This last year has been pretty much awful because my health has sucked. But I’m (F) finally done with chemo, my scans are good and blood tests show no cancer so yay!
Tomorrow is my forty something birthday and the thing I wanted the most was for my parents (Dad and stepmom), who live two hours away and I haven’t seen in over two years, to come visit and go out for lunch or dinner. That’s it, nothing fancy. My step brother lives with them and can take care of their animals so my partner and I even offered to get them a room at a nice hotel a few blocks from our place so they could stay overnight and not have to rush back (our house is very small and we don’t have a guest room), but they declined. Going up there is not something I’m physically able to do right now because my body is still a bit of a mess and sitting in a car for several hours isn’t something I can comfortably do; they also have four poorly behaved massive dogs and I’m not interested in finding out if my ileostomy bag will hold up to dog nails or risking injury to my stoma.
I can literally count on one hand the number of times my parents have visited me in my entire life going all the way back to college and I’ve never lived more than a 5hr drive from them. They have the ability to travel hours for work or day trips and even drive to the next state go buy a new car but they haven’t visited me. Meanwhile we haven’t even had a solid road trip reliable car in years so the last few times I went up I had to rent a car for the trip. It just really hurts that I’m always the one who has to do all the damn work.
I don’t really even know why I’m posting this, I guess maybe it would just be nice to know I’m not the a-hole here.