Today I went thru my boyfriends phone again. We are working things out because he cheated on me (not physically) the entire relationship the first time we were together and We broke up back then and he begged to get back with me recently claiming he worked on himself for me and all these things claiming he had bad habits and was vulnerable on how he was texting other girls because he had problems with validation and he said it was nothing wrong on my end. I ended up slowly working my way to forgive him and we were getting back together. He was already calling me his gf again without asking me formally but he said he was gonna ask me formally soon. Fast forward to last night , I had an uneasy feeling . He was being distant again the way he was the last time we were togethrr (when he was busy texting girls all the time). I knew smt was up. I’d ask and he’d get defensive or reassure me(lie to me). It was different each time but I decided to go thru his phone anyway which was last night I found texts of him texting numbers calling them sexy and asking for their services . And there was a lot of numbers who he was asking for services. I had also found his tinder but whatever. I’m more freaked out by the “services” texts. He was definitely trying to PAY someone for sex or smt. I confronted him and he still tried lying to me saying it was just for massages and then he said it was building services for a couch. Obviously I didn’t believe him and I made it clear. He wasn’t even making sense. I don’t understand why he “tried” so hard to prove me he changed for me and tried so hard to get me back if he was just doing this stuff the whole time. Again. Not to mention he didn’t have a single good thing to say about me (yes my nosy ass searched my name in iMessage) his mom and sisters texts were filled with my name being dragged. I was honestly crushed by it all seeing it all at once idk how to feel. Last week we were arguing and he was spiraling- one second im the best person ever and he can’t live without me and the next second he’d tell me I’m inconsiderate and block me on everything and leave bc I’d try to talk about things that were bothering me and how I was feeling . I even tried approaching it different ways and it was always just an argument no matter how I tried to bring stuff up , not even to start problems but because I am someone who needs to talk things out with people, I’m not able to just get hurt and act like nothing happened. But the messages I saw last night were confirmation that my gut feeling was right. I just don’t understand why he tried so hard to get me back just to do this !!! He could’ve left me alone I was healing from our breakup finding out he cheated since the day we started dating till I found out- The entire time. I feel like shit honestly . He didn’t make it easy when I was confronting him abt it either he was playing all the cards saying how I am the only one that knows the real him, that he loves me and all this stuff . Like why!!!
TL;DR my bf cheated on me again but this time it’s with a prostitute. He never buys me dinner but is willing to pay for “services” from them.
Comments
Why are you still with him ?
My ex-sister in law lost her Mother to ovarian cancer. Which she got from the std’s her unfaithful husband had given her and went asymptomatic for a long time.
I suggest you save your own life from your partner, who doesn’t value it at all. Please dont let this man kill you.
Literally no reason to stay with him, do yourself a favour and do better for yourself
You already know what to do.
>I just don’t understand why he tried so hard to get me back just to do this !!!
I don’t want to rub salt in the wound here, but it’s highly unlikely you happened to catch him with just the one prostitute.
He’s probably been paying for sex the entire time you’ve been with him. You found multiple messages to multiple services. What you found is almost certainly the tip of the iceberg.
Sex with prostitutes and a relationship with you is not an “and/or” in his mind. Those are two things that he can do at the same time. People who cheat like that are able to compartmentalize in ways that other people can’t quite comprehend. He doesn’t have to stop “loving” you in order to have sex with a prostitute. He can hold both of those concepts in his mind simultaneously.
Anyway, hopefully you dump him. But if not, you need to start working regular STD checks into your life. Sorry.
i want you to stop and realize that he is putting your health at risk because he has so little consideration for you that he will go out and sleep with a SWer without telling you and giving you the opportunity to make choices for the safety of your own body. He might not have done it yet but that is exactly what he was at the very least about to do. There are so many diseases with long term consequences that can range from infertility, infection, cancer, failed immune system and death. so let me ask you, what are you doing with him? He seems to be completely immature and selfish along with having his own demons that he isnt really fighting all that hard.
if you dont dump him now, the next time you find out he is cheating could be when a doctor says your std bloodwork came back positive and you try to retrace how you could have gotten it. or you could find out when you are already married with a child. cut your losses now while they are relatively small and dont buy any of his pleas when he wants to come back. He wont change and he just proved it to you.
Goddamn, some of these posts are too easy. DUMP HIM! NEEEEEXT!
He should be your ex…. “Cheated again” should never be a norm you accept
Cheating on you again. Think about that. I’m not even reading your post.