Cut all contact, feel the pain, and let it humble you not destroy you. Hit the gym, find your purpose again, and don’t chase closure. They already showed you who they are. Believe it OP
Moving forward, trust slower next time, but don’t close off. Just move wiser and don’t let what they did define how you show up in love.
What ever happens it’s going to take some time. Go through the motions. Trying to rush or force it is likely going to make you feel worse. The best thing you can do is find something big or small to keep busy with, until you feel like yourself again.
A friend of mine got cheated, he was going to marry her, and he caught her literally cheating on him with multiple guys.
For starters, he actually wanted to kill himself. But slowly got out of the depression, his main support came from his friends.
I personally took him to the gym, i made sure he got out of the house every day. I trained him in the gym in the daytime. Me and the other guys also made sure we booked some kind of sports and played it. Badminton and cricket were played alternatively for the whole week.
It took him approximately 1.5 years to get back to normal condition. Getting out and engaging in something is the best way to overcome this ig.
Cut contact, get a therapist, find a new hobby, keep yourself busy. Most importantly, find a support system. It can be people online, friends, family, anyone who will be there to just listen when you need to vent.
Try to accept that “cheating” is as made up of a concept as the idea that to love someone means that you possess them. I just don’t believe in it anymore.
Do something for yourself. Get a good friend and go on a trip together and do some fun activities. Maybe a road trip if your budget is limited.
Or solo trip to someplace you’ve always wanted to go – but immediately plan some things that will keep you social (pub crawl, join group tours, stay in hostels with other folks, etc.) – and DON’T bum people out with too much feelings talk all the time in that scenario – just be the cool I guy who says “my ex cheated on me so I got the fuck out, and ended up in Rome. Should we do some shots?”
Understand that you got cheated on. So you didn’t do anything wrong really. When people cheat it’s because something morally is wrong with the person that cheats. So regardless of what you did or didn’t do, it’s really the other persons “fault”.
Take your time, might even need a couple years. Feel what you need to feel, improve yourself so you can land a better quality woman next time. Hit the gym, keep up with your studies. Good luck brother god is with you
Forgiveness is key. Learning how to truly forgive is a Spiritual muscle that you need to “work out” and acquire. Grace is involved. If you don’t or can’t forgive; it will become a weight around your neck that your heart will carry turning it hard. A hardened heart becomes a spiritual and mental block that won’t ever allow you to truly love again unconditionally.
Forgiveness is key. Learning how to truly forgive is a Spiritual muscle that you need to “work out” and acquire. Grace is involved. If you don’t or can’t forgive; it will become a weight around your neck that your heart will carry turning it hard. A hardened heart becomes a spiritual and mental block that won’t ever allow you to truly love again unconditionally.
I blocked her and cut all ties. It hurts a lot but be thankful you got saved from a worse future with a shitty person. You got rid of the problem. Let karma handle her.
In my experience, enough short term hookups that you come to find them unsatisfying. That’s where you’ll end up but you’ve got to go through the process of having them.
Do things that reward your newfound freedom. That may or may not mean dating, but it can mean travel without accounting for your time. It can mean last minute decision making. It can mean doing things that make just you happy.
That your last relationship ended in infidelity doesn’t, in the long run, mean anything more than it ended. In a way it “ended” but you were just the last to know. It’s not a referendum on your value as a person or as a partner. So moving on from it isn’t any different than moving on, generally.
Don’t blame yourself! It has nothing to do with you. If you want to use it as motivation to better yourself that’s fine, but don’t do it because you think you’re not good enough.
Look on the bright side of finding out now vs later vs never
Cut contact, block on everything, feel the pain, and do your best to work on yourself.
I pretty much suffered alone majority of the time. Tried drinking myself silly, tried distracting myself with anything and nothing helped really. I planned on marrying my ex as well and having kids with her (she ended up doing that with the guy she cheated on me with) and it lowkey destroyed me a little but…I remember everything she put me through the last few months of our relationship and feel bad for bro.
If you need it, talk with someone about your feelings. A friend, a family member, a therapist or even a stranger.
Don’t rush to get back in a relationship. Rebounds are unfair for the person you’re using to get over your ex. It doesn’t work.
Take time to process the pain. There’s no shame in feeling those emotions or crying.
