Months later I’m finding out that my ex fiancé had been cheating on me with a coworker for probably a year before breaking up with me, and to make it worse her mom was dying so I assumed her distance and often cold demeanor was due to her mom but no… yeah she was sad about that but she also took it to advantage as I wouldn’t ever question her and felt too stuck to question odd behavior, then she just one day breaks up with me, after 5 years, unceremoniously. Never spoke to me again, and is now reaping the benefits of being a shitty person (I’ve learned that you cannot get anywhere in life being a decent human) and I’m still sobbing and longing for a whore who put another mans dick in her while I was sleeping in her bed. How do you get over this? I can’t even yell at her and I don’t have the energy for revenge. As much as I say things like “I hate her, she’s a horrible person” I would not hesitate to welcome her back in my life. Why are we like this? How can I move on and learn to love myself and forget her? 5 years of life and she’s moved on… I hate my life.
Being a human doesn’t make sense and sucks
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First of all: breathe. There are hard moments in everyone’s life and it’s normal to feel overwhelmed. Even if right now It feel like the world is falling apart you must remember, first of all, that this cheating didn’t happen because you were “less than” someone else or because you “weren’t enough” she was gonna cheat regardless of how much of a good boyfriend you were: that’s what cheaters do.
You said how you have broken up a year ago and you’re still not over it? I know it might sound hard but you can’t give up your life over a break up: focus on yourself, try to be the best version of yourself and find someone better. You deserve It.