TL; DR
In the past week, my bestie’s(F33) father (M70s) passed away. He had been in hospice for quite awhile and I knew it was quite a lot for her as she was his full time live in caregiver. She had been talking to her boyfriend (M39) for quite awhile about moving down but he would always drag his feet or find another excuse to not move down and be with her. They broke up several times cause of it but always got back together.
Well, a week after her father’s passing, he decided that he was ready to move on down and has moved in with her and mother (F70s) to “help” around the house. As a person whose passion is helping people through the death of loved one, this doesn’t sit with me right.
I know this is her probably grieving in a non-healthy manner but being the ultra protective bestie, I naturally worry. I want her to really grieve her dad’s death instead of being distracted by her boyfriend who finally made a decision after nearly a year of pulling his teeth to move down. Of course, I will sit back and support her even though deep in my heart, I worry for her and her mother cause this is another big life change right after one of the biggest life changes either of them have ever experienced.