Keep your job and your hobbies.
Hit the gym or practice some sport. Get in shape.
Treat yourself to something you always wanted. I got a new motorcycle for example.
Travel somewhere new and celebrate being your own person in this universe.
One day, you will wake up and everything you went through will feel like it happened in another life and you just read it in a memoir. You will know deep down how to navigate the next relationship and how to be a better person, but you won’t feel the pain anymore.
life will be better than it ever was. In fact, it will take you places you never thought you’d go, and experience things you never imagined.
Sleep with her/his sibling or close friend. XDXDXDXDXDXD /s
But on a serious note, while others say that you should gym, etc, one thing is a must ; allow yourself to feel all your emotions and remind yourself once and for all that the person is not coming back.
The best way to get over the last one is to get on top of the next one, but just for fun and not get serious, then the next, then the next, in a short period of time, then take a break to focus on you.
Tbh. Take stock and learn. Did u miss signs? Were u looking past obvious stuff. Even did you do stuff to drive her away or even what do u do to attract ppl who see you as being cheatable. Almost Everyone can and at some point will be cheated on/broken up. Ppl get too caught up in their feels vs taking sober data. Rarely is it 100% someone’s fault. Own ur contributory part even if it’s just jumping into relationships quickly because you love being coupled up and u overlook red flags.
It’s important to take time and reflect on whether or not you saw red flags before the cheating happened. Also reflect on your assumptions about relationships based on your own personal family experiences. Many people who grew up in families where one parent cheated on the other end up making the assumption that all partners will cheat and that ends up being who you attract into your relationships.
Cut all contact. Period. No social apps, no calls, no texts. Block everything. Go for a run, hit the gym. Take a break from dating till you get your head straight. Have some fun out with friends and surround yourself with good people. Then see what else might be out there. But take your time.
My ex-wife cheated 6-7 months into our marriage. I wasn’t angry about the cheating. What I was angry about is that I wasted all that time, energy, and money in getting married in the first place. I didn’t want to be single again, but it was worse being in a relationship with no respect. The most important thing you can do is respect yourself, respect your boundaries, and move on with the knowledge that you can make things better the next time around. It may take time, but don’t stew in self-pity.
Cut all contact. Give, replace, sell, or throw away anything that triggers some sort of reminder of them. Hang out with people, do something you like doing, and maybe go to therapy. On top of all that just give yourself a lot of space and time to heal. Do not expect the healing process to be immediate. Just wait and let time help move on, make use of your time in other ways, and you will honestly let go of those feelings towards that person.
For me it took realizing that monogamy wasn’t for me. I understood the temptation to cheat, and ultimately accepted that I’d prefer being in an open relationship where we both communicate our desires to sometimes adventure sexually with other people vs lie and cheat.
It’s not for everyone, but for those of us who are ethically nonmonogomous, it’s really great.
I would suggest that you use the pain to drive a massive self improvement program
I have been involved men’s work for a long time. Something I have seen repeatedly in that time is a guy would join the men’s group. He would have recently divorced and his life was a train wreck. And then for my own reasons I was a part of a different men’s group and did not see him for a few years. Maybe I run into him 5 or 10 years later. At first I don’t recognise him, because he looks 10 years younger and he is in a new relationship with a person who he would has considered “out of his league” when he first got involved.
Actively work to improve your mental health with everything you’ve got.
Get back into old hobbies, make new hobbies, workout, do whatever you want to. Heck go to a concert or a party or literally anything you want. Just don’t close yourself off from the world and fester in hatred, that sh*t will destroy you.
Oh and don’t chase closure. Ngl I did after my ex wife cheated on me. Idk, I just wanted the closure so badly I honestly became a doormat because of it. I never even got it either, and I had to learn to just let it go.
Generally, memory replacement, so find someone new… failing that analyze why it happened, who was at fault and will it likely happen again, then work our a life plan that will result in it not happening again or was it a highly likely or unknown high random factor that may happen again outside your control.
I only let a mistake happen once, i cant control other people, so i make sure i dont land in a position that it could even happen in the future.
Allow yourself to the feel pain and emotions. Know you’re not alone and the pain will eventually subside. It just takes time and there isn’t a set amount of time, it’s different for everyone
Time is going to be the biggest thing. Get space from them, and try to remember it’s their failing, not your fault.
