TD;LR: Baked my (30F) boyfriend (30M) cupcakes for his birthday. He critiqued them like I was on a baking competition. And not that I did something nice? We’ve been together 2 years and its not the first time something like this has happened
Mainly pointed out I didn’t pipe the icing and was like presentation is everything? (which I agree to a point) but I’m not a baker, its not my day job? I made red velvet cupcakes had the cream cheese icing he said it was to sweet but he has mentioned in the past hered velvet is one of his favourites. So thats why I made them? He literally rejected them, liked pushed them away and was going to show his mum that I made a mistake? Well I took them back and gave them to my parents to see If they really were horrible – they ate all of them and I had one too and it was lovely! Not dry, moist delicious! And not to sweet
This obviously made quite upset I did make them at 10pm as well was quite last minute – now im worried to ever to bake or cook for him again if he’ll just be ungrateful the entire time like I LOVE making roasts what if he critiques how I cut the carrots or something????
Just need an opinion on this – am I being “to sensitive” or whatever
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Hey, yaar, my heart aches for you—baking those red velvet cupcakes late at 10pm for your boyfriend’s birthday was such a sweet gesture, and his harsh critique must’ve stung deep.
You’re not too sensitive; you deserve gratitude, not judgment.
That sucks OP. 🙁
The correct response to messy ill made cakes is ‘yummy, cake!’
This guy is a jerk and I wouldn’t bother my arse cooking or baking for him ever again, and letting him know his reaction is the reason. He not only shat all over a sweet gesture, but wanted to humiliate you further by showing them to his parents with the sole purpose of making you feel bad. When people show you who they are, believe them.
It was a lovely, thoughtful gesture, and he shit all over it. He doesn’t deserve those cakes or you, for that matter