I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. We’ve shared a lot—moved to a foreign country together for our work, been through ups and downs, and I truly believed he was my person. I’ve always loved him deeply and tried my best to show that in every possible way.
I’ve had a rough last year—I lost my way in life, felt like a failure, and hoped he’d be there for me the way I would be for him if the roles were reversed. But instead, I was left feeling alone and abandoned. Over time, I felt us growing distant. He no longer seems interested in spending time with me, doesn’t try to show love or affection, and I’m constantly left feeling alone in this relationship. Even after all this, I feel like a fool who never stopped loving him.
Recently, things have shifted even more. He told me he feels “bored” in the relationship and doesn’t see a future with me. At the same time, he keeps saying he still loves me, wants to still be with me and doesn’t want to break up. He admitted that he’s been a bad partner lately, distant and careless with my feelings, but also said he doesn’t know if it’s worth putting in the time and effort to work things out. He thinks this could just be a phase—but he’s unsure, confused, and keeps contradicting himself. Now I’m stuck wondering: is this just a rough patch that we can grow through, or is this his way of slowly letting go?
He has asked me for a little time to clear his head as he could be overthinking. But I don’t know if I should wait for him to figure it out or walk away with the little pride I have left. I still love him and its just so hard to accept the fact that the course of our relationship is coming to an end. I know I deserve so much more than this, I just need the confidence to leave.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? What did you do? How are you doing now? Any advice could help me make this decision really.
TL;DR:
In a 2-year relationship. He says he loves me but feels bored and doesn’t see a future in the relationship. He’s distant, unsure, and asked for time. I feel alone, and don’t know if I should wait or walk away?
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You deserve better than this. It sounds like you should immediately start diverting your energy back towards yourself that you are investing in him and the relationship. small steps if it’s hard but focus on your needs, health and well being. Shore up your friendships as well. Working on yourself will make you more attractive in general whether it’s with him or with someone new. Ultimately only you can decide what the line of self respect is that demands you end things.