Bf doesn’t seem to care that I’ve been sick

r/

I recently got sick, it started Sunday night with a sore throat and turned into me basically feeling like I was on deaths door. Fairly certain I’ve been running a fever, I asked my bf to please pick up a thermometer when he ran to target for soup. I know, I know, the fact that we don’t already have a thermometer is ridiculous but neither of us get sick very often besides me with my migraines. He came home with my soup and shredded cheese I asked for and some stuff for him but no thermometer. Also no lemon juice, which I needed to help soothe my throat (I like to do hot water, honey, and lemon juice and it works like a charm). He claimed he couldn’t find a thermometer anywhere but did not ask for help and did not think to go anywhere else to pick one up for me. I was annoyed but did not have the energy to fight with him about going back out to find one. Also I asked if he could rub my back the past couple nights in bed and he made it clear that he was in bed “to go to sleep” and not to rub my back.

Meanwhile my mom immediately ordered some things for me, and my best friend was so mad for me that yesterday she went to the store and bought me some meds and she even got me popsicles for my throat 😭 It just seems to me that if he genuinely cared that I was sick he would have tried harder??? This of course is not the first time he has let me down. I am at a loss and really don’t know how to navigate these feelings while also being so sick. I feel let down, touch starved, and disrespected all at once.

Comments

  1. Additional_Divide_22 Avatar

    He’s shown you he either doesn’t care about you, lacks empathy overall or both. Not a great prospect for long term. And I’d never want to have to tell someone they need to love me and take care of me.

  2. Jijibaby Avatar

    I got food poisoning and a guy that I had just started talking to took off work, made me soup, brought me water and stayed with me til I felt better. More than I expect out of someone that’s not my boyfriend in title. Bare minimum from a bf is getting you the items you need and checking on you.

  3. mawkish Avatar

    This could be a lack of care, or a lack of basic understanding of how to be a caring partner, but either way it’s unacceptable.

    I’m sure the episode will bring many other instances to mind where he has not prioritized you. Recognize it.