If you have a lot of idle time, find something interesting to do. Less time to sit and think = less dwelling on it.
There’s a glib old saying that “the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else,” but that’s pretty variable for each individual. But maybe some low-stakes dating, where you don’t have to worry about deep trust or infidelity, just having a nice time with someone.
Remember that this says nothing about your self-worth. You did nothing wrong, she did. Sure, you should grieve the lost relationship, but don’t beat yourself up for something you had no control over. Those were her actions, not yours.
That person no longer exists. They were a part of your life, some parts I’m sure were positive/ happy. Mourn the loss but accept it is gone. Throw away every photo, put away every item that reminds you of them. Cut off all contaxt 100%. No you can’t be friends. No you don’t owe them anything. As far as you’re concerned, they are dead.
Break the pattern of your life with this person. Go to the gym, join something, meet new people, travel, move —-anything that is different to break the routine in your mind that involves this person.
I was cheated in my 20s. I consider it my fault looking back as I tried to hang onto her too much and loss my edges and individuality. I was so ott infatuated that I was like a puppy and annoying.
She also wasn’t very nice but really really hot. I think I knew deep down she was less into me and instead of moving on with dignity, I tried to hold onto her in an unhealthy way.
After it finished, all my family and friends said how little they liked her and the effect she had on me. Not one person in my family of friendship group liked her but not one said a thing out of respect for me.
I threw myself into going out, spiritual discipline, exercise, adventure, friends. I had amazing friends. It left such a mark on me for over 10 years though.
I promised myself I would never be possessive or jealous again in my life.
Cut all contact, cry. Journal, process it in a healthy way, work on yourself, start dating again when it feels right and just take with you what you’ve learned from your last relationship. And know what you want/don’t want.
That’s how i’ve been doing it ever since my ex emotionally cheated (and monkey branched) on me
Just forget about it. Then continue your life. You should be happy on your own for starters and then you can find someone next to you. Next time you will find yourself someone who you deserve.
Don’t let this experience make you bitter you to women!!!
The worst thing you can do during this process is take on a bitter, misogynistic mindset. And buddy, there is no shortage of Internet based content out there to try to suck you into that rabbit hole forever.
You got hurt really bad by a piece of shit woman undeserving of your love and commitment. The worst thing you can do isgive her the power to rule over your perception of all women going forward.
Get in the gym, harness the anger, fix your diet, get in solid shape, get your life and finances in order, and go burn time with some “for fun” kind of girls.
My husband would say, “Go sleep with someone else.” It’s what he did back in the day when he found out his ex was cheating on his for 2 years out of the 3 year relationship💀
Make sure you cut off all contact with the individual who cheated on you and dust off your knees and you move forward. While moving forward analyze your actions during the relationship. Take a self inventory to find out if there was something that you might have been lacking with. Ask yourself the serious questions like were you emotionally unavailable? Did you not engage sexually with the person? Did you take them for granted? did you show a lack of interest as the relationship became more mature and lastly, what could you do to improve and learn from this experience.
Many times in today’s relationships, somebody take someone for granted. Sometimes they don’t perform sexually as the other partner would enjoy or appreciate. Sometimes sexual activities get boring and many relationships can experiment in different directions and do different things. Sometimes bring a third person to spice things up can be pleasurable for everyone involved as long as there is no jealousy. It can actually be healthy for the relationship. There is a difference between sexual contact versus love.
Find little way to avenge the insult target her and the AP. Nothing dangerous or out of control . Spread weed I her car. Piss on the seats in his car. You should have access to ex SSN . With that the sky is the limit
Just walk away.
No emotion showing, Accept what is lost and you aren’t going to get it back.
Just try not to lose too much of your own assets.
Might be rough couple years ahead of you, you might even end up couch surfing for couple years. but honestly, that’s irrelevant. some years later you remember what you learned, it probably isn’t the nicest part of your life, but your mental health is more important.
For me it was meet a hot chick in the same situation and fuck like crazy for a couple
Months. Forgot about her and the 20 year marriage she flushed pretty quick. Was it the right thing to do? Probably not but I don’t regret it.
