It’s not my case as I do have friends of opposite sex and so does my partner. We trust each other and I dont see any reason why not.
But I see a lot of people around me who don’t want their partner to have friends of opposite sex (or same gender in homosexual relationship?).
And I’m wondering if this jealousy goes away with time and partners just end up accepting their other half friends.
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No, we are not still jealous of our significant others’ interactions with people of various sexes, and the jealousy goes away with time as partners just end up accepting that everyone bangs.
It depended on the partner. I’m single now. This was never a problem with my relationships before or after the one who actually slept around a bunch while we were together. I never trusted her fully afterward and her interactions with other men made me uncomfortable. But that turned out to be reasonable – not just based on the past, but the last one to make me uncomfortable, just before she left, is now her third husband.
So, for me, there never was any distrust unless there was a reason for it in the form of a partner who wasn’t trustworthy. And once she was gone, I again fully trusted my subsequent partners.
I guess it depends on the people, too. I know a lot of people who wouldn’t tolerate their partner having opposite-sex friends, and a lot of people who don’t worry about it. And I’m talking about fellow 70-year-olds, so they have lifelong feelings one way or the other.
No, not at all. It’s healthier that way. Friends are healthy. Isolation is not. I work in a male dominated field. Life would suck if hubby had issues with other men in my life. Thankfully he’s not the jealous type. Many coworkers are my friends. And same for hubby. We know friendships are important to each other. One thing that helps is that I won’t talk shit about my husband to the opposite sex bc I don’t want any misunderstandings or anyone to feel that they have an opportunity to make a move.
No but then I never was. It is part of the reason we are married.
I was at times with previous partners but I didn’t marry them and part of the reason was because they acted in ways that made me feel that way.
Because of the way I was raised, I always felt I was never enough – like why would anyone ever want to be with me? So, with my first real partner, this was a huge problem. I realized that I had to make a conscious decision to trust him, and I did. Now I trusted my second husband, but he cheated.
Still? No. Never was.
Never was much of a jealous person, and as I get older even less so. I can only control what I do, not what others do. I love and trust my husband, and I firmly believe that we both treasure what we’ve built together. But if that were to change ever, then I’d send him on his way and wish him the best.
No, never was, I’ve always trusted him
No, my closest friend of 39 years is the opposite sex. He’s my brother from another mother, my husband has a close female friend as well. We’ve been together since 1978.