Here is the link to the OG post so y’all know what I’m taking about and who the people are: AITAH for making my son and his wife pay for their room in my house? : r/AITAH
I am back! Thank all of you guys for your comments.
So, I am friends with Georgia’s mom and dad. I’ve been over to their house a few times and it is pretty large. 2 story, 5 bed, 4 bath, mansion living basically. I told them how my son and Georgia are looking for an apartment at the very least and asked if they could pitch in.
Well, it turns out they thought the apartment that I lived in was their apartment. They said that Georgia had told them that they were “having me live with them because I couldn’t afford a place of my own”. I work full time in a very stable job.
So, I confronted my son and Georgia last night at dinner. My son didn’t know that Georgia had said this to her parents, and was mad at Georgia for telling lies about me.
Georgia basically said I was desperate for money since I was making them pay in my “shabby apartment”. So yea. I’m pretty ticked off at Georgia and I’m sure my son is too. I don’t know if I’ll make anymore updates, but I wanted to make this one since I feel like it related to the story very well.
As for my son having to pay rent, he did end up coming to me last night after Georgia went to bed and apologized for himself, and Georgia, saying that looking at places to stay was making her stressed with all of the money they’ll have to be spending in the future.
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This is a sad update, OP. You need to kick them out. They are both disrespecting you over and over again.
Kick them out yesterday or quit complaining about her
Welcome to adulthood, kids!
You need to tell your son that the gravy train is over, especially with the liesHis girlfriend is telling. They need to pay 2/3 of the rent and all utilities going forward or kick them all out! Do they work?so what do they do with all their money? or are they just freeloaders and living off of you and not working? at the very least kick the girlfriend out, she has a place to go
Wow, the girl is a piece of work. Don’t get too attached
NTA
The cuckoo is in the nest, it won’t rest until the parent is bled dry…
‘Sorry I made you out to be a desperate parasite mom, when I’m the one helping my wife bleed you dry.’
OH HELL NO! I’d have kicked little Miss Georgia out on her peach…that level of disrespect doesn’t get tolerated. You give them (her) a firm out date.
Notice he didn’t offer to actually pay up though…
Updateme
Not sure why you haven’t kicked them (“but he’s my son” is not an excuse) out as neither one sounds very respectful. Sounds like ESH
NTA. Yup. Adulting is hard. They aren’t going to cope well if they think $20/week is too much. They need to leave OP alone and go live with her parents. Sounds like they have the space. Her son should really rethink his relationship. She sounds terrible.
DIL will keep on lying, to you and to your son. NTA. Prepare for some long term issues from them/her. Good luck.
Tell Georgia to head on back to her parents’ house, and tell your son he can go or stay, but the ungrateful brat is not staying in your home, having you pay all the bills, and trashing talking you to other people. She’s living on your time in your home, and all you asked was $10 a week. Since your apartment is so shabby to her, she can hop on her high horse and ride it back to her mummy and daddy, who will hopefully do their best to teach her the decency, gratitude, and kindness she is so utterly devoid of.
Incidentally, if your apartment is so shabby, ask the royal mooch why she was claiming it as her own to her parents; if it isn’t up to her standards, why would she say it was hers?
She needs to leave, and your son needs to decide if that is what he wants to spend the rest of his life with and who he’d like to raise a family with. How is his wife going to teach kids morals and values when she’s an ungrateful, disrespectful, mooching liar?
UpdateMe
NTA. Do not feel bad. They have had plenty of time to bank money. Now it’s time for her to get the heck out.
His apology isn’t adequate enough. It doesn’t matter if he’s sorry about what his wife has done.They need to pay their dues.It is not your responsibility to pay for grown.Adults to live in your house.
Take master back at least – good grief
Tell your son and his wife, they have 3 choices.
Pick one.
Where is your backbone? Why would you allow yourself to be treated this way?
If I were you, Georgia would be going home to her parents. What did her parents say when you told them the truth?
