I don’t really have a set type when it comes to men. But, when I bring up certain guys to my friends, they look at me like I’m crazy. My guy friend who is gay told me the type of men I was talking about were called “bears.” For people who don’t know, urban dictionary defines a bear as “a husky, large man with a lot of body hair.” I guess it’s a look more popular with gay men? All I’m going to say is that I’m glad there are people who understand my attraction since my straight female friends don’t get it🥲 They tend to like skinny, androgynous men (I like this too) so we sometimes have a disconnect when it comes to them guys we like. Sometimes I question them though because they also judged me for crushing on Willem Dafoe who is objectively attractive in my opinion.
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Honestly, sounds like you’ve got that magnetic ‘I’m cool and confident, but still approachable’ vibe. Gay guys have an impeccable radar for that kind of energy. It’s not weird—they just see something they admire, like a secret talent for being cool with everyone. If it’s making you uncomfortable though, a simple ‘hey, not interested’ should do the trick. But hey, at least you know you’ve got excellent taste in people… even if they don’t quite match up with your dating preferences. 😅
We like who we like. I have a type of body shape I prefer, but I’ve been attracted to a lot of different types of women. I get a lot of guy friends not being attracted to my type. And you know what, that’s fine with me. They like what they like. I like what I like. Besides, physical appearance is only surface level attration. It’s not until you get to know someone that you find out how attractive they really are. I mean, I’ve met women who were what I would consider a 10 physically. But once they open their mouth and I learn about who they are, I won’t touch them. And I’ve had good relationships with women who were not my “type.” It’s all personal preference. We all like different things. And that’s a good thing. And just think. If you find a nice bear who treats you right, your friends won’t be any competition. He is all yours.