My friend was dumped via text by her bf of 8 months. They are both in their 30s. I told her that was really immature of him! She said that it’s the norm now…I can’t be the only one who thinks that is disgusting immature behavior as a 30 something?!
My friend was dumped via text by her bf of 8 months. They are both in their 30s. I told her that was really immature of him! She said that it’s the norm now…I can’t be the only one who thinks that is disgusting immature behavior as a 30 something?!
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yeah that’s crazy immature
No I agree. Unless I was in actual danger from meeting with the person I was seeing, I’d end things in person. I find text-dumping incredibly disrespectful and cowardly. Especially if the relationship is more than three months along.
that is ridiculous, your friend needs higher standards
Childish cowardice cannot be an acceptable norm. Avoiding taking responsibility cannot be an acceptable norm. Your friend dodged a bullet, but it’s very depressing.
You’re totally right – I think by the time you’ve established any sort of exclusive relationship or a relationship where you can call them BF/GF/partner/some-sort-of-relationship-title that a text breakup is completely rude and inappropriate. Probably at that stage, in-person is required, unless they’re long distance or something, in which case I could understand a phone call.
Text message ending is for when you’re still very very casual. I’m good with somebody texting that it’s not working if we’ve been on a few dates or something (although I’m also good with petering out as well at that stage). But an adult ending an 8-month relationship with a text? Gross. Your friend needs to date a higher quality of person – maybe asking somebody if they think this is an ok way to end a relationship in the early dates is a good qualifier.
It can be a bit cruel but at the same time, some people don’t handle rejection well so sometimes it can avoid toxic endings and be a better choice. Really depends on the relationship. Not saying it applies to your friend but it’s not always that bad.
I. Was dumped by a txt too and we dated for a month I was sad but I later realized it’s not worth it to grieve on
8months, no, but 8 dates, maybe yes.
I don’t want to get dumped in person unless it’s a very long, serious relationship that requires a long talk. I might be in the minority but I think a text breakup after 8 months is fine. I wouldn’t want the person to see me get emotional or upset.
After 8 months?! Absolutely not “normal”. I’d be livid.
I think it really depends on the people and the relationship. 8 months and super serious, see each other most days, yes, I’d say in person. 8 months of seeing each other once or twice a week, texting to fill the time in between, then texting could be fine.
I’m sorry that happened to your friend. Breaking up through text shouldn’t be normalized. It happened to me as well. Very hurtful and immature.
I’m fine with it. I think I prefer it.
Oh yeah that’s a total douche move.
It is immature, but he took the trash out for her. So she ultimately wins 🙂
It’s definitely gross. I not only had a dude break up with via text after THREE YEARS, but then a month later turned up at my local hang out asking about me. A friend heard him and gave me the heads up. I texted him letting him know that since he didn’t have the sense god gave asparagus, I was going to block him.