Depends on how close the person was. We talking GF? Wife? Casually dating? Are we upset because our heart was broken or trust violated or just a feeling of emasculation?
90% of these are solved by a boys trip to Vegas or a really good strip club. Go on a bender, get a ball, and realize that life doesn’t end at this moment.
If married, get a divorce lawyer and a gym membership.
I just blocked her on everything and banged whatever moved for a bit, not great but after a lil while i was over it. Just knowing its some bitch who thought she could do better makes it easier
Celebrate finding out beforenu got married and lose half of all your shit to her.
Embrace your 2nd chance of freedom to be the best version of yourself using new hard learned experience to find a superior female.
At the end of the day, who’s gonna carry the boats??!
Get back together with your ex. Make them regret their decision with love and forgiveness so your relationship starts to get back on track, then cheat on her with her mother.
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One day at a time
I guess it depends what kind and what length of relationship your in, what you want to do with that?
Hit the gym and get ample amounts of sunshine on your skin – these will make your body produce natural “feel good” chemicals.
Avoid alcohol and other controlled substances – they will worsen depression or cause other harm.
Cut all contact, feel the pain, and let it humble you not destroy you. Hit the gym, find your purpose again, and don’t chase closure. They already showed you who they are. Believe it OP
Moving forward, trust slower next time, but don’t close off. Just move wiser and don’t let what they did define how you show up in love.
Bang your girlfriend’s new fucboi, assert dominance.
What ever happens it’s going to take some time. Go through the motions. Trying to rush or force it is likely going to make you feel worse. The best thing you can do is find something big or small to keep busy with, until you feel like yourself again.
Two chicks at the same time.
A friend of mine got cheated, he was going to marry her, and he caught her literally cheating on him with multiple guys.
For starters, he actually wanted to kill himself. But slowly got out of the depression, his main support came from his friends.
I personally took him to the gym, i made sure he got out of the house every day. I trained him in the gym in the daytime. Me and the other guys also made sure we booked some kind of sports and played it. Badminton and cricket were played alternatively for the whole week.
It took him approximately 1.5 years to get back to normal condition. Getting out and engaging in something is the best way to overcome this ig.
Tell her mom
Cut contact, get a therapist, find a new hobby, keep yourself busy. Most importantly, find a support system. It can be people online, friends, family, anyone who will be there to just listen when you need to vent.
To get over someone, get under someone else
Try to accept that “cheating” is as made up of a concept as the idea that to love someone means that you possess them. I just don’t believe in it anymore.
Do something for yourself. Get a good friend and go on a trip together and do some fun activities. Maybe a road trip if your budget is limited.
Or solo trip to someplace you’ve always wanted to go – but immediately plan some things that will keep you social (pub crawl, join group tours, stay in hostels with other folks, etc.) – and DON’T bum people out with too much feelings talk all the time in that scenario – just be the cool I guy who says “my ex cheated on me so I got the fuck out, and ended up in Rome. Should we do some shots?”
Consider the trash took itself out… hit high strength vitaminD tablets and do what makes you happy
Understand that you got cheated on. So you didn’t do anything wrong really. When people cheat it’s because something morally is wrong with the person that cheats. So regardless of what you did or didn’t do, it’s really the other persons “fault”.
Lift, get paid, get laid.
Take your time, might even need a couple years. Feel what you need to feel, improve yourself so you can land a better quality woman next time. Hit the gym, keep up with your studies. Good luck brother god is with you
Realize she did you a favor and showed you who she really was. Then spend time with friends.
Forgiveness is key. Learning how to truly forgive is a Spiritual muscle that you need to “work out” and acquire. Grace is involved. If you don’t or can’t forgive; it will become a weight around your neck that your heart will carry turning it hard. A hardened heart becomes a spiritual and mental block that won’t ever allow you to truly love again unconditionally.
Forgiveness is key. Learning how to truly forgive is a Spiritual muscle that you need to “work out” and acquire. Grace is involved. If you don’t or can’t forgive; it will become a weight around your neck that your heart will carry turning it hard. A hardened heart becomes a spiritual and mental block that won’t ever allow you to truly love again unconditionally.
Work on yourself
Strip club is always a good idea. Even if you weren’t cheated on
Accept being a cuckold
I blocked her and cut all ties. It hurts a lot but be thankful you got saved from a worse future with a shitty person. You got rid of the problem. Let karma handle her.
