I need advice from an outsiders perspective on me and my bfs relationship. We get into very heated arguments that to be honest I
20F start because he does small things like not listening properly to what i have to say or completely dozing off or even things that he did in the past that i’m not over. For example, I was in a really bad mood today and tried my best to still control my anger. But then he 21M said “damn it!” really aggressively when i told him to keep hurrying. This argument dragged on for another couple hours because he didn’t understand what he did so wrong. I got really frustrated because it was like he was blaming me for being upset when it’s something i’ve been very clear i don’t like. I then started to hit him in the head, scratch him, and pull his hair. Before doing so I gave him an opportunity to redeem himself in which he just remained quiet. After hitting him, he left the car with my favorite water bottle throwing it on the ground repeatedly till it broke. Mind you we were in front of a restaurant in my hometown. I really hate when he does things like this in public because someone we know could be around us. I just need to know if I’m the one trippin and crazier or if he is.
TL;DR: I hit my bf and he left the car and broke my stuff in public.
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What in the world are you hitting your bf for? Stop taking advantage of the fact that you 2 are different genders. He could snap one day and fuck you up.
Both of you are in the wrong but you really are handling your bf poorly. If my gf hit me that would be the end of the relationship. Communicate better.
You are an unhinged abuser. Get help and leave your poor BF alone
Its likly a little of both, but what you did was way way worse. Get away from each other. For both of your sakes.
Do the world a favour… break up with your BF and never date another person again until you get professional help and have fixed things. You’re an abuser. You assaulted him. If I was is his shoes, I would leave immediately and then go and lay charges against you.
You should seek therapy immediately. Violence is never a reasonable response. You’re gonna end up with a DV charge on your record if you keep it up – and that’s best case because if a man snaps and hits you in response to the way you’re abusing him you could literally end up on life support.
You are completely unhinged and your boyfriend should get a RO on you.
It is your fault and you’re an abusive asshole. You have no problem hitting him, scratching him and pulling his hair in public but are then worried he might embarrass you by reacting to your abuse. Seek therapy and anger management and leave him ALONE. After apologizing.
And this, gentlemen, is why you never stick it in crazy!
You’re physically abusing your boyfriend. It is not acceptable to hit your partner. Scratch them. Or otherwise physically harm them. You are being abusive & you need to immediately stop putting your hands on him when you’re upset.
Seek counseling for your anger issues. It is never okay to hurt your partner when they make your upset. You are in the wrong.
He deserves better, even telling from your side of the story you sound bad.