My (24F) boyfriend (30M) of 6 months has been struggling to get hard, stay hard and struggling to come during sex. This has only been within the last week. We recently introduced a vibrator and it makes me really wet which I think makes it a little less pleasurable for him towards the end, but we can always wipe off halfway through if we need too. I think the biggest problem though is he’s too in his head. He is trying to preform for me and I’ve told him that I love having sex with him no matter what. I did mention that I like it more when he comes in me, but may have said it in the wrong way in the moment. I said that I wasn’t a fan of us masturbating next to each other after sex because it feels a little disconnected. Also, the second time we started having issues I asked him if I was doing something wrong, and he reassured me that it wasn’t me. But now I feel like I’ve put way too much pressure on him on accident.
We just tried to have sex an hour ago and he couldn’t get hard because he said he’s just way too in his head. I need advice on how to get him out of this rut. Should we watch porn? Do I reassure him even more? And should I try again tonight? Or should I give him more time? I just don’t want this to become a forever thing?
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It sounds like your bf might be masturbating on his own time or something is actually bothering him. I’d love to hear more details and try to help you out. I know it can be very frustrating. Send me a dm and let me know 🙂
finger in the bum
Smoke some weed beforehand
Get him on some L Citrulline powder (supplement commonly found in pre-workouts) 6g 1 hour before the deed. It’ll help him stay hard. Good luck
Honestly, the worst thing a women can say in bed is “What’s wrong?” or “Am i doing something wrong?”. I would prefer that she called me a slur over hearing those words.
Once in your head it’s tough to get little head to respond
Self fulfilling prophecy
Marry him that’ll fix it I was like that when me and my wife dated however I did always eventually finish but after we got married 2-3 mins tops I don’t last no time pisses me off!!
Just within the last week?
I usually struggle to get hard, stay hard and come during sex if I already had sex that day… especially if I’ve already had sex twice that day.
Just saying…