By finding someone who is worth your time.
In my experience, enough short term hookups that you come to find them unsatisfying. That’s where you’ll end up but you’ve got to go through the process of having them.
Therapy
Do things that reward your newfound freedom. That may or may not mean dating, but it can mean travel without accounting for your time. It can mean last minute decision making. It can mean doing things that make just you happy.
That your last relationship ended in infidelity doesn’t, in the long run, mean anything more than it ended. In a way it “ended” but you were just the last to know. It’s not a referendum on your value as a person or as a partner. So moving on from it isn’t any different than moving on, generally.
Don’t blame yourself! It has nothing to do with you. If you want to use it as motivation to better yourself that’s fine, but don’t do it because you think you’re not good enough.
Look on the bright side of finding out now vs later vs never
Cut contact, block on everything, feel the pain, and do your best to work on yourself.
I pretty much suffered alone majority of the time. Tried drinking myself silly, tried distracting myself with anything and nothing helped really. I planned on marrying my ex as well and having kids with her (she ended up doing that with the guy she cheated on me with) and it lowkey destroyed me a little but…I remember everything she put me through the last few months of our relationship and feel bad for bro.
Sleep with her/his sibling or close friend. XDXDXDXDXDXD /s
But on a serious note, while others say that you should gym, etc, one thing is a must ; allow yourself to feel all your emotions and remind yourself once and for all that the person is not coming back.
The best way to get over the last one is to get on top of the next one, but just for fun and not get serious, then the next, then the next, in a short period of time, then take a break to focus on you.
Go to the gym. Meet and date new women, many new women,
Tbh. Take stock and learn. Did u miss signs? Were u looking past obvious stuff. Even did you do stuff to drive her away or even what do u do to attract ppl who see you as being cheatable. Almost Everyone can and at some point will be cheated on/broken up. Ppl get too caught up in their feels vs taking sober data. Rarely is it 100% someone’s fault. Own ur contributory part even if it’s just jumping into relationships quickly because you love being coupled up and u overlook red flags.
With dignity, and plenty of it.
It’s important to take time and reflect on whether or not you saw red flags before the cheating happened. Also reflect on your assumptions about relationships based on your own personal family experiences. Many people who grew up in families where one parent cheated on the other end up making the assumption that all partners will cheat and that ends up being who you attract into your relationships.
Get to the gym and hit those weights. Play sports with your bros. And keep yourself occupied with your hobbies.
Cut all contact. Period. No social apps, no calls, no texts. Block everything. Go for a run, hit the gym. Take a break from dating till you get your head straight. Have some fun out with friends and surround yourself with good people. Then see what else might be out there. But take your time.
Take time to heal and do things not for anyone but you
Throw eggs at her window after drinking a sixpack. Deny everything
My ex-wife cheated 6-7 months into our marriage. I wasn’t angry about the cheating. What I was angry about is that I wasted all that time, energy, and money in getting married in the first place. I didn’t want to be single again, but it was worse being in a relationship with no respect. The most important thing you can do is respect yourself, respect your boundaries, and move on with the knowledge that you can make things better the next time around. It may take time, but don’t stew in self-pity.
Mourn it like a death not of her, but of the version of you that trusted her
Cut all contact. Give, replace, sell, or throw away anything that triggers some sort of reminder of them. Hang out with people, do something you like doing, and maybe go to therapy. On top of all that just give yourself a lot of space and time to heal. Do not expect the healing process to be immediate. Just wait and let time help move on, make use of your time in other ways, and you will honestly let go of those feelings towards that person.
For me it took realizing that monogamy wasn’t for me. I understood the temptation to cheat, and ultimately accepted that I’d prefer being in an open relationship where we both communicate our desires to sometimes adventure sexually with other people vs lie and cheat.
It’s not for everyone, but for those of us who are ethically nonmonogomous, it’s really great.
It just takes time and self improvement.
I would suggest that you use the pain to drive a massive self improvement program
I have been involved men’s work for a long time. Something I have seen repeatedly in that time is a guy would join the men’s group. He would have recently divorced and his life was a train wreck. And then for my own reasons I was a part of a different men’s group and did not see him for a few years. Maybe I run into him 5 or 10 years later. At first I don’t recognise him, because he looks 10 years younger and he is in a new relationship with a person who he would has considered “out of his league” when he first got involved.
