this guy messed me up so bad to the point where i can’t even look at myself in the mirror. all the girls he used to follow. the girls he cheated on me with, and left me for, for good. all the lies he fed me.
i hate getting advice that i should just be working on myself, when thats exactly what i have been doing for the past 7 months, yet im still stuck. i cried so much, to the point where i feel ?bored? crying, if thats even possible. i just wanna forget him, but every time i remember the shit he has done to me, i’m back at square one. i did all the self help stuff, like meditating, journaling, crying and finding hobbies to distract myself, and none of it has worked for me since now. i’m so tiredddd like so fucking tired for real. it gets to a point. i feel like i have tried everything, just for things to stil be the same. how can i forget the shit he has put me through, it hurts me so bad.
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What helped me to move past it is that every time she would pop into my head, I would remind myself that I am soooo glad I am not with a cheater anymore. I can be happy being single as long as im not with a cheater.
A cheaters actions reflect their shortcomings, not yours. So give your attention and energy to things and people that matter and deserve it. Not people who betray you.
Changing thoughts is like a habit. You have to actively try for a while before it becomes secind nature to just push away thoughts that are no longer relevant or helpful to your current life.
Relax! Thats the most common thing to see nowadays! You should not be looking at such a waste of an idea because of some who not even worth a mention. Its hard but then you stronger than that.
You can always text if you want to vent
Omg!! Same!!! I have no more tears left to cry!!! And sometimes that’s all I want to do is breakdown and ball my eyes out. Felt suicidal too for over a month. My husband was in here cheating on me. With anyone and everyone he could get a meet up with. The worst part he won’t admit it. But the ones he connected with have told it all. So he knows he is caught but still wants to lie to my face and deny everything. I mean that’s how little he thinks of me? That I am that stupid? It’s just insulting all the way around. I pray the universe sends you positive vibes. You will get through this! There’s something amazing waiting for both of us on the other side of the pain we are enduring. Trust me!!!
Have you discussed this with your OBGYN or family doctor?
You sound like you might be depressed.
A talk therapist might be an option for you.
Me too but it gets better. Love yourself and find your worth again. Just because they failed to see it or take it for granted, doesn’t mean you don’t deserve to live life to the fullest. You will be okay.
It gets better but i understand
You are worth more than he saw. Try to appreciate yourself, you will find someone that truly appreciates you.
What helped my shattered heart was finally understanding the “why”. It’s different in your case (I wasn’t cheated on), but I cried every day for 2 years before I randomly stumbled across an article called Soulmate Scam: The Love Bombing Narcissist and had an epiphany. For years I tortured myself asking “why, why, why” every day. When I finally had an answer, I started to heal. Perhaps you can explore something like that in therapy.
I’m sorry to hear that .glad you did not and hope you have no further plans to do so
Sorry for your pain.