Men. wanna know why we would choose the bear?
I’m on an evening stroll… I pass by a motel…then I notice three men are behind me…I think nothing of it at first…it’s a nice evening and a public street…so I go a long….I can hear footsteps approach. So I stop to allow them to pass…they do not. I start walking faster…footsteps match my pace. I see one of the men is so close I hit him with my ponytail as I turn around. I loudly said…STEP BACK YOU ARE TOO CLOSE TO ME. luckily an officer is driving by…my neighbor the guys ran off.
I need bear spray and a bat
Sorry just needed to share my scary experience.
The woman that posted does not normally male bash, is not a SJW etc. I am withholding my thoughts and curious what other men’s reactions will be.
I am working on an update comment now. Thanks to all who replied.
Comments
Please do not delete your post after receiving your answer. Consider leaving it up for posterity so that other Redditors can benefit from the wisdom in this thread.
Once your thread has run its course, instead of deleting it, you can simply type “!lock” (without the quotes) as a comment anywhere in your thread to have our Automod lock the thread. That way you won’t be bothered by anymore replies on it, but people can still read it.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
Not sure what you are getting at? My opinions on whether women should be allowed to carry bear spray? I’m not creepy, so I don’t really care all that much. Don’t be creepy and it shouldn’t concern you
Women have the right to choose the bear. I don’t see a big deal about her choosing the bear. Heck as dude I would probably pick the bear too. I ain’t tryna be caught lacking by no guy lol at least you know the bears nature. A man could hide his nature and then do some grimey shiet. Seen it happening all da time.
I would agree that the bear spray is prudent.
Makes me feel like these men are creeps and might have done something worse than a bear mauling. Fuck every duck, smh.
I would file it under “don’t care” along with almost all social media posts ever created.
You don’t have to have an opinion on everything, particularly other people’s opinions.
Given many women claim to have had such experiences, I can understand the whole bear thing.
Bears are more predictable, you’re not going to trust it with your life nor would anyone expect you to. There’s only one decision to make and that’s stay away. The man may or may not be trustworthy and you might not find out until it’s too late.
If you can’t understand why women would choose the bear then you are being willfully ignorant
Men who get offended by this are the men they’re talking about.
As a man, if they’re scared, they’re scared. Fucking let them be scared and maybe, eventually, they’ll be able to spot them easier or have some recourse.
Dude. I’m a guy. So don’t act like we all don’t know dudes exactly like she’s describing.
If she sees me and is scared and crosses the street. So what? Why does that bother you? More sidewalk for me.
These are dark times we’re living in right now. The worst people feel emboldened to behave however they want. But this is certainly not representative of how most men behave. If I saw men behaving this way, I’d want a baseball bat as well.
Maybe she should carry a gun, or mace.
Well, she had a horrible experience.
Whether she’d rather meet a bear (I assume we’re talking grizzly or something here) in the woods than a man, I still think she’d be better off with the man, but it’s honestly none of my business.
The social media post doesn’t make me feel anything, I’ve always thought the man/bear thing was supposed to be a thinking point, it’s not *literally* true in the sense that we’re supposed to think a random man has more chance of harming you than random grizzly bear.
Disappointed.
It makes me feel a little upset that men would put her in a position to feel that threatened.
Being a “SJW” and not wanting to be…
*checks notes*
…raped and killed…
…have nothing to do with each other.
The problem lies in individuals, not in groups or classes.
This situation should not be addressed by the fact these individuals are men, but specifically as a result of these individuals poor behavior regardless of their gender, race or any sort of class.
It makes me want to be the man a woman trusts more than a bear
“Fuck I hope she is ok, and I don’t want any of whatever the fuck is going on there. I am gonna give them another half a block of space.”
Ok so bear spray is watered down pepper spray because bears are way more sensitive to smell than we are. It’s less powerful, not more. Regular pepper spray is what you want.
https://preview.redd.it/5yglecdesuue1.jpeg?width=750&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=728b6c0533f2f50f4a1b5af39704cb549b22a776
Bear would have ate her on the spot. She def needs bear spray regardless… cuz shouting at a bear isn’t going to work every time and they don’t care about a cop.
I think everyone that can pass a background check, not currently under court orders, no history of instigating violence, and is willing to commit to the training and thorough testing on when to use/ not use, and use safely, should have the right to carry whatever defensive weapon they feel most comfortable with and are qualified to use up to and including a gun. If mace/pepper spray is all they figure they need and are qualified to use it, absolutely.
Also, like most other hero tales on Reddit I imagine this story is bullshit. Still though, I absolutely get why women would choose a bear. If we’re talking black bears, I’d rather run into a bear in the woods rather than a man as well. And I’m a 220lb 6’3” dude.
Posts don’t make me “feel” anything. I THINK that post was probably bullshit. However, I don’t feel the need for anyone to agree with my perspective on everything either.
I’m not sure what should I have an opinion about. Really shitty men and shitty places both exist sadly. Sounds like you live in a shitty place and sounds like they were some shitty men. I’m sorry about that and I’m glad you didn’t get hurt. Shitty men feel enabled to act that way when they are alone or in like-minded company. It’s hard to call out bad behavior as a decent man unless you accidentally stumble upon it, because a lot of these vermin are experts at timing.