Actively work to improve your mental health with everything you’ve got.
Forgive yourself and the other party.
It doesn’t matter what they tell you, any “closure” you receive won’t be enough
Block, and just move on. Life is too short to pine over garbage humans.
Not sure the best way but definitely try not to let the person in your future pay for the mistakes of people in your past.
It’s difficult but you can do it
Get back into old hobbies, make new hobbies, workout, do whatever you want to. Heck go to a concert or a party or literally anything you want. Just don’t close yourself off from the world and fester in hatred, that sh*t will destroy you.
Oh and don’t chase closure. Ngl I did after my ex wife cheated on me. Idk, I just wanted the closure so badly I honestly became a doormat because of it. I never even got it either, and I had to learn to just let it go.
Generally, memory replacement, so find someone new… failing that analyze why it happened, who was at fault and will it likely happen again, then work our a life plan that will result in it not happening again or was it a highly likely or unknown high random factor that may happen again outside your control.
I only let a mistake happen once, i cant control other people, so i make sure i dont land in a position that it could even happen in the future.
Distance yourself from her. Dont seek her out.
Allow yourself to the feel pain and emotions. Know you’re not alone and the pain will eventually subside. It just takes time and there isn’t a set amount of time, it’s different for everyone
Ménage à Trois!
Time is going to be the biggest thing. Get space from them, and try to remember it’s their failing, not your fault.
If you have a lot of idle time, find something interesting to do. Less time to sit and think = less dwelling on it.
There’s a glib old saying that “the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else,” but that’s pretty variable for each individual. But maybe some low-stakes dating, where you don’t have to worry about deep trust or infidelity, just having a nice time with someone.
Remember that this says nothing about your self-worth. You did nothing wrong, she did. Sure, you should grieve the lost relationship, but don’t beat yourself up for something you had no control over. Those were her actions, not yours.
The quickest way to get over one is to get on another.
That person no longer exists. They were a part of your life, some parts I’m sure were positive/ happy. Mourn the loss but accept it is gone. Throw away every photo, put away every item that reminds you of them. Cut off all contaxt 100%. No you can’t be friends. No you don’t owe them anything. As far as you’re concerned, they are dead.
Break the pattern of your life with this person. Go to the gym, join something, meet new people, travel, move —-anything that is different to break the routine in your mind that involves this person.
I was cheated in my 20s. I consider it my fault looking back as I tried to hang onto her too much and loss my edges and individuality. I was so ott infatuated that I was like a puppy and annoying.
She also wasn’t very nice but really really hot. I think I knew deep down she was less into me and instead of moving on with dignity, I tried to hold onto her in an unhealthy way.
After it finished, all my family and friends said how little they liked her and the effect she had on me. Not one person in my family of friendship group liked her but not one said a thing out of respect for me.
I threw myself into going out, spiritual discipline, exercise, adventure, friends. I had amazing friends. It left such a mark on me for over 10 years though.
I promised myself I would never be possessive or jealous again in my life.
Move to the next one, u should always have a backup gf
The best revenge, aside from being served cold, is just living well.
Take care of your mind and body and the rest will follow. And if it doesn’t, then maybe it’s time to see a therapist or counsellor.
The best way to get over one person is to get under another 😜
Ghost, don’t even sense her. Forget it all so you don’t put it on someone else.
Cut all contact, cry. Journal, process it in a healthy way, work on yourself, start dating again when it feels right and just take with you what you’ve learned from your last relationship. And know what you want/don’t want.
That’s how i’ve been doing it ever since my ex emotionally cheated (and monkey branched) on me
get a rebound. Most likely won’t last long but it will refocus your pain.
Time
Just forget about it. Then continue your life. You should be happy on your own for starters and then you can find someone next to you. Next time you will find yourself someone who you deserve.
Fight fire with fire.
Don’t let this experience make you bitter you to women!!!
The worst thing you can do during this process is take on a bitter, misogynistic mindset. And buddy, there is no shortage of Internet based content out there to try to suck you into that rabbit hole forever.
