I love my girlfriend so much and before her I never had this mindset before. Growing up I was an only child and was treated very badly by my family and peers from school. Through my childhood I had this perspective that I’m going to be alone in life and have to figure out how to do everything on my own. That mindset I don’t wanna say matured me faster but in a way it did and it made me VERY independent. I was in a 6 year relationship prior to my current girlfriend and I feel like I wasn’t even in one cause I did everything by myself. Basically doing everything alone and I never felt lonely and I felt like I would live my entire life this way. In my relationship now we’ve been together for almost 3 years but I don’t think I could do anything without her now. I can’t imagine a future without her and it’s been really hard when I’d leave her house due to the fact she lives an hour away from where I live and work. I find it really weird just because how independent I lived my life to now I can’t even think about anything but her and our future together. I’m just so intrigued about this from the psychological standpoint of how she changed my lifestyle.
TLDR; Love my girlfriend so much that I’m no longer as independent as I used to be
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Congrats! It sounds like you found true love.
Oh you poor bastard
“I can’t imagine a future without her”
Well dude, you’re gonna have to try. I don’t want to be mean, but I felt exactly like you once and had to learn the hard way and I wasn’t even young when I learned it, so to try and steer you away from suffering the same pain I have, you’re going to have wrestle with the possibility that this might not be forever. I know it feels right to go all in, it feels like this is what life is about… unfortunately life doesn’t care what you think it’s about.
Ignore all the noise from pessimistic men who have trauma they need to process. I’m really happy for you!
Lean into happiness! And best of luck to you.
That’s great but make sure you don’t significantly over-invest emotionally and don’t allow any bad behavior to start from her side. When another person makes us feel that amazing and that different, our boundaries can go out the window very easily. And that can hurt you real bad if the other person ever decides to take advantage of it (consciously or not). Otherwise congrats and gl!