Been with my partner for a while now and lately sex just feels kinda… routine. Is that normal? How do you keep things fun?

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Been with my partner for a while now and lately sex just feels kinda… routine. Is that normal? How do you keep things fun?

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  1. Which_End_3224 Avatar

    I got next. That’s how

  2. anti-beep Avatar

    Introducing a toy or roleplay or one of those sex board-games could be fun and are pretty common for ‘adding spice’.

  3. SquelchyRex Avatar

    Have a conversation about trying out new things in the bedroom. You might be surprised what they suggest.

  4. ProfessorVirtual5855 Avatar

    Time to mix it up.. need to talk to each other, try new things, role play, out fits.. chains what ever takes your fancy

  5. Brilliant_Banana2330 Avatar

    Toys , dildos , vibrators , restraints, floggers, handcuffs, Hitachi wand, watch porn together, shibari, go get piercings and tattoos, set up scenes like last full moon me and my wife went to a back road and fucked on the hood of the car in a field under the moonlight, cock extenders yes those are a thing guys and gals, ice is fun, sensory play, blindfolds, collars, gags, devices like our stockade, paddles, dongbang cupping set, body harnesses, lace and leather, public play and much more.

    If sex is boring then join the FetLife website and follow 100 people they will give you ideas

  6. 6packofbeard Avatar

    I’m here to say personally: this happened and it doesn’t mean things need to change necessarily, but a conversation is needed (with empathy) and sometimes this just happens. If you’re happy otherwise, you’ll figure it out. If it’s been nice before, just redo the “Why.”

  7. cupecakeee Avatar

    Totally normal. Spice it up new moves. new method, maybe even new rooms.

  8. Trout-Finder Avatar

    Time for some Butt Activities

  9. Fast_Night3485 Avatar

    Try something new and communicate. If it doesn’t work at least you can have a good laugh about it.

  10. derfw Avatar

    try different things idk. also there’s not anything inherently wrong with routine sex

  11. mydoglixu Avatar

    There’s a lot of truth to the old saying “Distance makes the heart grow fonder.”

    Add a bit more space in between yourselves, whether that be work, actual distance, or other activities, and you’ll find more excitement and anticipation of your time together.

    Rare things are more valuable.

  12. MwffinMwchine Avatar

    This is where you get to start opening up your identities to each other and finding out what you actually like. If there is anything you think of that turns you on, share it with your partner. If you want to enjoy sex, focus on it. Focus on making it as pleasurable as you can. Let your partner know that’s what you want to do and ask them to tell you when you’re doing a good job.

    Part of this is also patience, as not all people are in the mood to have a deep sexual experience every day/week/month/year. So you must let your partner know that you are comfortable with them telling you what they want most at the moment is “normal sex”.

    This advice comes with the assumption that I know anything about anyone, and I don’t. So if it fits, wear it, otherwise please discard.

  13. SandEverywhere00 Avatar

    Try new things. Different rooms. Outside maybe. In the shower. If you’re a F then surprising your man with a hug and penis touch from behind is something of a wonder.

  14. ccg91 Avatar

    Just wait till the sex is off conpletely

  15. swomismybitch Avatar

    Talk to your partner!

    If you both feel the same then you can also something about the situation and have a lot of fun doing it!

    All sorts of things to do but think very carefully before doing anything with a third party (or parties).

    Dressing up, role play, bondage, different sex acts, a bit of exhibitionism (but dont get arrested).

    Find things you both like but be cautious about things only one of you like. Maybe trade, I do something you are not wild about and you do something I am boy wild about

    Watch porn together. not only can that be fun in itself but you may get ideas

  16. Waffles2324 Avatar

    Shove a finger up his ass

  17. Theresnobiggerboat Avatar

    Communicate about your feelings and what you might wanna try and maybe your partner is on board with you. My husband and I often do that, trying new toys, cuffs and other stuff. We are happily married for 12 years now and can still learn new stuff.

  18. sbwcwero Avatar

    Do butt stuff.

  19. Strawbrawry Avatar

    Always talk it out. When people say that communication is key in relationships, they mean it.