Black tie weddings are selfish and exclude guests

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Requiring people to rent/buy tuxes for your wedding is selfish—don’t make your aesthetic more important than your friends’ budgets. I have a friend’s wedding to go to but shelling out that kind of dough makes me so angry.

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  2. DescriptionOne8197 Avatar

    We eliminated all these problems by getting married in Vegas. Just the 2 of us. No debt no regrets.

  3. Chrischris40 Avatar

    True fuck that shitt

  4. GreenIll3610 Avatar

    It costs about 150 to rent a tux. Even if the dress code was regular suit and tie, it would cost you about 300 dollars minimum to buy a suit jacket and slacks.

  5. PeterMus Avatar

    People don’t actually respect the dress code. I’ve been to events where the black tie dress code is very aggressively communicated, and people show up in a t shirt and shorts.

  6. raidersps2 Avatar

    Agree. But I think it’s dumb because now your wedding looks like a corporate event

  7. DowntownSasquatch420 Avatar

    Women make weddings competitive. Most guys honestly couldn’t care less. You could sit here and tell that’s sexist, but it’s true.

    “Susie had an ultra expensive wedding with an expensive dress code and didn’t make me a bridesmaid, so I deserve the same wedding and won’t make her a bridesmaid at mine!!”

    Meanwhile, dudes just want to know if a cooler of beer is attending.

  8. proffesionalproblem Avatar

    Not everyone means tuxedos and ball gowns with black tie. Usually black tie wedding means no jeans, no sneakers, wear a tie, etc.

  9. TiredReader87 Avatar

    I’ve never been to one, but I’d rather not. I’d rather not go to weddings anyhow.

  10. SeanThatGuy Avatar

    Weddings are completely optional events that are specifically about two people and their vision of their special day.

    It kinda seems like the day they can be a little selfish. Because it’s their wedding they’re paying for and all.

    No one’s forcing you to go to a wedding.

  11. MalfoyHolmes14 Avatar

    People get to decide what they want for their wedding. It’s not about the guests. It’s about the couple. Don’t go if you can’t afford something to wear.

  12. Miserable_Ground_264 Avatar

    Don’t go. They won’t miss you.

  13. InfidelZombie Avatar

    I’ll never get married because I think it’s kind of silly, but a wedding is your day and you should have every opportunity to realize your dream on that day. You should also not be offended by the rejection that comes with it

  14. Uhhyt231 Avatar

    Just talk to the couple