So much of this shit is staged and for attention to go viral, and you’re eating it up
I feel nothing. I couldn’t care less what made up story someone decided to post for attention.
Some men are creeps… most aren’t… always be prepared for the ones who are… carry whatever you need to in order to make yourself feel safe.
You say she doesn’t “normally engage in man-bashing”
I’d argue that she’s still not engaging in man-bashing. Those 3 men deserve whatever they will get when they’ll make a woman feel like she needs to defend herself.
It sounds like a frightening situation. I’m not sure if a bear would run off, but bears are also really cool. I’d probably choose a panda.
I think it goes: panda, koala, black bear, human, grizzly, polar bear.
Weird
Creative writing exercise.
She’s taking an evening stroll, at night alone, in this case by a motel (and not a hotel so who knows how sketchy the area might be), so it sounds like some city kind of place. Back in the Victorian days women would rarely, if ever, go strolling around at night alone; they always had a chaperone / escort. After reading stores like the above (which I see on twoxchromosomes) I’ve come to the conclusion that the chaperone’s job was more to protect the woman from her own foolishness and stupidity and less to protect her from muggers and rapists.
But nowadays single “liberated” women are often living alone and don’t have the luxury of having some man handy to chaperone them when they need to walk somewhere at night. (Who would tell them that taking a stroll at night in the city is not the smartest thing to do.)
Plus, these women living in the city and choosing the bear undoubtedly have zero experience in the wilds and have no clue about how dangerous bears can be.
It reminds me that a lot of men are creepy and predatory and women should be armed to deal with them.
I have no idea what SJW stands for, and I’m all for people being able to defend themselves.
People are looking at a reason for outrage. If a woman has had bad experiences wirh creepy men, she’s entitled to her reasons for picking a bear. Why should anyone create angst over what a woman chooses or not?
It doesn’t make me feel anything. Some guys are dangerous and women are an at risk category of people when they’re alone.
It sucks but it’s reality.
But it’s also reality that you’re not surviving an encounter with a bear. And it will arguably be much more painful of an end.
It made me feel like I quit reading soon as you mentioned the bear scenario
Honestly? Gave me a little giggle.
Imagine if a bear was behind the poster.
I’d be upset that a friend of mine was almost attacked by three shady dudes.
I assume you know this person. I don’t follow strangers on social media.
If someone did actually have that experience and chose to post it & I can’t see it having a bearing on me.
If a woman does wish to carry ‘bear spray’ as non creepy male I can’t see it being used on me very often.
To be honest, some women are not exactly backwards in coming forwards these days and I find some of these interactions inappropriate. Perhaps I could post about carrying an anti female spray. The reaction to that on a thread populated by woman would be interesting…
It makes me wonder why you care, and more importantly why you think I should care about a random social media rant posted by one stranger and then shared by another.
I’d read the first line and say, “nope, I really don’t give a fuck about why. Thanks for making that red flag obvious so I didn’t have to waste my time.”
Men are substantially more likely to be the victim of a violent crime than women are according to FBI and police statistics.
I call BS. By the time her pony tails are whacking the dude they’ve been tripping over each other’s feet for a while.
That said, I get “the bear” thing. Some folks are scum. In response, I carry a gun. She should to.
Was the guy following her neighbor, or is her neighbor the police officer, or was the police officer driving past her neighbor, or what? Honestly, she seems a little confused the way it’s written….
My thoughts are that the woman who posted this is might live in a relatively bad, high-crime neighborhood. People do not get stalked or harassed on the street in my neighborhood. It doesn’t happen. You do hear stories about it in worse areas of my city, which is unfortunate. And in any city, it’s always good to stay aware of your surroundings. She also could have experienced paranoia where she thought she was being followed, but was actually just sharing the sidewalk with a group of other people for all we know. Hell, could be a made up story for all we know.
Men are also not immune to this, although they may be targeted for other reasons. A male friend of mine was followed onto an empty street and mugged two years ago. Another male friend was drugged at a bar, where they used his face to unlock his phone, log into his bank accounts and proceed to drain most of the money out of his online accounts in addition to stealing his watch. Unfortunately crime does happen and it’s not just women who are at risk or who are victims of crimes.
Lastly, this woman wouldn’t have been able to casually walk by 200 bears throughout the day and have friendly, totally innocent interactions with dozens of them that day, and every day for years beforehand. The first bear would have ripped her face off and mauled her to death.
So this analogy is still absolutely idiotic no matter how you slice it. 😂
“Men, wanna know why we would choose the bear?”
“Nope..”
I empathize and sympathize about situations like this. Posts like this have no benefit for me at this point so I chose to avoid it. All it does is accumulate negative discourse and blame all men and im exhausted by all that.
Makes me wonder do these people realize the bear would not choose them?
At one point in my life I realized I had never in my life had a female friend that had not been sexually assaulted by a man. Every girl from when I was in high school until now that I’m in my 50s has a horror story about a man doing things to them. As a father of 2 20 something women, I am pissed I cannot protect them from these assholes.
Except you yelling and a cop driving by it’s stopping a bear