so the first time this happened was over a year ago, early 2024. I was on a discord call with two of his friends around my age and we were playing some video games per usual (this had become sort of common for us since we liked the same games). and quite literally out of no where they start making comments about how im flat and have nothing and start giggling about it/cracking jokes like i wasn’t there ? genuinely to this day cannot understand how we got there. anyways i never told my bf bc frankly its incredibly embarrassing and i dont want him to make a big deal of it and blow things up. however, fast forward to yesterday and it happens again with a completely different friend. i remember making a joke about how he was opening a straw in a funny way over his “tits” and he also makes a comment about him at least having tits and that im probably jealous of that fact ? this was said right in front of my bf who said absolutely nothing, which hurt. my mood was off for the entire night afterwards for obvious reasons, and my bf picked up on it. he wanted to know why i was so sad bc it was making him sad. but i don’t know how to approach this conversation with him. i really don’t want him to talk to the guys that said these things bc to me that’s just embarrassing and not productive.. but it seems like a weird coincidence that multiple friends feel comfortable enough commenting on my body like this. how can i talk to him about this without sounding whiny and convey the fact that i don’t want him to discuss this with the guys that said stuff?
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The title is enough for me to give my opinion. I don’t even need to read the rest.
Leave him. My man would never allow any other man OR his friends to crack jokes on me, ever. Not even behind my back or in front of me. All of his friends treat me with the up most respect. If his friends don’t respect you, he doesn’t either and HE definitely talks about you negatively behind your back.
He either doesn’t have any kind of spine to stand against his friends or he agrees with them. Either way, red flag behaviour.