Boyfriend says he wants to fuck other people
I am 27F and my boyfriend is 30M. We have been dating a little over a year and he has broken up with me multiple times over the last year saying he wants to fuck everything and claims to be hypersexual. He says he’ll see people in the grocery store or at work or hot moms and thinks about fucking them. He even says he might be poly, but when I asked if he would be okay with me fucking other people, he said no. (I don’t want a poly relationship, I just wanted to put it in perspective for him). I know this relationship is over but he always comes crawling back to me after a week or so. And we always seem to be doing really good and then the thoughts creep back in his head. I feel like I treat him so well and we are happy. Idk why he wants to fuck other women when he has me & we have great sex & seem content in the bedroom? It just hurts 🙁
Tl;dr boyfriend loves me but wants other people
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He sounds like a sex addict but since his behavior is so creepy and off-putting no other woman will have him so he crawls back to the one who will.
Why do you want to make this relationship work?
You can do better.
He is a foolish slave to his genitals and lust.
Would you be happier with him constantly bringing you suffering than you would be being alone (worst case scenario)?
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Get the hell out of there. He is clearly using you as a second option since he cannot fulfill his sexual relations with other people.
He’s just an immature dude that hasn’t figured out his priorities in life. Forget his ass and move on
Breaking up multiple times in a year should be enough to end it. You can’t have a healthy relationship like that. Add him wanting to fuck other people.. you can do better. Find someone capable of loving and respecting you.
Break up with him and find someone that doesn’t want to fuck other people. What is the question?
So basically you’re the backup plan then. When he thinks he has the rizz to get other women he breaks up with you, then he realises that none of them want to listen to his bullshit so he comes crawling back and love bombs you till he gets bored again then has another go and fails again then back he crawls.
Your boyfriend loves sexual gratification more than he loves you. Is this what you are willing to accept? You can’t do it without negatively impacting your own self esteem.
You should let him fuck anybody he can convince to put up with his sorry ass.
“We always seem to be doing really good” how so? He constantly breaks up with you or makes you want to break up with him. A relationship is more than a fun week or two, it’s building trust and commitment. This sounds like an unserious fling, and if it’s making you uncomfortable it’s time to say goodbye for good
He may love you, but he doesn’t love you enough. Why are you settling for second place behind his sex addiction?
Your boyfriend has a double standard for your behaviour versus his: if it’s okay for him to fuck around, it should be okay for you to do the same (if you want to).
You have said that you don’t want an open or poly relationship. That is your right. If you are not both on the same page, the relationship is doomed.
He sounds immature, and unable to commit. I’d run, as quickly as possible.
Your person is still out in the world waiting for you, I promise, don’t waste your precious life on someone who will destroy you, because your beautiful future awaits you
Run
Now
OP, stop dating with this man. Stop having sex with him. No, he does not love you or respect you or whatever you tell yourself.
You don’t need to be theorizing on reddit why he wants to sleep with other people. Truly. It’s not about you and it doesn’t matter.
Just break up. Then get therapy, so you stop dating men like this.
May not be the space for the actual relationship you are thinking of or at least not in a healthy way. I feel we all get like this now and again
A sex addict & multiple breakups? Sis, come on.
Hes not gonna change. So you need to decide whether you want the rest of your life to be dictated by his (apparently very emotional) dick and let him keep breaking up with you when he can’t control himself. You are not compatible people.