going to cook for me. I won’t date someone without basic life skills.
Of course. Some of us don’t cook. I bake some things really well, I cook a few things but mainly in a utilitarian way. I don’t like when it’s an expectation.
I was interested in a dude, who told me that his wife will cook (in a cooking skill conversation). Lost interested immediately lol
I’d be drier for sure
Oh yes and I’m really damn good cook. I block so quickly.
One of the sexiest thing my husband says to me “Ohh I can’t wait to cook this for you!”
Yeah its kind of a “conservative Christian” red flag, I want nothing to do with these sorts of people.
I’d think it’s hot if they were to talk about cooking together
Call your mom if you want to say shit like that.
Yes. It’s weird and entitled. People who want to cook for will offer
So many guys respond with “oh you can make me tacos!” when they find out I’m Mexican. It’s a big turnoff and disqualifies them immediately.
Def the ick. I find it a turn on when my partner is super tidy, doing the majority of the cooking and cleaning etc. because it’s a rejection of stereotypical attitudes towards women.
“Tell you what: after you’ve given me 100 orgasms I’ll make you an omelet.”
Absolute Ick! When I was single and got that comment, I’d cut them off! The nerve of men to expect us women to have zero expectations of them, But they are already expecting me to be their chef!? I encountered one man who was worthy of my cooking and He never mentioned me cooking for him before we became a couple. & For that one, I have definitely upped my cooking skills.
Yes, extremely. That’s in the top three red flags. This man is laying out that he expects sn unpaid servant.
I had a recently separated client get flirty with me, and one of the first things he asked me was “can you cook”? Followed by “do you snore?”
Always depended on the context for me – who brought cooking up first and if we were already flirting when it was said.
If I mentioned I love cooking (I do) and we were having a flirty evening, that line aligns with that vibe so I enjoyed it. It was the kind of response I was very clearly flirt-fishing for.
If he brought it up out of nowhere and we weren’t already having that kind of banter/conversation, major turn off.
These were the only two kinds of scenarios I experienced. Never had anyone say it when I brought cooking up but we weren’t already flirting. I imagine it would’ve just been horribly awkward. And also a turn off.