Kick them out. They are taking advantage of you.
You need to find your spine honey you lost it under your doormat. I mean that in the kindest way.
I understand that you are trying to help them but you’re really not. They need to figure their life out before they start having kids. You need to throw them in the deep end. In the end that is gonna be the best you can do for them.
Kick them out.
Everybody: Never rent or sell property to anyone you know, especially family.
That whole thing Georgia told her parents makes me question what they think of your son. Maybe they think he is incapable of caring for her so she retorts that your son doesn’t get any support from his parents and you have to live with them. You may need to ask about her relationship with her parents. They may be the condescending controlling type while she’s defiant and wants to appear independent.
Kids (young adults) have emotional imbalances; they say and do unsavory things. It seems like your son still needs your leadership. What kind of man do you want him to be in a few years?
They do need to pay rent. They need to perform chores. They need to be respectful in your home. Work it out. Apartments and homes are unaffordable for the wages most young ppl earn. They either stay with you and grow up, or they move out to take a major step down in housing.
Turns out your son is dating a bum. She sounds like someone who would likely be sleeping under a bridge
It’s time for Georgia to move out.
Give them a formal eviction notice and update Georgia’s parents that they both are about to be homeless & are NOT GOOD TENANTS. Tell your son him enabling he’s wife disrespectful is absolutely unacceptable and reject he’s apologies. He can very well go live elsewhere & lie about it. NTA. I know you love your kid, but he’s abusing your kindness. Can you also adopt I & my dog if you need tenants?, i dont want master bedroom 😉
Updateme
Her parents have a 5 bed 4 bath mcmansion and they are staying with you in a small apartment? kick them out
The excuse of Georgia being stressed is complete BS. We all have stress. You don’t have an excuse for treating people like crap because you’re stressed. That does not alleviate your stress in any way.
Updateme
They’re stressed about the money they’ll have to pay when they get their own place? But don’t see the gift of $40/per person a month? They’re entitled. And $80 isn’t going to hurt them “saving” for a down payment anywhere.
Accept his apology. Get one from her bratty a*s. And charge them rent. At least $100/person. If that’s “too expensive” for them, they can move into her daddy’s mansion. You’re letting them disrespect you in your own home and you need to let them know actions have consequences. Ones they will now face for their disrespect and lies.
I hope you called your son out on his bs excuse and said you need to reframe that apology I’m sorry my wife’s a b*tch!!
NTA. No matter what you do, get them out of the primary bedroom. That’s yours.
Wtf tell them get tf out
YTA if you don’t make your leech son and DIL pay, they are taking you for a ride and disrespecting you. Calculate how much it cost for them to be there, like food, electricity, water ect and rent, and tell them to pay that. If they don’t, tell them to leave and they can truly see how much it cost on the outside.
They are not going to take care of you old age, take care of yourself, build a savings and be selfish for yourself.
So why aren’t they living with her parents, who obviously have the room?
Tell them that since his wife has spread lies, and complaints the rent has now risen to market rates. If they complain, tell them they are now adults and they can work it out themselves.
You’ve been so kind and you don’t deserve that ahit from your DIL.
They’re grown ass adults, they should be paying at least half of rent & utilities
Pack their stuff in black trash bags and put it outdoors.
If they are old enough to be married, they should be living on their own, paying their own bills. What the fuck are you doing putting them in the master suite to give them privacy. Why should anyone pitch in for these adults to get their own place? You’ve created this situation & entitlement. ESH
NTA. But kick that bitch out! She’s a liar and rude and disrespectful!
NTA. Wow. First, they are adults and should have to pay rent. What you requested is not much (by American standards). Plus, they have the master bedroom, you pay all the bills, and cook. I get it. My daughter graduated college and came back home. But she didnt get my master bedroom. Making them pay is the responsible thing to do since they are adults. Second, Georgia lied to her parents, lied about you, and insulted your home. That says a lot about Georgia. IMO, my child could stay and occupy the guest room. But Georgia gotta get the fuck out. How ungrateful. Good luck!
