Met in person one time drunk in a bar, we exchanged Instagram, a few small chats here and there, decided to ask her out, she said yes, Than I checked her profile and posts, and now I don’t think she’s my type đŹ.
I know I should’ve checked it sooner ! But what’s done is done !! how do I cancel it without being an asshole and hurt her feelings ?
Asked a girl on a date and now I want to cancel it, how to do it safely ?
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Met in person one time drunk in a bar, we exchanged Instagram, a few small chats here and there, decided to ask her out, she said yes, Than I checked her profile and posts, and now I don’t think she’s my type đŹ.
I know I should’ve checked it sooner ! But what’s done is done !! how do I cancel it without being an asshole and hurt her feelings ?
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You just say you have second thoughts about meeting up.
You dumb bro? Just text and cancel.
Just go, and then at the end, tell her that sheâs not really your type and thatâs that
Maybe youâll have fun
What were the posts and profile red flags?
What was the date plan?
How much fallout could there be?
Message her and say that after some time to consider it, you think sheâs cool but donât think youâre interested in a relationship.
Being honest isnât complicated, but it can be difficult sometimes.
Tell her you shit your pants and can’t make it. If she isn’t your type. You won’t care how she views you going forward. Next time, do better research before you ask a woman out.
“Hi, just wanted to say I’ve enjoyed our conversations so far, but I’m not interested in taking our relationship further. Sorry for cancelling. Hope you find someone else.”
Yes, reads very work email-like. But that’s what I would do.
You can tell I’m single.
Just go and then tell by the end it was fun but you are talking to other chicks atm
HI, i’m really sorry but i have to cancel. My parents grounded me for the next 2 weeks.
Don’t say you don’t want a relationship or you need to cancel – these things make her think you want to reschedule or you are using an excuse. Tell her you don’t think you feel a connection with her or that you are not right for each other.
But, I would advise you to reconsider and try at least one date unless it is over something that goes against your values. Before I met my husband, I didn’t think I would be interested in him because he wasn’t tall, but when we met, it was love at first sight practically.
Personally, I would still go and then after that if I don’t like her just say, I don’t think it works. However, if you really must cancel it just say the truth. I don’t think we share the same views on whatever you disagree with.
You could be wrong.
Just cancel. Donât waste her time and your by going. If youâre old enough to get wasted you should put in your big boy pants and tell her.
Too late, youâre going to have to marry her
What do you have to lose except a few hours of time? Plus, maybe her real personality won’t reflect her Internet personality and you’ll be pleasantly surprised. Or you’ll find there’s more to her than Instagram or whatever posts.
Safely? lol
You can either tell her the truth “Hey, after seeing on FB that you are XYZ, I do not think we are compatible”.
You can give a white lie “Hey. I am sorry but after some self reflection I do not think I am ready for dating”.
Some people may think you should still go. But only you know this. I mean, did you see on FB that she does not like football and you do? Or did you see she is right while you are left?
Don’t chicken out, go and be nice. Just make sure to not get closer to her than 2 meters or she might get pregnant from your masculine scent.
Well youâre basically judging a book by its cover. Go and just see what happens. Donât be that guy.
Youâre gonna appear like an asshole no matter what. Life isnât about avoiding looking like a meanie đ
Who gives a shit, youâre going to be the bad guy in someoneâs story. I think more importantly, you should get to know her before you let assumptions and posts make your decisions for you. I wouldnât bail. Go on the date, donât like it, move on.
But trying to be ingenuine to save someoneâs feelings is not it. If you cancel, be straight up, and move on. At least she might have a bit of respect for your honesty and not the âitâs not you itâs meâ bullshit
Just go on the date. And then after just say you aren’t feeling it.
Go on the date know her and then decide.
If she is so ugly to you that you can not even think of going out with her just to chat, say that you are not interested anymore and never bother her anymore.
Who tf doesnât look at the profile of the girl before texting with her ? Especially before asking her out?
Be honest and polite about being drunk.
What is your “type” exactly and why do you even have one? Unless her socials are displaying something that’s an absolute deal breaker like she’s racist or whatever, just go. She might be great for you. It’s gonna cost you an hour and the price of a coffee.
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Apologize to her and let her know that she is not your type.
I am really disappointed in a lot of of these comments telling you to do it anyway.
âHi! So I have to cancel our date unfortunately. Nothing personal, youâre probably amazing. But I donât think we are aligned in a way that would be a good match, and I wouldnât want to waste your time. But I really enjoyed talking to you the other night.â
Simple as that.
How do you know she isn’t your type?
My take is that online dating is arguably the worst fucking thing we’ve ever done as a species. We seem to think dating is a problem that can be solved algorithmically because we create social media profiles that are accurate representations of ourselves and that when we go to a dating site we know ourselves well enough to know what we are looking for.
It is my observation that absolutely every assumption in that chain is incorrect. It is an engineer’s approach to this problem, and I’m sympathetic as an engineer myself, but it’s not the way to solve this problem.
