Hey all,
I’m curious to hear if you all are having more or less casual sex in your 30s and above than you did in your 20s and younger years?
I feel like I am having way less casual sex even though I’m not actively trying to have less, I just feel like there aren’t even good options of men for something casual where I am. I’m not saying there aren’t men willing, but they all seem like bums.
Would love to hear your experience
I’m in my late 30s too
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I don’t have casual sex at all. I’m in my early 30s. I used to in my 20s
I had a lot of casual sex in my early 20s and then it just felt more and more meaningless. I want a legitimate connection with someone and sex tends to be better waiting.
I can’t speak for all man (especially as a woman lol) but I would say a fair amount that want casual sex in their 30s are a fair amount of bums. Idk it just feels like something you grow out off.
The thought of sleeping with a random dude creeps me out in a way. Like having that much intimacy with a guy I just met doesn’t feel attractive.
I had more casual sex in my 30s. Quite a lot, actually. But that’s because I was seeking it out. I have a high sex drive so between relationships, I do sometimes seek out casual connections if I have the capacity.
I did, likely because my confidence is so much higher in my 30s compared to my 20s. I’m 34 now and don’t really seek it out. The last casual partner I had was someone I sexted with for years and then just so happened to be in my city.
None at all, ever. I’m not interested in that
I have zero interest in anything casual at my age. I never was when I was younger but I let men talk me into it.
I had casual sex in my early 20s, but I honestly just didn’t enjoy it (selfish partners, etc), so I’m just not interested in it now that I’m 30.
I was trapped in a small dating market and once I escaped, I gathered some more casual experience for a couple of years. But, generally, I’m not interested in this.
> I’m not saying there aren’t men willing, but they all seem like bums.
Girl, that’s called life experience 😂
31F and fuck no, not anymore
Probably about the same quantity but much better quality
Single or in relationships, I didn’t have good sex in my 20s. I had a lot of it but it was more of a mental or emotional satisfaction. I barely orgasmed. I am engaged now to the only man who’s consistently made me finish, I feel like the chances of that happening were usually more likely in a relationship for me if it did happen. I’ve never had a casual meet get me off. Not sure if that’s just how most men are or if I was just unlucky 😆 but the threat of pregnancies and STDs with randoms with low chance of orgasm no longer appeals to me.
In my 20s I had the most casual sex possible lmao – in my 30s now and it’s hardly ever. I don’t like having me. I don’t know in my space and rarely want to go to a strangers house… plus it’s hardly ever worth it. Just started to feel less fun and more… sad and icky in my 30s.
Less. I want to at least be fond of someone I’ll bother to put time into, and my standards are higher.
In my 20s I needed more validation, and I had more time on my hands.
I was married in my 20s. So I definitely had my post divorce hoe phase in my 30s
Way less. Zero interest in casual
Less in my 20s. More in my 30s.
I seem to pull really well too. I meet guys that workout a lot, have a 6 pack and know what they’re doing in bed.
We have a good time together and sometimes even cuddle a bit but there’s no expectations for more than that. I enjoy it a lot.
Nah . Didn’t have it in my 20s but I’m
Open to it now. Honestly being in a relationship is too much energy that I don’t feel like dealing with … but I have needs
I’m 30 and have never been comfortable doing that.
Single 30s me had less than single 20s me. Fewer people beating down my door combined with me being lazier and far less forgiving in my 30s(“Oh you’re flaky? Block. Next.”)
In my 20s, I was more often single and more carefree with casual sex.
Now in my late 30s, I feel most confident when intimacy has a deeper connection, either emotionally or intellectually. This confidence is also strongly tied to feeling safe and protecting my body (and by proxy, others), but very few people seem to be aware of the importance of frequent testing + sharing results before having sex.
I sometimes desire casual fun, but now have the wisdom to also want to be smarter about it, and that leads to less options for me.
Been abstaining since I turned 31. I’m turning 36 in 4 months .
Life is peaceful and my friendships and connections are more meaningful to me now. I don’t have time for surface level crap and meaningless sex truly takes the meaning out of it .