Maybe it’s time to give them a deadline and set some very well needed boundaries.
$80 a month for a room is NOTHING! I can’t even remember seeing a room for rent for anything less than $300 a month since the 2000s
So…she’s disparaging your home on one hand and lying about it on the other. Yikes. Get her out and your son too. She can do whatever she wants in her own shabby apartment that she pays for. She’ll seriously be in for some sticker shock.
I don’t know that I could remain in a relationship with a liar. She’ll do it again.
They would be out so damn fast.
Maaaan this isnt a happy update:/ Op i’m sorry but your son and his wife are RIDICULOUSLY entitled
They need to leave now. She has showed she has zero respect for others. She’d rather make you look bad than be a responsible adult. Your son is making excuses for her shitty behavior. I hope he starts rethinking that relationship.
Updateme
Why are you not making them pay AT LEAST half the rent and bills? I mean WTAF???? Miss Georgia needs to adjust her perspectives if she wants to be respected.
I honestly don’t know if I could stand to have them continue to live me with. The disrespect is WILD!
My son is living with me at the moment and he pays $150 per week.
Please for the love of god kick them both out of your home, or at least her.
Wtf. Tell them both it’s time they moved in with Georgia’s parents. Let them mooch off them instead.
It’s time you had peace in your own apartment and the main room back for yourself
Good luck Updateme!
Just imagine how much $ you’re going to save when they move out.
All of this over $40/month?!
Your so. Is an idiot
Georgia can take her bs back to mommy and daddy.
I’m sure it’s devastating to realize that you raised such a disrespectful son. But because he’s going to be an adult for a long time even if he’s your kid, ya gotta nip this in the bud. If you accept this behavior then you are showing such treatment of another human being is fine. You won’t mean for it to be an invitation but they will see it as an invitation to treat you however they see fit.
It’s time to stop protecting the baby bird there mama. He’s a man but he’s not a good one.
And that’s sad not just for you but for everyone out there who will have to deal with your son’s character and it’s not great.
You are being disrespected in your own home for trying to help. Taking that out in on you isn’t adult behavior from either of them. I hope you can get a firm get out date and reclaim your home and your bedroom cause you never should have given this much. You are a mom thinking of her baby boy and not of how a man should be, an adult should be. Ya gotta stop fixing his problems cause the day will come you can’t and if he can’t figure out basic respect then he’s gonna be a problem for the rest of us and I’m so tired of that.
Good luck. You need it.
Why are Jack and Georgia living with you? Why aren’t they living with Georgia’s parents since they have a much bigger house? Why aren’t you under-reacting? Find your anger. Georgia made you look like a charity case.
They need to be paying more to live at your apartment. Add another more zero to the rent. I can’t believe they’re freaking out about all the money need to spend. What did they think getting married and becoming adults meant?
And take back the master bedroom. If they are going to stay, they should be in the smaller room so they’ll move out sooner.
He’s just excusing his wife. Tell them it’s time for them to go live with her parents for a while till they find their own place
They need to go. Tell them they have until the end of the week, and that’s it. Make it uncomfortable for them to live with you. Do not cook for them. I’d go so far as to cancel all subscriptions for the time being or just change the passwords. I’d change the WIFI. They are adults. It’s not your job to feed them or do a freaking thing for them. His wife is a liar. Also the way she speaks to you is disgusting. Hopefully they just leave when you tell them to. If not, go to court to get them evicted. I’d probably throw money at the problem even instead of going to court if they refuse, like here’s first months rent if you leave today. Why weren’t Georgia’s parents mortified? Did they offer to take them? Also take back your master room. If there’s no where for them to sleep, too bad.
UpdateMe
KICK THEM OUT
Oof, Georgia is a wife so he can’t easily walk away from all those red flags. Shame.