I need help and advice on how to confront my MIL and set boundaries when it comes to “having children”. For context, I (25F) and my boyfriend (25M) have been dating for almost 3 years. Engagement is likely around the corner and of course, starting a family. Within the first year and a half I wanna say, my boyfriends mother has made non stop comments about “when am I going to have a grand baby” “no one wants to give me a grand baby” “everyone has a grand baby on the way but me”…catching my drift? At first, it was a little funny..now?…it’s crossed my line. My boyfriend and I live together and she came over to our house to have dinner with us and introduce us and my dog (never seen a puppy before) to her new puppy. We all were on the couch watching tv and the puppy was laying on my chest. In the order we were sitting, I had my MIL on my left next to me, puppy on my chest, and my boyfriend to my right sitting next to me. My boyfriend and I do vape (not proud of it👎🏻) and I went to hit his vape while he’s up getting the water and I turn my head to the right to blow the smoke out – NOT in front of the puppy’s face. While my boyfriend was still up getting water, his mom leans into me with her finger pointed and raised at me and says “you better not be blowing that in the babies face” (pretty sure she meant puppy tho) and I respond “I’m not”. Her following up with “and you better not be doing that when you have babies”. 😳 excuse me?? Mind you, she was in my house, on my couch, and made that comment to me and ONLY me while her son wasn’t in the room! I haven’t even talked to my boyfriend about what she said. I am aware that it can be a struggle for some women to get pregnant and carry a child, but is it just me or is it insensitive to make comments like that when she’s not aware of any conditions i may have when it comes to carrying a child – i have never had my fertility tested. It has now been 2 days since she made that comment that has rubbed me so wrong and I am not sure how to address it with her.
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