Hello there, I’m (33f) am dating this really sweet guy (29m) and we have been on 4 date in 2 months, we text like every 2 to 3 days and check in w each other. I really like him, he seems just my type, so far he is kind and I can just forsee us having a drama free relationship bc of our personality types.
We have another date planned this Friday and i think we will have some alone time during it. Ik this sounds crazy but this is my first ever dating that is becoming something serious. I’ve never dated b4 or had a BF before and it’s all feeling so exciting but scary. I don’t want to mess things up just from lack of experience. We haven’t even held hands yet, and I’m nervous to kiss him. Does this mean we r going too fast? I’ve never dated so idk what the pace is meant to be.
I want to feel connected to him and for him to fall in love with me. I want things so be soft and slow and passionate. I don’t want to rush things sexually or even emotionally (especially since i dont have any experience inneither category) I want us to take our time. I feel like i DO want to touch him and get physical but I’m new to it all so it’s best not to rush.
How can I go about resisting the urge to get physical w him and go slow??
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Taking things at a pace that feels right for you is important, and it’s okay to communicate your desire to go slow with him as well.
Communicate what you want and how you like it, don’t just wait for him to say something to you. Ideally he’d ask first before holding your hand or kissing you, but if he doesn’t, you can say something as simple as “I really like you and I’d like for us to take this slowly. Can I kiss you?” It will feel good and exciting, but if he’s grabbing or moving his lips on yours in a way that you’re not ready for, you can step back and breathe for a second. That’s when you let him know what you’re ready for or not. It might feel awkward at first, but anyone who really cares about you will want to make sure you’re comfortable and happy.
communication and also each relationship progresses at it’s own pace. what feels best between you two is the most important
slow isn’t a pace, it’s a vibe and it sounds like you two are vibing just right