I would suggest to you that meeting her in person and talking long enough to know you’d like to see her again greatly outweighs the evidence that any online profile would provide regarding your compatibility. So unless you’re die hard MAGA and she’s a super pro abortion anti-men far left wingnut or there’s some other extremely important thing you’re just absolutely incompatible on I would suggest just going on the date and getting to know who she really is instead of deciding you’ve already figured her out based on a curated social media profile.
Tomorrow by OP: âwhy canât I ever find a girl that fits my type?!?â
Give it a shot. People arenât always themselves online. If she is who she portrays herself online, at least you can say you met and didnât judge her off something that might not be real.
Than you checked her Instagram?
Tell her just like you posted this, with poor grammar. Sheâll think she dodged a bullet and youâll both be safe.
Honestly bro, if you donât plan on ever seeing her again, I wouldnât worry about being nice
You sack up and go on that date. Dont be a shit head.
Just text and cancel or block her. Problem solved.
You acknowledge that you made a date you should not have, apologize, and break it.
Just go on the date, Instagram is very superficial she could be completely different on a date.
You hit her up and say youâre canceling.
you treat her the way you would want to be treated if it was the other way around and you accept that thereâs nothing you can do to control her reaction.
I usually go with âI forgot I already have a thing, and I canât cancel it because it would be rude. But you have my number and maybe we can do something soon, if weâre both free.â
Some people put on a façade for social media; they want to look âcoolâ and be accepted. Unless sheâs exhibiting true deal breakers that go against your moral foundation Iâd suggest one date. If sheâs a nightmare in person, then you know at least you gave it a shot, and can feel justified in letting her know you donât have enough in common to continue.
Go beyond the internet and meet her in real life. Bcuz who knows? Iâve also met some great girls that werenât right romantically but became good friends.
Just go on the date dude, don’t be a dickhead. You asked her out before you checked her profile, that’s on you.
Hey Girl, I really enjoyed chatting at the pub this weekend and was looking forward to our date but I have to cancel. I don’t think I’m in the right headspace to be dating at the moment. Wish you all the best.
Badaboombadabang. Cancelled.
Go on the date donât be a dickhead
Probably a sweep kick to take her legs out first. While she’s on the ground quickly tell her you have to cancel then run away before she gets up. đ
If the vibes are off then be polite but direct. Apolgize for asking her out and say you are cancelling. However, people don’t learn shit from mine since its just records and shirts I own/sell and random repost or sports/show updates in my stories so maybe give it one date?
Go on the date. If you have a good time, go on a 2nd date. If not, then just say “it wasn’t there for me.”
Social media isnât real life. Youâve already vibed in person and you clearly got on well. Itâs just a first date, no one is forcing you to see her again if it doesnât go well.
Donât be lame. Go for coffee, be a decent human and go from there
Tell her you’re canceling because you’ve had a change of mind, and decided it was for the best to part ways. At least you’re thinking instead of ghosting. Also, being truthful is always the best.
Stand her up then block her number and any socials. Easy.
You have no control of how she’s going to react, you only have control over how you handle the situation. If you don’t want to feel like an asshole, then be respectful and honest. If she thinks you’re an asshole for being respectful and honest, that’s for her to deal with.
Go on the date, just donât lead her on if your feelings are confirmed. Key word being confirmed, since what you saw is social media and that shit ainât real.
What exactly is on the IG?
If it is hateful messages about politics I would tell her directly that I don’t like the hate.
If she looks like a party girl, I would go on the date. I do not want to date a party girl, or influencer, or Only Friends girl. Lots of people try to make their social media look like that, when they are not like that in real life. My niece is one like that. I spent a day with family, and this niece was there. She came and cooked breakfast for my parents, and the rest of the family. Then her friends came to help clean up. We all went for a walk on the sandy beach, and had a picnic. It was a very family oriented wholesome day. So what does this young woman post on Instagram? It shows photos of her and her friends jumping around, hugging and looking like party girls. One girl is holding a red solo cup. So it looks like beer, or a large mixed drink. It happened to be litter that blew off the table and she is picking it up. The photos shows one thing, and the story behind it is completely different. I know she does not drink, and is not comfortable around drunks. And most of the day is family oriented. The pictures show a different story.
So getting to know this person might be in order here.
Honestly I would just go on the date. Have fun and don’t worry about it not going anywhere. What do you realistically lose by going?Â
Say “saw your posts, sketch, ew. I don’t want to see your personal side when that’s what you show the world.”
Dude, she may be the freak you need in your life! Just go on the date and have fun. And split the bill 50/50.
“Yo, I can’t go on a date right now. Will let you know when I can reschedule.”
Go on the date, see how she is, it’s kind of a douche move no matter what you do if you cancel it
Itâs a FIRST DATE go, if she is who you think she isâŠ.donât ask her on a second.
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