I’ve always been on the quieter side (INFJ personality type) and as I’ve gotten older I’ve definitely noticed there seems to be a trend with personalities I just DON’T click with. I personally tend to gravitate towards more sensitive/nerdy people. For instance, I knew my roommate and I might not click when I first met her cuz she gave off more aggressive vibes if that makes sense. I’m just wondering if anyone else has experienced this too! Also it’s not that I can’t handle bubbly, I like bubbly people if they are nice but some people can come off as aggressive or stand offish and I’m sure there’s things about me that rub them the wrong way (I think a lot of people don’t like quiet people cuz they think we don’t like them for instance).
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I’m an ENFJ (just barely more extroverted than introverted) and find I click more with other INFJs and other introverts in general. I like that introverts want to hang out occasionally, not all the time because I also need my space. I’ve had friends try to hang out all the time during the week and I appreciate it, but that’s also too much for me.
Not really. I mean, know I get along better with people who are geeky/nerdy and can have an intelligent conversation about science, Greek gods, or social constructs, but sussing out who those people are has never been a thing I was good at.
I will say that I’ve been trying to make new friends recently and one of them is a no go because she doesn’t like doing things or going places. I have enough long-distance friends and text buddies. I need friends I can go do things with. The neighbor who invited me to rock climb every week has a lot more potential even though she isn’t geeky. I’ve just realized at this point that having people who are available to be your friends is more important than some cosmic connection.
I always get typed as an INTJ and enneagram 5 but I really doubt the accuracy of the results. I don’t pay too much attention to personality types (MBTI etc) I tend to avoid overly loud, shouty, sweary types and people who just talk about celebrities, gossip, tv and that sort of thing.
If I click with someone, they have usually been the more quiet, quirky and nerdy types, but I have managed to have positive interactions with a wide range of people. There have been times I thought I might not like someone and ended up enjoying our time and conversations together.
Yes, 100%. I go between ENTJ and ENFJ, and get along best with people who are outgoing and ambitious. On the Enneagram scale, I’m an 8 wing 7. Despite always being on the extroverted scale, I spend most of my days at home and need considerable alone time to recharge.
I have close friends who are more introverted, but they’re still outgoing and not socially awkward. I don’t vibe with people who aren’t comfortable socializing, or those that are more quiet and reserved.
All but 1 of my best friends are type A.
Putting people into categories and ruthlessly sticking to them will not help you make friends. Unless they are neurodivergent too and also like to categorise everything.
I view personality types and astrological signs as good Ice breakers but not a tool for strictly navigating relationships.
I click best with people that are kind, funny, emotionally mature and with the same values as me.