🤪🤷💅🧘♀️
so much less, I’m more choosey and at a place my peace comes first, I’m doing the typical screening,
He got a place , does he give the vibes he’s a safe sex man meaning hygiene and cleanliness, what’s his effort likw u know amongst a few things
If this cookies gonna crumble I better see what the batter is baking ya feeeeeel ladies 😌
I’m definitely having more casual sex in my 30s than I did my 20s. I was trying to be the good girl thinking this is what a woman should be. I’m at the age where I’m not ashamed of liking what I like and I do it proud
Less. I had some casual sex in my 20s, but it was mostly for validation and I didn’t enjoy it all that much. Once I learned how great sex can be with an attentive partner and a strong emotional connection, casual sex lost its appeal.
No interest in casual relations.
Risking STI’s and possible pregnancy under this administration for some loser that probably wouldn’t even pay for my abortion or take care of me afterwards? The thought sickens me.
Way less. Less clubbing, no student dorm parties.
I left a 7-year relationship at 31 and had casual sex for a year. I’m currently 1.5 years sex and any physical action free at 34. I enjoyed casual sex in my early 20s.
Now…the thought of casual sex gives me the ‘ick’. Sure, I’d like some, but my standards are finally high, and I want to get to know someone…and I’m not in the mental space to look for anything.
Never been into casual sex. Definitely need to vet lovers, including medical testing.
In my 20s yes. In my 30s absolutely not and I actually can’t think of anything that sounds worse 😂 right now I’m celibate so I’m just not interested at all tbh
Way more.
LOL I was married for my entire 20’s, so I have most definitely had more casual sex in my 30’s and 40’s than the preceding decades.
Definitely not. The older I get the more repulsed I am by casual sex, and frankly by sex in general. I’m 39. The minute it starts to feel like a razor blade, I’m closing it up indefinitely. I’m also on a few medications for hormones that affect my libido.
Definitely less. I’ve had enough casual sex in my 20s to know it’s not really worth it
I was never into casual sex. The couple times I thought something would be a casual fling, it turned into a serious relationship. Not because I wanted it to, just the guys continued to turn it into more then casual.
The same amount I had in my 20s and that I’m having in my 40s: none. Nothing against it morally, just I’m the sort of person who stays at home 95% of the time and doesn’t do much socialising, wouldn’t even know how to go about using a dating/hookup app to find anyone, and — much as I really enjoy sex — has never wanted or needed it badly enough to bother putting in the effort to find a casual partner. I wouldn’t get the big emotional hit I get from sex with someone I know and love anyway, so really just can’t be arsed for such minimal payoff.
I wish it could be more casual, because at this point, I no longer believe in a positive and happy relationship (even though I still think having sex with a partner would be better and safer).
However, I no longer have the same interest or energy to meet new people just to have something casual. So in practice, I do it casually, but much less often than I’d like. Back in my 20s, I used to do it more often, mostly with significant others.
never had casual sex not something I was ever interested in.
Never into it, and never will be. I’ve still only even kissed one person, and I was married to them. Very happy staying true to who I am. I believe others should do the same. For some, that might mean being like me, for others, the complete opposite. I’m attracted to a very small number of men, and love is more important to me than sex. If I don’t have love, I don’t even have an interest in sleeping with someone. I didn’t have a post divorce “ho phase.” I had a post divorce “know phase.” “Know” as in go back to school and get another degree and gain knowledge, and the homonym “no” as in “no interest in dating or sex.” All I know is it’s going to take a lot for me to even want to kiss another guy ever again. And maybe I just won’t. And that’s ok too. I’m happy I was able to find real love, even if it didn’t last. Everything we had was very meaningful.
I had casual sex in my twenties and in my thirties. I’m 60 now, and I rarely have sex at all… but when I do, it’s usually casual sex.
WAY more. I spent my entire 20s in a LTR. I’m not interested in a relationship at the moment so I pretty much only have casual sex, although I’ve been lazy and mostly kept it to my FWB.
I’ve never had casual sex in my life 😅 I just can’t be sexually attracted to someone I’m not in love with.
No, it’s too dangerous. Had casual hook up once and twenty years and two kids later he still hasn’t left my side 😅.
None cus well husband, kids and pets at this stage in my life the sex I get is very much not casual lol but it is good.
Far less. Very little interest nowadays.
None at all . It’s always bad and not worth it in any way.
My now developed frontal lopes agrees, that it pretty much sucks.
Zero stars. Wouldn’t recommend.
No, never interested in casual with anyone I haven’t dated, like long term. I just don’t get turned on or attracted enough during the getting to know phase, or feel we haven’t built enough trust to get that intimate in a short few dates. Even with really gorgeous guys, nope I need more than good looks