We’ve been dating for past 5+ years well in starting he use to mention sometimes that he wants to have sex with someone female present in room and i always deny that thing.
Last year he asked for threesome by saying if I want it and i casually said “no” and said many relationships have been destroyed in both ffm or mmf.
Recently 2-3 days back he again asked me about it “let’s do it, let’s give it a try” I said “ok” then this time he said “we’ll take care that the third person will be a ‘Shemale’”.
I don’t know what to say i asked “why ?” He said “This third person won’t be creating trouble in relationship”
and I said “ok” but I am couldn’t stop thinking about it idk what is happening with him also I asked him
“Is he having physical craving for another girl?”
He said “No” then
I asked “which category you are ok with?”
He said “ffm and this shemalefm”
I am confused what to do? I need advices what is actually happening in his mind and about this all threesome thing.
Also IDK if I should trust him and do it or should I not?
Bf wants threesome?
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Leave that relationship, this feels like coercion
Say “no, I don’t want that, if you ask me again I will leave you” and then follow up and dump his toxic ass.
Yeah don’t do it
“No,” is a complete sentence. Many a relationship has been ruined by adding another person regardless of gender. Anyone in the trans community would be offended by the term she-male.. not sure he’s qualified to sleep with one if he can’t politely identify one.
Typically speaking a guy asked for a threesome when there is someone else he wants to sleep with but doesn’t want to cheat. If he’s not willing to go MMF then you shouldn’t be willing to go FFM.
Dump him so he can sleep with whoever he wants
Ask him MMF. He will say no
Some guys fantasize being in bed with three women.
If you agree next logical move would be polyamory
leave him. there is someone else that he is wanting to have sex with.
If you’re not sure or don’t want to, don’t say yes. His wishes are important, but are they worth it if they can negatively affect the relationship in the future?
Sounds heavily like he’s already been chatting with this shemale person and already had something set up. Just figured since it wasnt a full male/female that you’d be more down with it. Idk, that’d be a red flag for me or my wife tbh
It reads like he watches a lot of porn. If you’re not comfortable with a threesome or the type of third he wants to do a threesome with don’t do it! There’s no un checking this box. A threesome should be done on level ground and in confidence with all parties in mutual agreement. You’re not there and that’s ok.
Quickest way to ruin a relationship… having a threesome. It’s not as good as he’s fantasizing it will be.. especially since his girlfriend has to be convinced/coerced I to doing it. Stand your ground and don’t do it if you don’t want to do it. If he’s too immature to let it go you might want to think about getting out of the relationship. He can easily go on Reddit and read the countless tales of three ways ruing relationships. They aren’t that enjoyable anyways and it’s not going to be like how porn movies depict it. He’s having a fantasy that he thinks is doable in real life. It’s a delusion. Some fantasies are best left as fantasy.
While are you agreeing to this? Are you a toy to him? Leave this relationship asap. He is manipulating you.
Show up with another guy
Don’t do it if you don’t want to. Trust me, it will be way worse than you think.
Bring her sister with a strap-on to do the deed
that will quell his thirst