I’m not a head turner, but I’m not invisible either. Recently, he’s been acting extra around pretty girls fixing himself up, eyes all over the place.
I called him out and told him I wanted to break up. He didn’t say anything, just hugged me tight. That hurt more, honestly.
Part of me wants to walk away, but damn, it’s hard after a decade. Anyone else been here? How do you actually leave when your heart’s still stuck?
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There’s of course context missing but what you’ve said here is he was acting poorly and you felt distance and you went to “break up”…
That’s a very dramatic result if that’s your go to for what could be normal ebbs and flows in an otherwise healthy 10 year relationship.
Sadly, I think you already have your answer. And everything can be situational with advice, as we all learn how to cope different ways. It’s by no means best advice, it’s mostly just lying actually.
Just ask him questions along the lines of getting surgery done to fix ‘insert whatever part you want to mention’ and see his reaction. Maybe it’ll help shed light onto his immaturity. He should just grow a spine and do what he wants and not drag his feet… or get his little toes wet to get a “fix”
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If he only clings to you when you threaten to leave, not when you feel unloved, that’s not devotion it’s fear of being alone. Ten years means history but don’t confuse shared time with shared love you deserve someone whose eyes don’t wander when you’re right there.
10 years and no progression into the relationship. His reaction to your threat confirms what you need to know. Leave and go to where you’re wanted.