TLDR: I feel really disconnected from my partner for a variety of reasons, and I wonder if he’s trying to drift from me to soften the blow before leaving me.
So I (23f) have just moved in with my bf (21M) . His first time moving out. He moved 8 hours to be with me. Left all of his friends and family. It’s been hard on him , no doubt. But it’s kind of got me thinking whether he’s actually slowly pulling away from me? Here’s a few examples of why I feel that way
•he’s started to add and talk to a girl at his work (something he’s never ever done even before meeting me)
•he often doesn’t want to be touched
•he doesn’t have emotionally deep conversations with me
•on our first night a part in a month , he didn’t seem phased (this is probably a stretch, but I felt the distance very strongly and I guess he didn’t)
• he doesn’t really kiss me much
•we bicker ….a lot
•he doesn’t want to go out too much with me
•he seems really bothered by me and my interests. like he doesn’t really want to listen or be a part of them.
•every time i ask him to do something or i try to talk about our relationship, he shuts down and refuses to go deeper .
Idk what to do guys…am I ‘cooked’ as the kids say?
Comments
Don’t jump to what the cause is without talking to him.
Moving 8 hours away from all you’ve ever known can be really difficult. Try talking to him with your concerns and ask if he’s ok and what you can do to get through this together. Do this kindly if he wasn’t like this before the move.
If he was like this before the move, ask yourself why you want to be with someone who won’t listen to you when you talk. That sounds pretty rude.