You got hurt really bad by a piece of shit woman undeserving of your love and commitment. The worst thing you can do isgive her the power to rule over your perception of all women going forward.
Get in the gym, harness the anger, fix your diet, get in solid shape, get your life and finances in order, and go burn time with some “for fun” kind of girls.
gym
the best way to get over someone is to get on top of someone else.
Find out why she cheated and just move on. Find an outlet to focus the pain on
My husband would say, “Go sleep with someone else.” It’s what he did back in the day when he found out his ex was cheating on his for 2 years out of the 3 year relationship💀
Delete all traces of her. She doesn’t exist anymore.
Make sure you cut off all contact with the individual who cheated on you and dust off your knees and you move forward. While moving forward analyze your actions during the relationship. Take a self inventory to find out if there was something that you might have been lacking with. Ask yourself the serious questions like were you emotionally unavailable? Did you not engage sexually with the person? Did you take them for granted? did you show a lack of interest as the relationship became more mature and lastly, what could you do to improve and learn from this experience.
Many times in today’s relationships, somebody take someone for granted. Sometimes they don’t perform sexually as the other partner would enjoy or appreciate. Sometimes sexual activities get boring and many relationships can experiment in different directions and do different things. Sometimes bring a third person to spice things up can be pleasurable for everyone involved as long as there is no jealousy. It can actually be healthy for the relationship. There is a difference between sexual contact versus love.
What i did after my last relationship (she cheated)
1.) God to therapy and fix yourself
2.) Let time pass to heal
3.) Hit the gym
4.) Practice more discipline
It was extremely hard but honestly im glad I did it. Totally different outlook on life. And it does get easier.
Take on a new hobby.
Hired an escort for the best 90 minutes I had in three years. And then watched her leave(that was my favorite part)
Sleep with the guy she cheated on you with. Assert dominance
Find little way to avenge the insult target her and the AP. Nothing dangerous or out of control . Spread weed I her car. Piss on the seats in his car. You should have access to ex SSN . With that the sky is the limit
OP, what is your current age?
Just walk away.
No emotion showing, Accept what is lost and you aren’t going to get it back.
Just try not to lose too much of your own assets.
Might be rough couple years ahead of you, you might even end up couch surfing for couple years. but honestly, that’s irrelevant. some years later you remember what you learned, it probably isn’t the nicest part of your life, but your mental health is more important.
Cut all contact
Find a good support system within friends and family
Go to the gym, get sexy
rebound sex.
For me it was meet a hot chick in the same situation and fuck like crazy for a couple
Months. Forgot about her and the 20 year marriage she flushed pretty quick. Was it the right thing to do? Probably not but I don’t regret it.
Get into a relationship of any kind ASAP, the shallower the better.
Recognize you dodged a bullet and cut off all contact. It will suck but for your future self will thank you.
Accept that it will hurt for some time, but it will pass eventually , sometimes it takes years
Just deleting photos, blocking them on social media thats it.
Depends on how close the person was. We talking GF? Wife? Casually dating? Are we upset because our heart was broken or trust violated or just a feeling of emasculation?
90% of these are solved by a boys trip to Vegas or a really good strip club. Go on a bender, get a ball, and realize that life doesn’t end at this moment.
If married, get a divorce lawyer and a gym membership.
Just treat them like they never existed. No contact.
Cut them off, hit the gym, stay busy, and remind yourself everyday you deserve better.
Hit the gym
So you can take care of your body.
Quickly and without remorse
I just blocked her on everything and banged whatever moved for a bit, not great but after a lil while i was over it. Just knowing its some bitch who thought she could do better makes it easier
Celebrate finding out beforenu got married and lose half of all your shit to her.
Embrace your 2nd chance of freedom to be the best version of yourself using new hard learned experience to find a superior female.
At the end of the day, who’s gonna carry the boats??!
Get under someone else
Fuck her sister
Honestly delete all communication and photos of the woman
Get back together with your ex. Make them regret their decision with love and forgiveness so your relationship starts to get back on track, then cheat on her with her mother.
Hit the gym
As others have said, cut them out of your life, go to the gym, and work hard at your job. Make money.
The best revenge is success.
“The best revenge is success”
Go no contact and spend some time alone (or with friends) without involving yourself with other women.